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Welcome to the Turning Tavern II: Now in 3D

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Gay40 · 18/04/2012 12:11

Welcome!

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Crushinghard · 29/04/2012 00:29

G40, I think you should go on mastermind with 'women on the turn' as your specialist subject. :)

likeatonneofbricks · 29/04/2012 00:29

yes, but Gay's chased her very actively, and in case of sleep's we still don't know whether it will become sexual or stay platonic (I hope they'll live together happily ever after, but no guarantees). Again sleep's is at least in love with her platonically already and it happened quickly.
G40 it's exactly wiq's no nonsense personality that makes me pessimistic about her 'secret attraction'.

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Gay40 · 29/04/2012 00:29

The ex MrsG is still gay. If that's any help.

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Gay40 · 29/04/2012 00:30

I haven't chased anyone actively.

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Gay40 · 29/04/2012 00:31

I don't think Bolls's WIQ has a secret attraction. I think she is just "well, if it happens, it happens, in its own good time, je ne regrette rien, no rushing, what's the hurry. what will be will be" etc.

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likeatonneofbricks · 29/04/2012 00:31

I said your Mrs did! where's polly's dng wiq isn't chasing her.

pollyblue · 29/04/2012 00:32

No, that's what I mean, how has it worked out that two have turned for you with no active chasing on your part? You must be doing something, even subconsciously.

likeatonneofbricks · 29/04/2012 00:32

'Gay's Mrs' I meant

pollyblue · 29/04/2012 00:33

To be fair, The Bolter is so laissez faire and disorganised she'll be late for her own funeral.

pollyblue · 29/04/2012 00:33

Likea she did physically run after me once Grin

likeatonneofbricks · 29/04/2012 00:33

G40 - for two years it hasn't happen, do you really think polyy should wait for a 'maybe' forever?

MumblingFanjoChops · 29/04/2012 00:34

So much has happened since I last post.
It's really lovely to see how much you are all helping each other.
Welcome to the newcomers too.
I've signed up to a dating site but I am not entirely sure what my next move is, I know something is missing in my relationship.I'm young but I feel like I am running out of time to be who I want to be and I'm concerned about the damage that I may cause, and whether it's better for me to be unhappy and everyone else have what they want. But on the subject of first kisses, mine with a woman was amazing,I've not experienced anything like it since.

pollyblue · 29/04/2012 00:35

And it did turn out she was waiting for her ex to move out before going for a drinkie with me, and that only happened 2 months ago.

pollyblue · 29/04/2012 00:35

good evening Mumbing!

Crushinghard · 29/04/2012 00:36

I think Gay must be some kind of lesbian siren, luring the straight women to her own sapphic island.

likeatonneofbricks · 29/04/2012 00:37

yes polly i know, that wasn't romantic was it. If she felt attraction she'd at least seek your company more often, i really don't get it why G is championing her - the chance anything would happen is extremely remote, and these things do happen quicker. Also if she still haven't felt strongly enough why on earth would that change? never came across a case in my life where it took me two yrs to start fancying someone strongly.

pollyblue · 29/04/2012 00:37

I need her to give me some hints, and quickly - we've only got another 44 posts before this thread blows up....

pollyblue · 29/04/2012 00:38

sorry Likea what wasn't romantic?

likeatonneofbricks · 29/04/2012 00:42

polly, really we agreed to stop guessing - if you think she's attracted then ask, she wouldn't deny it. She can tell you whether she fancies you or not, as we aer going on circles here. I don't thionk that someone as no nonsense would tell you she wasn't gay and didn't mean. If Gay thinks that you can magically turn on the light if it's not there, well that might be based on her own powers, but not true for most people!

MumblingFanjoChops · 29/04/2012 00:44

Hi Polly
I think it is a little past the evening now!
I'd imagine it's best to go down the open and honest route, that way you can say you definitely tried, if it is something she needs to think about more than she could let you know but more importantly and for your own sanity, just say what you mean and what you feel you need to say. x

likeatonneofbricks · 29/04/2012 00:44

running after you. probably wanted to ask smth. what did she do - say to you 'don't go'? {grin}

likeatonneofbricks · 29/04/2012 00:45

oh thank you Mumbling! another voice from planet Earth, to add to zombie's and mine!

pollyblue · 29/04/2012 00:45

She thought I was leaving without saying goodbye to her. So yes, it was rather sweet in a way.

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Gay40 · 29/04/2012 00:45

Christ, I haven't got any powers Confused

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likeatonneofbricks · 29/04/2012 00:49

I'm actually quite annoyed with Gay, for all my liking of her. She wouldn't want to be on receiving end of someone who is not attracted, might be attracted at a remote point in the future, no nonsense character whoreaid she asn't interested, but advises polly to do it. We care about polly aren't we, not about the wiq and her wishes! If wiq wanted to get involved she WOULD even after polly asked/told her directly, she really has nothing to lose. Whether it's done sober or drunk it's polly's choice.