Time wasters need not apply, Soul Soothers come hither Dating Chat Part 11

[hatesponge]

Ta-da! Think this is the first one I've started.

I am still feeling somewhat feisty. Told my team off at work for being too noisy and was generally stroppy. Might have to go and start a row in AIBU or something!

So, dating, as you were etc

Not forgetting of course that I have a second date at the weekend!

sponge would you contact him first saying what a great time you had ? He might be waiting to hear from you :)

Time single for a year, your right though even if i have to ask lots of questions about his sporting activities it could possibly be worth it :o

Afternoon everyone. Congrats Sponge!

I'm renaming Mr Friday Night to Mr Poorly. I didn't hear from him at all yesterday and didn't text him either. Today he sent me a message saying "Sorry I've not been in touch, I'm still so ill, don't know what's wrong with me :( "

If only he knew me I'm completely intolerant of anyone being ill (even when my kids are ill I tell them to man up and get on with it ) and every "poorly" text he sends me is another nail in the coffin for him. It's actually becoming quite amusing now.

Hi chicken , ha ha i can't do poorly either! Also telling me about their medical conditions on a first date is a bit of a put off. First one told me about his dodgy tummy he had had for days and the second one told me all about his nasal polyps WTF !!!

Maybe I shouldn't warn people I am epileptic then? I always add but its really well.controlled. my "just friends" knows a fair bit, the epilepsy, pnd, pcos, the ex well some of it, and I got a message saying he misses me, and I text back me too, and we both need a hug.... I need a kiss too though, and we all know where that leads too don't we, especial ad he always cones to mine.

No Miracle, that's completely different. That's not like telling someone you have just met about your 'runny bottom' . I'm not making light of people's actual conditions, i have suffered with depression and if i really liked someone of course i would tell them. That's different from a man talking to me for an hour about his ingrown toenail.

Now that is just boring, and stupid, I mean there are plenty of little thongs we have wrong, all of us, an achey bacjlk, knee etc. I want my "just friend" as more than a friend. Drat stupid me, still I love his hugs. Close and tight, in a non groping way.

Annielove - delighted for you! (even though we have never met and you're just here! ). It takes a big bunch of balls courage to get back into it, I wish you well!

Couple of messages on Okc For me, some potential, I will get around to replying tomorrow... PM on the way overs for wine after a three week silence, funny how some people you can just pick right up with again. Must slide the proposition from the 22 year old into the conversation. ;-). I am mnot bothering with make up, he isn't worth the effort ( frantically tidies up and bleaches toilet....).

I like friendships like that snape, the one's that don't need maintenance to be maintained. They are special

I'm chatting to a 'normal' one on POF! An architect who likes conversation, seems witty and funny and He. Is. Tall!! Not what I would usually go for, not what I would consider attractive, I don't think, but... he seems ok. And, he is quite local. Wonders will never cease!

Oh my gosh! And another one Tall, articulate, looks pretty good for his age, 51. I wonder if my time has come

Time a good conversationalist! That's a rare thing on POF He might be better looking than his photos in real life (someone has to be, to make up for all the ones who look so much worse than theirs!

No text for me. Bugger. I am not going to be upset though. I had a nice time and he is stupid, I don't want a stupid man who can't see how great I am and thinks he can do better (unlikely).

Sponge his name is patchofbluesky have a look and see what you think. He has 3 photo's, 2 I don't mind what I see but one I do. You can guarantee that will be the one that is a true likeness The other one is letsfindtruelove but it seems his pic his private. He has sent me a lovely message though and I do like the look of him. He has no hair, in a sexy way, I like that!

Maybe the sexy scot is just tired sponge, maybe he is still recovering Why don't you text him? I would. I don't get all this 'wait for a text' stuff. I like to be proactive. I also like to know where I stand!

