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This is a thread for women who unexpectedly (or not) find themselves attracted to another woman.

She does put herself down but in a joking way that you don't really notice unless you're looking for it, it was more like she was looking at photos and saying oh gods I look awful/fat etc and she is dieting at the moment (not that she needs to imo she looks great all soft and cuddly) so probably not feeling at her most attractive,

Some of the compliments do come via her Dc I had noticed that, she is a lone parent so only really gets child free time when they are at school, hopefully we are doing lunch on Monday although I will have my baby with me. I struggle with child care as his father refuses to watch him unless I literally walk out the house and leave him with no choice like tonight

I'm not sure I could continue just being friends feeling like this, hopefully it will ease off or become something more which leaves me in a difficult situation because I will have to leave dp and he won't go quietly I've got a lot to think about as I am not sure I can stay in the relationship anyway, I feel like a whole different person.

She makes me feel worth something, makes me feel pretty and interesting

I keep looking at the photo, I want to show it to the world and be able to tell everyone that she's mine and I have set its as my profile pic on fb which is ok because dp doesn't use fb and knows I've seen her now

Hi sleepless i think your post of 00:54:48 is spot on. You seem sure of how you feel so don't drag it out. If you feel brave enough, broach the subject. If she does go 'aaargh' well, at least you'll know she's not interested but maybe you'll have gained a good friend.....If she reciprocates you've got a lot of thinking to do and decisions to make!

Disclaimer - I am not advocating cheating here in any shape or form. Oh no.

I am planning to wait until she says something negative like "I look rough/tired/bad hair day" and just saying "don't be daft, you're lovely, I fancy the arse off you" or something like that

Any good?

Wow, sleep, you lucky thing, all sounds very promising.
The more I think about my feelings (which is pretty much constantly) the more convinced I am that I am a lesbian. My dh knows that I am thinking along these lines but I haven't told him how sure I feel about it yet.
So much seems to fall into place for me as I realise this. Seriously, it's like the world makes sense to me at last. I'm even excited about one day telling my family. I know they may be pretty shocked at first but eventually I think they will also think 'oh yeah, that makes sense now!'.
I am working on a course which finishes in October and I'm thinking that I'm not going to make any definite statements until then as I need time to get used to the idea. After that I will be doing another course and it will be 2 years before I am earning enough to even consider living without dh. Yes, I can't believe how stupid I've been either, and yes, I realise he may leave me before then.

Anyway, that's where I'm at right now.

could you phrase it a bit more classily than that?!

crushing how have you been stupid?

actually sleepless that might well work, certainly will come across more naturally than if you do a big build up type thing.

Crushing, I really hope that you get a good response when you tell your family

Polly, I was going for jokey easy-to-get-out-of if it all backfires

I've been stupid in not maintaining my independence by relying on dh's income. I'm retraining for a new career but it's going to take a while.
If I was financially independent I could leave a lot sooner.

Oh I see. Is there any possibility of you working in some capacity to build up a bit of a fund in the meantime?

sleepless just PMed you a query.

I am working as well as studying but the money would not be enough to live on. I'm a teaching assistant and doing it more for the experience than the money.

Also I can't really build up a fund as we share money. Am considering starting another account to put some money into but I really don't feel great about doing that. I do have access to about 5k but that won't get me very far. I also have a young school aged child to think of.

It's a bugger isn't it crushing.

I have just gone into the proper Internet on my phone to read Pollys pm as I normally use the mn app and they don't show up and have seen all the other messages from you lovely people - thank you!

Certainly bloody is polly

That sounds really difficult crushing

I am off to bed now, goodnight lovely ladies

If you're still there sleepless have just PMed you.

Otherwise, sure we'll catch up tomorrow x

Morning all

I have just had a text asking if I would like to spend the day with her

THat would be a yes then! Has she got a dp?

Nope, she is a single parent. I love just being in her home there is such a lovely atmosphere.

She has written on my stays that she had a wonderful night last night

And that next time u am welcome to stay over

Morning. Presumably you live very close to your WIQ sleepless which is quite handy ? Sounds like you are popping to say something to her. It's good you seem to be very free and frank with each other. Good luck if you decide to test the water.

I'm not sure she would write it in my Facebook if she wasn't just bring friendly though.

I have nothing to wear!

She lives about 2 miles away I think