Just had the biggest fight with DH... he hit me, I hit him...

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I've spent the whole of yesterday at the hospital... quite a long time after a miscarriage it turns out (joy) I've got an infection. I'm in agony. I feel shit. All my friends are pregnant.. I'm just having a very shit time.

I decided to get stuff organised.. sort of nights out etc to keep us busy and tonight we went out with about 10 of our best friends for a meal (a lot are shift workers from our hey day hence the tuesday random night)...

I have been in quite a lot of pain and on painkillers... but was without and just slowly drinking wine this evening.. The night went great and we all agreed to meet again next week.

We got in the car (DH driving) and she started to go MAD. Apparently during a conversation I had dictated when he could go out and come back (with an old friend) and I hadn't! I know the conversation he's talking about. They were taking the piss saying I would and I was laughing... but I didn't say a word. And all the home he called me vile, drunk, a bitch etc.. (with our daughter in the back of the car who we just picked up from a sitter to bring home.)

We got in, put DD to bed and it escalated. He screamed at me, I proclaimed innocence, He pushed me, I tried to kick him. We ended up having a full out physical fight.

He left. I wrenched the keys out his hand and he stepped out the door.

I locked it.
Jesus christ.

What do I do now?? I'm already in pain. (now more. Have a perfect hand bruise on my chest.)

It's pretty obvious sigmund. See the flaw in your plan ^ he won't accept responsibility. It's ops fault, she has to beg and call and take her blame.

So erm, it does paint a pretty good picture of the future and suggests that this isn't out of character. If it was he'd be grovelling and mortified.

That's is against talk guidelines I think you'll fine ever.

We shall see then shall we sigmund. I hope for ops sake he does, sadly the initial reaction is generally the guide. Some fear not.

'The op posted at 01.09 she said ' he's not violent, he's amazing, usually ' not the words I would expect from an abused woman.' is this satire? everlong how do you think these things usually work, do you think that people who have violent partners are just too stupid to leave and that their partners are always horrible all the time?

but she described an incidence of violence, so now he is

why are you so keen to downplay this?

Err he is violent.

I have reported your posts houseofplain. Your patronising stance is NOT helping the OP. Not every incident of DV follows a template you know. You would be stunned to hear about mine because i can tell you, its not what you think, YOU have no idea.

The DH here sounds unpleasant and horrid, but hopefully they are busy sorting things out right now - trouble is, there has been so much bollocks on this thread that the poor cow will have been put off coming back for support.

Now im sorry, but i have to go and cook my DPs dinner before he gets home from work

I think there's a lot of projecting here. You may be right, this might be the start of some thing worse. You may also be completely wrong. I think we should let the OP be the judge of that.

I'm sure she'll come back and tell us.

Erm report away. At least some will not listen to rubbish encouraging the op to sweep it under the carpet. Honestly some people can't stand to have their points of view challenged. Pathetic.

Houseofplain - your comment of 19:00:42 is deeply unpleasent.

You also haven't addressed my question as to why you said what you did about my post houseofplain? Id be very keen to hear that. You see, you can't patronise me with comments about netmums, just because i have a different experience to you and different views. Well actually i dont have different views, i DO think that in the face of today's evidence the DH is a cunt, but i am hoping that he has realised and is going all out to put things right (i suspect he isnt, but thats beside the point).

I have the OP the number of women's aid, hopefully the people there will be more considered in their support

Sigmund I would say being told to piss of is more so which was their last post to me. See matter of opinion eh?

NOBODY on this thread has told the OP to sweep this under the carpet - why do you say that?

Everlong- they are EXACTLY the words I expect to hear from an abused woman. Few people label behaviours abusive whilst they are still in the relationship.

I would simply like you to clarify why the fact that the DV that happened in my relationship has influenced what i have posted here? but if you don't feel able to do that, fine.