Thanks snape sorry i know i just popped up!! but all your stories have been so entertaining. I'm really shy and i can't believe i had the guts to go! but i keep thinking i'm 46 ,the kids are growing up and i have to do something. What is it with all the 20 yr olds messaging us mature ladies on POF ??

The young ones like us older ones Annie, seems we know what we are doing I don't think at 47 I know any more of what I'm doing than I did at 27, but I'm not about to shatter their dreams.

Ha ha, i was with my husband for 27 yrs so experience wise i am rather lacking but hopefully i can make up for that in time .My husband on the other hand practiced all through our marriage , w.....ker!

Can I join you? STBXH and I have been separated since last Feb but he didn't leave until Sept. We'd been together for 18 years and was pretty much the only person I'd been out with so I'm a bit lost when it comes to dating.

I've just started thinking that I'm ready to date but that I'll never meet anyone so internet dating it might have to be.

I joined POF - don't know why just saw it mentioned somewhere, and have had a few messages but it all seems so wierd, I've not really managed to get into a conversation.

Any good advice?

Time the second photo looks ok, he just needs a decent haircut and to lose the dodgy facial hair Eyes and teeth look good (this sounds like I'm judging a horse!) I think he might be worth a coffee and an hour of your time maybe? Or is the other one floating your boat more?

I'm not going to text the Scot, not yet anyway :) He was working from 5 today so maybe I'll let him off. Last night he was saying how nervous he was about meeting me, how he didn't think I'd like him, couldn't believe I did etc. He doesn't seem the sort not to contact me, but...going to go and have a bath and stop thinking about it!

ninja i was exactly the same , it is strange to start with, i'm still new to it but it is a good distraction . Just message back if you like the look of someone , try and treat it as just some fun :)

Sponge that made me laugh! . I've come to pretty much the same conclusion as you re the first one. I think the other one may be floating my boat more but I'm not sure if I should allow him to. The first one is 'different' to my 'type' whereas the second one is older, looks nice but steady, and steady is what I would normally go for, if memory serves me correctly . Plus, the second one is looking for a soul mate, someone to share his life and probably his house and bed with, whereas I am looking for a soul mate but also to keep my own house/bed/freedom.

Oh I think we can excuse The Scot for not texting if he is working. He may well have been sleeping right up until he had to go to work.

Annie and ninja it all felt weird to me too when I first started out. I actually felt as though I was betraying The Ex too, even though he had been an abusive arse

certainly not betraying the ex - he had a girlfriend stright awa y (and possibly before). Didn't even have the guts to tell me, told my friend's husband instead!

I've been trying to messgae a few people - I think it's like swimming, just need to jump in don't I! If I leave it any longer anyone will start to look good ;)

Just found someone who looks quite nice :)

Have got a date for Saturday :) And in the day time which I think is much better than the evening for a first date. Think I may need to dye my grey hairs a little before then (they need doing anyway but this is spurring me on ).

annie and ninja I left my ex on November and didn't know where to start. I got onto here and went from there. I have had some good dates, some fantastic ones, Thursday for example and some let downs. But on the upside I have met some nice blokes who gave restored ny faith in male kind.
I felt a little bad st first then reminded myself what he did and felt better. I sm 23 and was married 6 years. My just friend text to say he can't wait to see me, friends or could this be more possibly?

Just for those who don't know my "just friends" was ny first internet date.

Miracle that all makes it worth continuing..saw my ex today, had a little cry but later received a text from 2nd internet date, Mr boring but amazing kisser and felt much better!

It is worth continuing. Course it is, I had a good old cry last night, flash backs and bad memories resurfaced but o wrote them down and feel ok now, and spookily my "just friends" text me a little while after asking if I was settled. I needed that text right at that moment and everything felt better. I am sure I will tell him more in time, whether it be as lovers or friends, sigh I just want to snuggle up with him on a sofa watching a film, kissing, crying, laughing, together. Maybe that will never happen with him, bit a girl can dream. I had no instant spark but by god I think about him a lot.