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This is a thread for women who unexpectedly (or not) find themselves attracted to another woman.

Some of dps friends and her friends are mutual friends of mine.

Her status says she has had a wonderful afternoon with wonderful company

I so want to be able to show someone the messages and stuff for a second opinion but i can't!

Curious to know if she was in love with your partner when they were together?

And did he ever talk about her?

I can't text her cause my phone is dead and I am missing her!

I think she was in love with him at the time but moved on and met someone else since although they have split up a couple of weeks ago.

No, he never mentioned her.

Hmm, she's recently split with someone? Careful, you don't want to be a rebound... Trust your instincts :)

It's all sounding very familiar to me...

'Do you have to lie? "You deserve a beer or three, off you pop." That'ld do.'

Am I missing something here????? Suggesting the OP's lies to her partner to get him out of the house so that she can see her potential OW?! Who also happens to be his ex?

And what's with the immature postulating and laughable schoolgirl text analysis all encouraging the OP to pursue this woman?

I would just love to see the responses if sleepless were a man talking about his crush and his complete disregard of the person he is supposed to love and respect.

MN takes the piss it really does.

OP - Here's a controversial idea for you. How about focusing on your existing relationship and either ending it or fixing it before moving on to the next one?

Loveisthemessage, how is it familiar?

I know bunny and you're right. I can't help the way I feel though, I am not looking to cheat I am wondering whether myvwhole lufecis about to change. I am very attracted to a woman. A woman! This is so totally new and out of the blue, I am not just questioning my relationship but my whole way of life and who I am.

Sleepless - I posted previously about my situation and it sounds very familiar - the need to be in permanent contact and getting in a panic when something like a charger goes astray. Also it hit me completely out of the blue when I was least expecting it and not looking for anything. It made me seriously question my way of life (and I ended up changing it.)
Hello Bunny - This thread is about women just being open about their feelings and not being judged.

sleepless, it is a shock, isn't it, suddenly falling for a WOMAN! it's all well and good if you are free enough to experiment, I still don't get whether you were ever commited to your DP, or in love - or did ou just drift into that r-ship? in which case you could drift out, hopefully no promises have been made to him.
As to this woman, she sounds very nice, but it does all seem too good to be true as far as you both praising each other so openly andso early on. It is a bit odd - I mean not odd if she's just being friendly while you are attracted, but if you both were attracted I think ther would have been a bit of awkwardness/nervousness, just a bit at least - was tere anythinglike that from her?

It's crazy isn't it, I have never even fantasised about a woman before and now I can't stop thinking about kissing her.

She told me she had a dream about me last night, that shebhad won the lottery and bought me a house.

All I want to do is cuddle her, I feel sick with nerves and panic that I am totally wrong, that she is just a nice person and I am making to much of things.

I need my phone back on so I can re read her texts, I've made do with sending her little messages on the draw something app.

I have to be fair, made it very easy for her to say the things she has so maybe shebis only saying what shevthinks she ought too. I am clinging on to message about being stunning with no make up and bed hair!

I won't have the dc with me tomorrow evening..... Hers will be there though. All the wanting to arrange to meet up with and without children has come from her but again she is being nice so maybe just her personality I really can't tell

my head is fucked.

I don't think she has been awkward but sometimes after she sends an espcially nice or flirty message she goes quiet for a food while and then gets in contact on a different topic.

I was the first person she called today when her dc had an accident, if that means anything.

She stroked my arm today when demonstrating how her dc used to stroke there siblings hand when he was a baby.

Sorry I didn't answer about dp - we are engaged with a child. I had just split with my ex when I met him. It is very far from a perfect relationship but he is really trying ATM

yes, that's how felt when it started - all i wanted was to cuddle her, and have a kiss. STill hoping (argh). In a way your case is harder to deal with BECAUSE sh'e so encouraging, i can imagine how your head is just swimming! I'm delirious when mine has her warm moments and does little things for me - i really do float on a cloud, but she then cools it and afetr all th bumos at least I found some equilibrum thinking that she will take very long to step up if at all (whis IS sad). In your case there is nothing negative from hr and it's so easy to get high, try to think that it will be a shock if she's not nice at some point so that you cushion yourself a bit, just incase. So was she never appearing a bit nervous? holding eye conatct for long?

She was nervous the first time we met up as she thought I might not show up. I think shebmust hold eye contact for longer than normal at times as I've noticed how nice her eyeliner looks and her gorgeous brown eyes I'm not sure though, if she was a man I would think he either fancied me or was gay.

She has a smile that lights up a room. And a fantastic laugh.

stroking could be either something or just being friednly and at ease. I think it's more about eye contact and how much she wants to hold it but also getting excited during it - did this happen?

I know how you feel - I love so many little things about my crush and i can tell endless compliments in her direction (we don't though, she likes my odd compliment but doesn't encourage by doingthe same, like yours!). But I agree that sh'e s either sisterly or fancies you. I still think she soulnd too easy with it - how do you behave, do you ever go awkward, you must do with all these thoughts of kissing?

sounds too easy

I feel embarrassed and giggly quite often and she gets giggly too. There has been a few shared looks for example when we were getting lunch with the dc someone I know came over and sat down the other side of her and at once her body language was tilted towards me - I can't explain it very well. If she gets awkward she covers it well. For all I know she may have had girlfriends in the past! It's never come up in conversation.

I am just going to have to tell her I fancy her in a jokey way that I can get out of if I have too. But not so jokey that she thinks I'm joking iyswim.

sleepless, with all due respect, please start your own thread because this is about women who want/desire to hit on women. Not about those who are in a relationship.

dworkin- this is the headline at the start if the thread.
Add message | Report | Message poster Gay40 Mon 09-Apr-12 21:32:20
This is a thread for women who unexpectedly (or not) find themselves attracted to another woman.
it doesn't say you have to be single. As I understand it, its a thread for women who after identifying themselves as straight, find themselves having feelings for another woman, whether they act on it or not.
Sleepless- try to take a step back and think of the ramifications of what could possibly happen here.

Dworkin, it is for women who for whatever reason are newly attracted to another woman/women in general. It didn't specify single or otherwise. The morals and ethics of existing relationships will no doubt come into it and we'll all have our own opinion on it.

For many people on this thread, it is the only safe space where they can discuss these unusual and unfamiliar feelings, amd often these feelings manifest while in existing relationships with men.

Good morning gay. :)

BunnyLebowski I completely agree with your post and I am shocked that so many Women are encouraging Sleepless to basically start an affair or be unfaithful encouraging her to lie to her partner. Like I said in my last post I like Men and Women but I would NEVER cheat on my Partner. Im wonder how you would feel Sleepless if you found out Your Partner was having 'secret' meetings and conversations with your ex? I know You are saying that he treat the wiq badly when they were together but has he done that to You? It all sounds a bit strange to me tbh, if My partners ex added me on FB 1. I wouldnt accept, 2. I would not hide it from my Partner and 3. Would be very dubious as to WHY?

Would Everyone be suggesting she lied to her partner if it was another man in Question?