Time wasters need not apply, Soul Soothers come hither Dating Chat Part 11

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Ta-da! Think this is the first one I've started.

I am still feeling somewhat feisty. Told my team off at work for being too noisy and was generally stroppy. Might have to go and start a row in AIBU or something!

So, dating, as you were etc

Not forgetting of course that I have a second date at the weekend!

No, it is not you at all. I would have gone into meltdown by now. Just tell him where you'll be at a specific time & leave it at that. Say you are in meetings for the rest of the afternoon, so you'll see him there.

Agree with Post

I'll meet you in x at 7.30pm, see you then.

i cant even be arsed now. ive been put off. could you even imagine trying to organise something like a second date or a trip out or soemthng? fucking hell. useless.

other than the fact its fucking annoying, its just not very manly and is just wet. neither traits are attractive.

mrs c - country pub, or a less bar type one. but thats just my personal choice

Sup, sexii g8rl? Wanna talk?? Plz check out my profile

I don't think so

Hi - just reading with interest - not ready for dating yet but interested in stocking up some handy tips x

oh but chaotic - he seem so lovely and eloquent.....
hahaha

my friend just said that perhaps its best i didnt go, because if he coldnt secure an actual date then hes not going to be good in other areas...

SO true.

crap sex avoided. score 1 to me

watch

Hi Kirsty welcome :)

Just name a pub. Maybe walk/public transport there, cab back? Halves the cost?

There has to be somewhere you can both agree on.

Sorry my phone didn't update. Well watch who needs a man like that? My two weeks of easy baby sitting for me ends tomorrow but seeing someone tonight. Another 1st date. How about 50 first dates? Lol.

I am feeling very sexy, for some reason. Bad girl is coming out. I love the confident side of me.

watch that all seems a little controlling to me, on his part. He seems to want to dictate the evening then accuses you of putting pressure on him when you make a suggestion that means you can drink. You are within your rights not to want him to pick you up, it's a first date, safety is paramount. I would be worried that he is planning on drinking and driving. That first date I had, he sank five pints, wobbled when he got up from his seat and then drove home. The conflict before we had even had a date would be enough to put me off. He doesn't sound like a Soul Soother to me

Am I too late? Have you gone?

Thank you MrsC. And from the responses I have had I agree with you re most of them not reading the profile.

Hotbutdim seems to be going well

Why are there so many idiots out there? I will update you on my date later. Waiting for him now. My fault being early.

Heck no, I've not gone..that last text was me not bothering.

He's since taking to almost begging. Ive offered a coffee date.Tuesday day time or drinks fri eve but he keeps asking about tonight..ive got my pjs on, a film and.am.Eating nutella on toast so its.so not happening..

Phew! Sounds like a good end to a good day! PJ's and nutella, who could ask for more

I've just created a profile on ok cupid and this is what the first match that came up has to say "I spend a lot of time thinking about Space travel and when we will get to the planets...". Not a promising start but...I've had my profile on cheltenhamdating for 3 whole days (an all time record) and during this time, this is what I've had in the form of either winks or messages:

• 22 contatcs in total
• 21 total mingers
• 18 were shorter than me or my height (meaning that they are shorter than me) and that includes the 1 non-minger
• 9 were over 55 with 3 in their 60s (I am 37)

Now, tell me please: where am I going WRONG???

Welcome to the world of internet dating Stella. Much patience is called for, as is a strong stomach!

I'm really enjoying reading about everyone's experiences - certainly makes me feel less alone.

Watch - I'd be annoyed if someone couldn't choose a place to go to. Maybe it's unfair, but I feel if a man can't even choose a place for a date, he probably doesn't have much initiative.

I have a 3rd date with someone on Saturday. Really not sure if I fancy him, but he seems (so far at least) genuine and interesting. But then again, I like most of the men I meet, but it's finding someone I want to be more than friends with which is the problem.

Louderthanbombs - have to ask, is your name a Smiths reference? Sorry if I'm totally off the mark, but I'm a huge fan.

Just to add watch, it would annoy me that he could decide where not to go but not tell you where he wants to go.

Hope your date goes well AndLibby, liking him is a start, he may grow on you. It's good that you find him interesting and that he's genuine. But keep your options open.

My 19 year old was fantastic. So going to see him again, he is good at kissing too. All positive, nothing negative about him. I might have actually found someone.

Today has been a good day and I see a very good friend tomorrow. So very happy me.

I'm pleased you have had a good day MLM

No more dating sites for me, I think. Is 5 options enough for a girl? Although might even go exclusive with this one. Maybe. See what happens. Much more my type though. But still only 19 but that soo doesn't matter with him.

Watch I am so glad you didn't bother with that date! I was catching up thinking I so hope she hasn't gone! Honestly if that's him making an effort for a first date I dread to think what it would have been like getting a decision out of him after a few dates.

We have no time for men who don't know their own minds! FFS if he didn't care where you went, he should have told you to choose. If he was only prepared to go to X pub, then he should say so. Why make it so difficult?! Twat.

I haven't heard from the Barbour. I'm not chasing him. All this I'm so busy and important (until I want to send you a pic of my bath, or some bollocks about keeping him warm on a cold night), it's all such a load of shit.

I did get a random text from my old boss today (Watch and Time you might remember that saga from before Xmas). Asking how I was, and then suggesting we should meet up. Am a bit :) but also rather given it has taken him 4(!) months to contact me. I mean, he said he'd be in touch, but 4 months later?!

Ooh I remember The Boss sponge! Meet him! Get those lovely shoes on and seduce him meet him. Go for it. You know you want to

Barbour man would annoy me, he sounds far too boring laid back. If he can't maintain contact then he isn't worth the contact! Simples!

I'm entertaining myself with the idiot wankers nice men on POF. This is becoming tiresome. I need some real life action. I want to meet people in real life. I wonder if Sainsburys would be up for the suggestion of a regular singles night. I may email them.