The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Staying Springy In Their Quest For Sobriety.

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Hello, I'm Mouse I have an shockingly abusive relationship with alcohol, mainly vodka.

This Bus is full of drinkers, non-drinkers, thinkers and Babes, all trying to find their way to a happy, sober life.

Some are there, some are almost there and some are not. It really doesn't matter, we're all in this together.

Why not find a seat? Everyone is welcome, drinking or drunk, come and say hello.

HERE is the previous thread, with a link to all of the other wonderful journeys so far............

venus thank you for your input. You're right, it is hard work, but I'm not sure I'm ready to give it up totally.

I'm going to try and get into really good habits over the next few months, say until my birthday in July, and if it still feels like bloody hard work I will think again.

[hugs] to everyone on and off the bus!

mouse it's OK, it's all OK. For tonight, no need to worry, just rest in the arms of our bus xx

Digs out the raclette machine and wonders if mouse is particularly partial to gooey melted cheese. Does this bus have a fag lighter I can plug it into?

seems I need to think before I type sober too!

That was a fun one to try an explain to my American cousins last time I was over there!

Sorry!

On the subject of human kindness, I read a quote today, "People will forget what you said. People will forget what you did. But people will never forget how you made them feel". I quite like that one.

And totally unrelated, I like this one as well "We women are Angels and when someone breaks our wings we continue to fly . . . on a broomstick. We're flexible like that"

Well, I read this and I thought of all of us....

"I do not stand alone
But with others to support me, I will stand my ground.
I do not see the way
But with others to walk it with me, I can make a path.
I do not possess the truth
But with others to witness to what they know, I will be able to discern what is right.
I cannot master all skills
But with others who will lend their accomplishments, I can do enough.
I cannot carry every burden
But with others to share it, I may bear my own load.
I cannot meet all needs
But with others to nourish and replenish me, I will be able to give enough.
I do not have limitless free choice
But with others to consult, I will make my own choices gladly.
I will not always be consistent
But with others to laugh at me, I will regain my equanimity.
I am not invincible
But with others to reach out a hand, I may learn from my mistakes and start again.
I cannot be perfect
But with others to make up the shortfall of my imperfections, I can be content to be good enough."
Nicola Slee et al.

venus you must frame that last one and put it up on the bus. Maybe silver could print it on every ticket. Where is silver by the way?
isindie your comment about the fag lighter made me laugh out loud. Nice one! Feel better soon.

I thought so, have read too much AIBU though .

Night night. Off to bed myself soon, was slightly easier tonight, hardest bit was cooking the roast without a glass of chilled white, but here I am, sober again!

Thanks to you all! x

did anyone else read the post in AIBU to think my sister may be an alcoholic and worry that it might be about them?!

No joey cause I'd never stay with my sister!

I did indeed :) Except I don't have a sister, and I drink more than a bottle a night in any event. I expect the alcoholic sister does too - sounds like it, don't you think? Just from the behaviour.

It's the element of concealment that got me down. I knew fine well that everyone would think that the amount I drank would cause serious concern. So my (messed-up) solution was to conceal the amount I drank. Everyone wins! No actually, everyone loses.

I didn't resist the lure of the white wine. I had two glasses before dinner and just managed to resist the temptation of a third.

So much for my non-drinking Sunday.

Slink back in, ducky

I wish I'd stopped after a couple of glasses today but I didn't, and I can't. Roll on Friday, after which, hopefully I won't ever be able to drink again. Until then I sort of feel permitted to drink, which is entirely the wrong way of thinking.

that's okay mia, I've had a couple too. Will definitely be back on the bus tomorrow

(instead of madly pedalling behind on my bike like tonight)

(or last night when I was lying in the gutter)

Thanks both.

Today I will not be drinking.

NonAstemia

Well that's great! Look - today you will not be drinking. You drank far far less than usual this weekend and for nearly two weeks before that. Choose to be proud and feel positive.

I think if you can possibly help not tying yourself in knots over what and when you will drink that will help you emotionally and psychologically...easier said than done though I do realise that!!!

I'm on Day 14 hurrah! But after this week, I have a plan in place and that is I allow myself no more than 2 bottles of wine a week. So whether that's half a bottle Thurs to Sun or a blow out on Sat and Sun - that's fine (for me). I am also allowing myself drinks when I go out (not any excuse 'go out', but a dinner or party or whatever two or three times a month) so will have a weekend off if I do this. Now I know I find a booze free weekend fine then I hope this will be ok.
I think doing this will hopefully not mean I am thinking 'shall I drink today or not', iyswim.

But this is a very personal journey, even though we are all in it together, and I am not wanting or needing to give up entirely...I don't think.

Venus/SAF

Thanks for your thoughts. Hope 'I'm not an alcoholic' didn't sound as defensive and smug as I fear!

I know what you mean though Venus - if thinking about drinking is taking up all this headspace then...ya know!

To everyone struggling really hope you have a good day.

Morning all. Definitely no boing here. Another sleepless night and booze free hangover

I hope my body gets the message soon!

Morning everyone

Just popping in and out, I have been away for a few days, I have kept a firm grip on my ticket, though .

Sending love to all, back longer, later.

xxxx

Morning All

Tiptoes around bus giving out pain killers and various restorative drinks for those in need (nice herbal one for Mia)

Today is Monday, new week & all that.

Today is exactly one month for me (don't count 2 glasses of bubbly at BFFs birthday bash ).

Can't believe it, feel so much better (even with pseudo hangover over weekend ). Didn't even realise it was a month until I saw calendar as I've kinda stopped counting. That's a good thing right?

Love to all. Mouse, am sending Tom the cat to make sure you don't leave the bus!