Welcome to the Turning Tavern

[Gay40]

This is a thread for women who unexpectedly (or not) find themselves attracted to another woman.

Polly - I sometimes miss the round-the-camp-fire camaraderie of Likea's thread but we certainly have some interesting folk turning up at this here tavern (complete with its surprising nooks and crannies) with their tales of unrequited love and missed opportunity

How are you feeling about your WIQ? Did you wriggle out of working with her or are you going to be within hair's breadth of her anytime soon?

Think the roster on this thread is over 30 now so that's a fair few women (or a few fair women?) on the threshold of sexuality.

Brawlers can piss off.

sleepless, don't leave, agter all the discussing we've done we all got involved and want to know how it will go for you. On MN, when a thread is so general you will never find complete consensus, though i do understand that at this sensitive time criticism is very painful (i got a bit upset too when ead negative posts - but it's best to shake itoff, as there is more support on here than not). You don't have to explain yoursel to everyone, not your duty!

Sleepless, do not leave. The thread is designed for people finding themselves in the situation they are in, not knowing which way to bloody turn with it all, struggling with the "have I met my life long love or will this blow over in a few days/weeks" etc.
And to talk through it all with likeminded people.

For some people this thread will be the only safe space they can explore these scary/confusing/elevated feelings without their real life People getting judgey and concerned.

So can we let the thread roll in this vein please. I don't believe for one second that anyone ever cheated on their partner simply because a bunch of screennames from MN said they should.

Brawlers can piss off.

Wow how eloquent and insightful Gay

All I can say is you lot must hang out in some rather dull bars if someone pointing out another's disrespectful, damaging and devious behaviour is your idea of a brawl.

Rather more a case of you spitting the dummy against the few voices of reason on this thread.

I'll leave you all to your pathetic pseudo-lesbian bleating, trademark MN Relationships projecting and tragic fantasy lives.

Meanwhile, me and the other people on Planet Real Life will be spending the weekend treating the people we're actually in relationships with love and respect and not sneaking about behind their backs fantasising about their actual exes (seriously, if none of you think that bit is highly fucking questionable then you're more barking than I initially thought).

Oh and Pollyblue? 'I am not encouraging her to cheat on her partner'

And I quote....

'sleepless I'm getting quite excited on your behalf.'

'But don't guilt yourself into missing out on something potentially wonderful, because 'potentially wonderful' doesn't come around too often in life.'

Bunny boiler what exactly are you doing on this thread if it gets you so hot under the pie-crust collar? Everyone here has been discussing their feelings. No one has behaved badly. You seem so quick to judge and point the finger. Maybe you'd be more comfortable in an olde tea shoppe.
Gay - maybe we need a members (vaginas?) only door policy and/or some bar rules?!

waves at Bunny Bye bye!!

bunny I appreciate your concerns but I don't think this thread is for you.
Sleepless, I think you need to proceed with caution but would like to hear how it goes.
Im reading a book called Married Women who Love Women at the moment, can't remember if it was this thread it was recommended on. I've also had a look round autostraddle website. I'm finding myself so much less alone!

Bunny - Where and When did I say 'sod your partner, off you go?'

I'm fully aware sleepless has a partner. Whether that is a good relationship or not, I don't know. I would always encourage anyone to follow their heart because there are too many people 'putting up' with crap relationships and making their relatively short time on earth a miserable one. But it follows (even in the warped world you obviously think I live in) that you end one relationship before embarking on the next.

I think your last post says more about you (and not in a good way) than anyone else you think you're insulting.

Bunny honey....I too think you should hop off to another thread and let steam off there perhaps. You've really upset a lot of people here and it's very mean spirited of you....where's your compassion I wonder? Just reading your post makes me feel depressed for you, to live in such a narrow minded world. We are all humans and all fallible, all trying our best and it's not necessary for you to come here with your toxicity......goodbye.

Sleepless Come baaaaaaaack! How did it go today? You have plenty of support here

so this has moved on to an anything goes thread to what I thought was a lesbian only thread on relationship thread. If you are in a bisexual relationship then start your own thread. If you are in a transwoman in a relationship thread start your own thread.

This is for women born women who now fancy each other thread. Correct me if i'm wrong. Please?

You're wrong Dworkin.....read the title

I think BunnyLewbowski 's username suits her perfectly. I love that film, one of my faves! But I agree with the others; Bunny, hon - you need to find yourself another thread, this one is clearly making you quite unwell with self righteousness. And no-one would wish that on anybody.

Seriously, gals - this is primarily a support thread. If you're not going to be at least supportive AND condemning (as opposed to merely condemning) kindly find another thread to rant on. Ta.

I'm going to see my GF tomorrow for the weekend and really looking forward to it. Still at the butterflies in the tummy at the thought of seeing her stage - although to be honest, I hope that bit never goes away. It's awesome.
How are you all this evening?

Really want to know how sleepless got on!

at Bailey's..

Hephep -How exciting! Hope you have a lovely weekend :)

Hello- see we havnt really moved on any. Sleepless, please come back. How did it go when you saw her today? I went to the gym and lusted at my girl crush...... We chat together - she is in a LTR with a woman - which makes it harder as I know she likes women as it were. Still, it's nice to dream. I think s I have got older I have wanted women more....maybe I have become more confident/ comfortable wiith my body..hello to all our newbies.

Dworkin again, I'm not sure what interpretation you've put on this thread, but I didn't mention lesbians only, non-trans people...I think you'll find it is for any woman, trans or otherwise, who finds herself newly attracted to any woman, trans or otherwise.
Kindly stop telling us who the thread is for!
Strictly speaking it isn't for me either as I've been as gay as a daisy since birth, but I have found interesting folk to chat to, so I'm staying.

Loveis you have a good memory! WIQ was fine when we spoke at the weekend - yes I have got out of the work I was due to be doing with her next week.

We have a good old mix of women propping up the bar now don't we? It's excellent, and making for an interesting thread.

Hi. Man here so I technically don't count.

I'm only here for a game of badminton anyway.

polly - I remember too , but I did think you won't be working now with her. Have you cooled a bit and left it to her to contact you? (righly so)

in what way are daisies gay?

i came for the badminton too tiggy but not seen any so far

Perhaps it's the recent aversion to shuttlecocks?

Shuttlecocks are almost as aesthetically ludicrous as male genitalia.

I am vaguely heterosexual, but have always felt my sexuality is largely determined by social norms. Women are so much more attractive than men on average, surely?