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Gay40 · 09/04/2012 21:32

This is a thread for women who unexpectedly (or not) find themselves attracted to another woman.

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pollyblue · 17/04/2012 21:35

oh hardy haha Gay Grin

so what am I to do then? Am I emailing The Bolter tonight or not? I don't know what to dooooooooooooo Blush

CharlesXavier · 17/04/2012 21:39

Yeah- do it! Wine first??

Loveisthemessage · 17/04/2012 21:40

Wondering if it's possible to be just friends with someone you have a heart pounding crush on? Probably takes a certain sort of person to be strong enough to handle the intensity of that.

Polly - think you should hold off contacting the Boiler until tomorrow.

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Gay40 · 17/04/2012 21:41

Email The Bolter. It's midweek, it's about time and plus, you need to know about your legs.

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Loveisthemessage · 17/04/2012 21:42

oops, not Boiler arrrrrrrgh. The BOLTER. Apologies.

pollyblue · 17/04/2012 21:43

No if I have wine I turn into a blethering idiot! A very smiley blethering idiot, but still an idiot sadly.

Loveis I'm thinking tomorrow too, as it half way through the week, it wouldn't be unreasonable to say 'oi, are we going out in 3 days time or not?'

pollyblue · 17/04/2012 21:44

Boiler! arf Grin Good slip up.

pollyblue · 17/04/2012 21:45

...and eyebrows, bikini line (tmi sorry) and generally try and do something with raddled old face. Cement or summat.

Loveisthemessage · 17/04/2012 21:46

Good job I didn't say old boiler Grin

CharlesXavier · 17/04/2012 21:49

You could say 'Look, x just texted to see if we are going to y at the weekend. I said I'm not sure because I might have a prior engagement. Do you still wanna go out?'

Maybe?? Gives you an extra 24hrs to fit your sofa with the neccessary pulleys.

sleeplessindenial · 17/04/2012 21:51

She texted me before I could text her and said that she meant everything she had said in the emails but doesnt want to make any promises she can't keep and that she thinks I'm special.

So I very childishly replies that I was only saying that I cared about her a lot and not that I wanted to drag her to bed Blush

And then thought better of myself and text her again saying actually i am being a knob, and sometimes I need to be told to get over myself, sort myself out and stop ignoring my friends BlushGrin

She replied in that case her a grip, stop hiding and trying to ruin what we have, get yourself round here on Thursday for lunch and carry on being your lovely self Blush

That's me told then!

I needed to be told to snap out of it, I told her that I have feelings for her not that I've killed her cat! So I need to stop acting like I have done something wrong and being ashamed of myself.

If I want an adult relationship with her then I need to start acting like one and not like one of her teens.

I have told myself off now Grin

Onwards and upwards and all that

pollyblue · 17/04/2012 21:52

so that's two votes for emailing tonight, one against. I shall hold off until Likea (and anyone else who wanders in) casts her vote.

We're getting perilously close to our thread limit. We might need to open a new bar.

sleeplessindenial · 17/04/2012 21:53

Cant you just call her Grin

I would email tonight

pollyblue · 17/04/2012 21:53

sleepless is officially out of the doldrums!

pollyblue · 17/04/2012 21:54

oh and I forgotten sleeplesss vote to go and bang on her front door! Grin 'tis chilly out so won't do that...

pollyblue · 17/04/2012 21:55

sleepless I haven't got her phone number. I've been well and truly told off about that already Blush

sleeplessindenial · 17/04/2012 21:58

Can't you engineer your car to break down outside her house or something Wink

Worldwithwings · 17/04/2012 21:58

sleep you've been brave and honest with her. IME such lovely sentiments are few and far between in life and as such are a compliment to be treasured. As you say you've not killed her cat :) so don't be ashamed and hold your head up high as you deserve.

pollyblue · 17/04/2012 22:00

I could drive into her car...

No, I don't think so. I don't think I'd like to see her angry....She's a bit feisty as it is.

Emailing is safer Smile

sleeplessindenial · 17/04/2012 22:00

Thank you Smile

I will just get her drunk and snog her and I am really not joking Grin that was always my plan b

sleeplessindenial · 17/04/2012 22:03

Maybe to safe though Smile

Offer to host an Ann summers party or something, then 'lose' the car keys so she has to stay the night Wink

and before I get told off I am JOKING, as in NOT SERIOUS and am in no way encouraging polly to be immoral or whatever Grin

CharlesXavier · 17/04/2012 22:05

Ha- think I would quite enjoy being swept off my feet by you sleep.

Anger is a hot emotion polly- might get you in there Grin

pollyblue · 17/04/2012 22:06

sleepless Grin I have the morals of Julie Andrews, I could not be swayed

A friend did recommend that I make sure she gets squiffy enough that I'll have to take her home to make sure she gets up her front steps (steep and very uneven) safely....Shameful suggestion, tsk....

pollyblue · 17/04/2012 22:08

Charles funnily enough, the only time I've emailed her in a slightly terse fashion, her response was very warm and positive. Maybe she likes a hint of aggro.

sleeplessindenial · 17/04/2012 22:13

I need to learn some subtly I think I don't have the patience or the nerves to cope will the not knowing for long I don't know how you do it, it would have driven me crazy by now.