Time wasters need not apply, Soul Soothers come hither Dating Chat Part 11

[hatesponge]

Ta-da! Think this is the first one I've started.

I am still feeling somewhat feisty. Told my team off at work for being too noisy and was generally stroppy. Might have to go and start a row in AIBU or something!

So, dating, as you were etc

Not forgetting of course that I have a second date at the weekend!

Oh god, the last guy I was seeing for about a year, never actually made it into a relationship as one of us would always back off!
I ended it by text a couple of weeks ago he has just got in contact after a couple of weeks!! God I could really do with some action right now

Does anyone else get messages from people with obvious conversation constipation?

"Hi, what you upto?" What can you reply to that really? I'm obviously on my laptop!
"How are you?" what can you put here other than "fine thanks, you?"
"Hows it going?" fan-fucking-tastic

Urgh it's like blood from a stone.

I had one conversation where he kept saying "have you anything else to ask me?" when I really didn't and then after I typed nothing for about 5 minutes said " have you gone off me then?" I then realised it was time to switch off my computer and do something else instead,

Well, I've just got home

It was a good date

I am awaiting your detailed update!

You dirty stop out, you!

I have to go out shopping & then to lunch with friends. I would far prefer another few hours sleep!

In brief: He's lovely, very complimentary - but not in a creepy way! He looks a bit like the Evil Ex but in personality & mannerisms is v like my Nice Ex. The accent is not too bad, I only had to ask him to repeat what he'd said on a couple of occasions . He dropped me home this morning.

There are no guarantees but I hope I will get to see him again, he said he wants to see me. So we shall see.

Hatesponge that sounds very promising!

I need to man up! been messaging/texting my friends cousin all weekend. He hasnt asked me out but Im getting lots of signs that he likes me.

Think Im getting a bit over involved with someone Ive only met a handful of times and who I havent even been out on a date with!!! Im crap at this. Shall I hint more/ask him out? He is completely not my time but then my type usually turn out to be horrible

Place marking. Sponge sounds promising, hope he keeps in touch.

Twinkle, I would wait until he asked me out tbh but no harm in hinting.

Got to fly, have to go on another long journey.

I tend to hint and get asked. Glad you date went well sponge my "just friends" is coming over Wednesday night.

Not sure what to wear a dress seems too much for just friends, so maybe skin tight jeans and a very low showy slightly sexy top?

Right will hint then, also will wait for him to text first (although this is requiring lots of will power!)

Also marking place.

sponge agree with the other's, very promising

MLM wear something you'll feel comfortable in.

Definitely hint. Start with somethin like we should catch up soon, it seems to be working for me.

I feel comfortable with him no matter what I wear even naked I feel confident around him.

Hatesponge - that sounds great! Hope he gets in touch again.

Twinkle - you could ask him (in a casual way) if he'd like to go out for a drink. If he says yes, then great, and if he doesn't, at least you know he's probably not interested and you can move on. (Though I have to admit I'm a wimp and would probably wait for him to ask me first!)

Sponge, I am soooo very pleased for you! I do hope you hear from him again, as everyone has said, it does sound promising. I bet you are walking around with a smile on your face today, regardless

This thread has made me laugh sooooo much. First time i've laughed out loud since my delightful husband left us before Christmas. I know its early days for me but decided to get straight back out there, to sort of distract me from killing him!!. First date arrived in full combat gear and hair he could sit on!! The second one was tall,dark and handsome but soooo boring. Mind you i let him kiss me and it was the best kiss i have ever had in my life!!! Not that i have kissed anyone apart from my husband for the last 27 yrs. What now?? do i see him again and hope he grows on me , personality wise of course :o

YES!!! Oh yes. I could tolerate boring if there was a good snog at the end of it. Right now I would tolerate 'in a coma' if he came out of it for 5 minutes to give me a good kiss!

Tell us more Annie, in what way was he boring?

Time I'm very pleased for me too . I have been grinning like a Cheshire Cat all day. Am sooo tired though. And slightly hungover.

I do really hope to hear from him. If I don't he is a complete fool, because I am great and he very clearly fancied me a lot. BUT realistically whatever happens he lives in Scotland and is only here (on & off) til the end of the summer. So if I don't hear it's not the end of the world. But I would like to :)

Annie I'd say there's chemistry there. And I do like a man who is good at kissing (disappointingly many are not!). I'd see him again if I were you - he might have been nervous. See what he's like on a second date - though if the conversation doesn't improve depends on the kissing is good enough to compensate for it!

Sponge being here on and off sounds perfect to me And things change, if things develop between you, well, things will change. Either you will become our ScottishSponge or he will become SpongesScot! Ooh I do hope you hear from him, I really am so very pleased for you

He's working every day for the next 2 weeks - he was showing me his rota last night. And when I said oh, that means I cant see you again for 2 weeks (I was a bit drunk, wouldn't have said that sober!) he said no, but we can keep in touch, and text and call each other.. .which I thought sounded good. Gah, must not overanalyse. What will be, will be etc.

Lol at ScottishSponge! Scotland is far too cold for me, I'd have the heating on all year round. Whereas he was wearing shorts today (it really is not that warm here!)

Well... he told me everything there is to know about cricket and golf and he doesn't smoke or drink and isn't really into music. I drove home with my music blaring really loudly, got in smoked 5 fags and consumed 3 large glasses of J D and coke ( i am trying to give up smoking though!!!) He thinks holidays are a waste of money, i LOVE holidays, ....but the kiss was amazing!!!! and he did sent me a text saying 'morning beautiful' which kind of made me feel good as my husband always made me feel i wasn't good enough!!

I suppose he is used to wearing a skirt with nothing on underneath, he must have been quite warm in shorts. It does seem really positive sponge, I hope he keeps his word.

Annie Sounds like he is stuck in a bit of a rut. How long has he been single? Anyway, all those things are what he likes/doesn't like as a single person, when he is part of a couple he will have to compromise and bend over backwards to please you. I would hang on in there simply for the amazing kiss-- to see if any change was forthcoming. If there wasn't and if I was still being driven to drink and fags by his boring attitude to life then I would dump him. After having one final kiss, of course

Time I think so but I am such a cynic now I also think you can't really tell. All I do know is he did like me, and if I don't now hear from him it's not because I spent the night with him, or anything I did wrong, but simply because he is an idiot

indeed sponge, indeed.