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[Gay40]

This is a thread for women who unexpectedly (or not) find themselves attracted to another woman.

Hi Likea yes, left it to her to contact me now. Things are fine between us though. How's you?

polly, I'm on a break now, remember? next meeting will be in a week or so just for day. Thinking of her always, of course. Now she'll be past the major family stress (at last) so possibly will think of herself more (and, maybe, of me haha).
Moon, I don't actually agree that on average women are much more attractive physically, they have a host of body issues that men ever could have (post-baby bodies, etc., etc.). But if you mean moreattractive as personalities - yes, I agree! And of course SOME women are extemely attractive.

for a day

men could never (not 'ever')

Hi Moon I think this is an interesting angle on sexuality. I have always maintained that if gay, straight and bisexual, trans whatever all shared the same (public) spaces, ie. all socialized together instead of being pretty segregated, it would probably turn the whole sexuality thing upside down. I have always been to gay clubs since I was 14...both male and female ones, and when you then go to a very heterosexual club or bar it seems sooooo boring in comparison....and everyone very much bound by their gender roles, if you get my meaning. Much more interesting to mix it all up.

wish Sleepless would come back..... am a little perturbed by her disappearance, I wonder if she is okay. Hope so.

Hi, sorry I have not disappeared just been without a phone charger all day.

I have just got home after a wonderful evening but will have to charge phone before I can catch up and post

Yay! She's back. It's Happy Hour for everyone!

The drinks are on me. Providing you drink milkshakes

I am ignoring the arguing because I'm far to excited because it's late and im tired.

I have had a brilliant evening, laughed a lot and chatted for hours.

She sat very close to me on the sofa even though there were other seats. Her dc were there the whole time, they are such a brilliant family.

Her leg kept touching mine

She spent ages looking through my photos on fb and we looked through hers, there is one of her with very short hair and she said "xxxx used to say I was gay when my hair was like that " so I said there was nothing wrong with that!

She is just so so lovely, I got hugs and a kiss on the cheek when I left.

And she thinks I am pretty

She texted me and said what a brilliant time she had had. Sovi text her back and said I thought she was gorgeous, with beautiful eyes and a smile that lights up the room she replied thank you, and that I am a wonderful person and I could come back anytime and I am always welcome, she wants to do lunch on Monday.

And I got a photo of us!

And as I was leaving she kept trying to get the dc out of the way and up to bed. She even offered them a pound

I am utterly confused, I still don't know if this is just her personality or not. Perhaps I am being stupid.

I will have to tell her how I feel very soon though because I don't know how I can carry on feeling this way. Scary thought, don't know how she will react.

Oh and I have told dp that I have seen her, I did lie though and said I had known her longer than I have and only just realised she was his ex .

He's not overly impressed mainly because I left him with his dc tonight and went out for the second time in two years but said as long as he wasn't a topic of conversation he wasn't bothered.

Brilliant news that you're back in the tavern sleepless...from everything you've recounted about your evening, sounds like your wiq would not be remotely surprised or disappointed if you revealed your feelings but I would hold off for a bit longer and enjoy these flirty moments. Just hang out with her more, you don't have to declare your feelings straight away. You never know she might beat you to it. Bide your time and if you fancies you and is into you, you're just going to get more and more signals. There's nothing more exciting than the intrigue of the early stages so I'd enjoy it while you can.
Sounds like a passionate snog is on the cards soon

Is there any way to see her when with other adults? you'd have a clear picture then re personality. Why do you think she was trying to get dc off to bed - was she planning some intinate chat, do you think? I think it's safe to tell her how you feel because she's not the type who would be off/rude/laugh at you! even if she rejected your advances it would be kindly/humourless. I think she must be getting some idea as you were tellung her how gorgeous she was - it'd be better if she also complimented you as a man would, rather than say 'a wonderful person', if she said 'woman' it'd be more significant (romantically speaking), but possibly she's just careful (as I sau it's unlikely she didn't notice your attraction). So jel;ous of her sitting next to you on sofa - how many times I wished i was invited to the sofa, not the chair opposite, by mine!

Gay40 - i'll have a soya chocolate milkshake please.

Flapjack anyone?

One soya chocolate milkshake coming up! Vegan chocolate?

I agree that it's best to wait a little more before declaring your feelings, just to see if she's consistent. But it is hard when the feeling is overpowering to keep quiet!

She must know I have told her she is gorgeous, beautiful, lovely, wonderful, funny, witty, etc etc several time over the last few days.

She definitely gets close to me - I really do need to see her with other people, will have to try and work something out. Needs to be with her friends too as mine would be strangers to her.

I got the feeling she wanted the dc out if the way when I was leaving and she came and stood outside with me but they came too. I'm not sure what would have been said it done but I just had a feeling iykwim.

She has done nothing to make me feel my attention isn't welcome.

This is the exact text I sent her when I was in the taxi:

Love the photo of us, dont put yourself down. I don't think you realise how gorgeous you are, you have beautiful eyes and a smile that lights up the room. Be impressed when you look in the mirror because if you saw what everyone else sees you wouldn't doubt yourself

And she replied

Thank you so much, I have a tear in my eye xx

I'm not doing very well at subtle am I

Then she said she thought I was lovely and that her dc thought so too and she said I was welcome round anytime and she said she meant it

yes please a vegan chocolate milkshake with a straw thanks Gay!

No animals were harmed in the production of the straw.

I know I should wait to tell her but I don't want to end up feeling to much for her and getting hurt so I'd rather rip the plaster off quickly plus I almost feel like I am deceiving her by not telling her, like I am seeing her under false pretences or something, I'm not sure, I just know I can't drag this out especially as I have dp to consider too

It'd be even better if you met without dc for once! I mean more telling than meeting with other adults. Does she put herself down?
So far it looks like she hides behind dc a bit (and all compliments ae from them too). You do need to go for a coffee just the two of you and maybe some frank chat will follow.

yes, sllep, I didn't mean to wait for long. And if you didn't - that's fine, as i say it must be very hard to keep quiet. And it's true that whe you think so much your head camn explode, better to be clear soon. I just thought maybe wait a meeting or two, but if you aer going for a coffee just with her and the talk heats up, why not.

sorry, sleep