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[Gay40]

This is a thread for women who unexpectedly (or not) find themselves attracted to another woman.

Has your WIQ mentioned anything about liking women?

Nope, the only times she has really mentioned anything is to say she had had enough of men.

Polly, you have email :-)

Glad to see you back sleepless :)

Is that lesbian tea Loveis?!

sleepless thanks, have replied - whaddaya mean you've got nothing to wear?! I thought you bought up Dorothy perkins the other day?!

Have a lovely day.

Hope you have a wonderful day sleepless glad your back :)

Thanks baileys

I bought 2 outfits and I have seen her twice since them so have worn them both.

I was dating last night that my feet were cold and she laughed and said it was because I was always in sandals - she notices my shoes so that's good right?

Off to get ready to meet her, park with the dc today and hers for a cuppa I think I can't exactly invite her to mine would be a bit awkward plus I've been thinking about her constantly and done no housework

Her dc are brilliant and I enjoy seeing them, looking forward to adults only apart from my baby time though

Polly - yes les tea, more biccies please..!

Oops I meant to say thank you to teedee and everyone else too

I was dating last night - is that one of them there Freudian slips?!

Coconut macaroon anyone?

Lol it was the phone honestly felt like a date though I am just leaving now i am over excited especially as she wrote on my status that she had a wonderful night

I keep getting worried she may see this but have decided it would at least save me the job of telling her!

sleep 'have had enough of men' is a very good sign or even a hint! When I met my crush men started to seem boring iykwim, and I already felt i had enough of them before meeting her but the feeling was confirrmed then.
Your wiq is SO encouraging that it's safe to go with a flow and say what I feel even today imo.

When I hear someone say "I've had enough of men" - from the mouth of practically every heterosexual woman I have ever met - it rarely means they really are. It's not a good sign.....sorry. It's a turn of phrase.

I have been known to say it myself at times.

I know if she goes out she goes to gay bars - but then so do I as I love the atmosphere.

in this case I think it's a hint - you have to look at the whole picture. All the encoutaging, and now also she goes to gay bars too. She's also single and very welcoming to sleep (I can bet she knows that sleep's attracted).
I know it's a turn of phrase for some but Ipersonally never used it just to say I'm annoyed, I now say it with meaning. So can't genralise!

I meant obv 'say what you feel' earlier

sleepless I only posted once just to introduce myself but have been catching up with events...wow, things are moving on fast. In my experience her saying "she's had enough of men" was probably a very big hint. I also think she feels the same about you as you do about her based on the frantic texting back and forth! Just be careful though sleepless I totally understand how exhilarating and amazing this time must be but it is confusing and scarey too. I am totally opposed to cheating on partners and have never done so. I know that it must be very difficult to hang onto your feelings at the moment but maybe when you do tell this woman how you feel you can agree to sort things out with your DP one way or another.

I'm not judging you at all. I really do know how you feel and I think it is wonderful that this woman makes you feel this way. I fell for my DP very quickly, literally love at first sight and I feel as intensely about her now as I did then (8 years ago). Even my ex agrees that she is perfect for me and is "the person I ought to have been with all along"!

I haven't got a red flag about Sleep's situation but I do have a vague feeling of unease.

G40, I also have a slight sense of unease about sleepless' situ, mainly because it seems too easy and things moving a bit TOO smoothly, but we still don't know for sure what the wiq feels. If she is attracted, then it's all fine and possibly she's been keen of getting involved with a woman for a while and now seizing her chance, hence all he encouragenent. If the wiq is being hugely friendly (and it is 'hugely), then she will tell sleepless and at least she can move on in some way. Still slightly uneasy that she's a dp's ex, but this will only be relevant if they get together properly, so too early too worry about. I mean she can't help how she feels and is not going to switch off, it's the case of whatever happens, happens, obviously I hope with les pain rather than more if she breaks up with P. Are you eneasy on the same lines, or smth else?

all the encouragement

Yes, i know what you mean G40 and likea I don't want to sound hypocritical. Bunny is right in some ways that I for one would have every sympathy if someone was in the position of Sleeps DP, however, I also know some people that are in really horrible relationships and I could not blame them for falling for someone else that actually made them feel great about themselves. You would hope that they would end their relationship before anything significant occured. In the meantime it is good that people can come and share their feelings on MN.

exactly cherries, and sleepless has already said she has no intention of cheating on her partner, but she wants to find out where she stands with her crush. And I quite admire her for saying she wants to take the bull by the horns and find out soon, rather than dragging things out.

SQUEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!

Have just had an email from my WIQ asking me out next weekend.

I was not expecting that and have come over all peculiar in a small child at Christmas way. Doing a bit of a jig.

AAAAHHHH! Only 7 days to wax legs/do nails/lose half a stone/buy a new face..........

Bloody hell! (breathes into paper bag)

Gay! Help me calm down!

Date or as friends?

Oooooh! How exciting!