Found Out My Husband is Sleeping With Escorts

[bagpus77]

[Message from MNHQ: This thread was started in 2012. It's a zombie thread. Just saying...]

Hi all,

I am a mother of two beautiful children ad the wife of a man I adore. We have been together always and last week I discovered he has been sleeping with escorts for at least half of our married life.

He denied it until there was no way out and so last night the man who I thought I could trust told me everything.

He was paying for sex each week with various different hookers or whatever it is they are called. He said he finds me dull in bed and that since the kids my need for sex is almost not there and he didn't want to bug me for sex.

I am devastated and just dont know what to do other than cry and feel so angry. I can't look at him anymore for betraying me and my trust.

I love him but don't like him much right now.

I feel for you that's for sure. Found out my youngest's Father (my Partner of the last 7 yrs) just paid/had sex with an escort 3 times during our 2 week separation. It was terribly. He's had only had 6-7 partners in his life before this. He calls me his baby doll, practically worshiped me, but he showed signs since the start, I never realized things were escalating before it was too late. First was addiction to porn. He would watch it behind my back or whenever I left the house, whatever chance he got. Then it turned to paying for a membership online to chat & tell them what to do (actually communicating with them), now he took it all the way by looking up escorts, finding one and following through on it. Our sex has been frequent and good. Sometimes a little rushed or plain as his work schedule & having children, but I never turned him down or gave hiim reaso to look elsewhere. Problem is he's obsessed with women ejaculation (squirting) something I cannot do, therefor, makes me un-pleasing in the bedroom? Anyways, I made the painfully hard decision to let him stay for the sake of our 19 month old. Honestly, your relationship will never be the same again. It changes how you feel & look at that person, the trust is gone and the hurt will always remain, even if in the back of your mind. It chooses times to re-surface as well. I have worked on weight loss (start weight 310, now 240) 70 lbs down since having our Son. I feel great, and honestly, once I move to a place I can afford without him, I'm pretty sure we will be going our separate ways at that point. Hope you've gotten your testing. I'm off to my Apt. today (hense thinking about the situation again). Hopefully I'm clean...luckily it was only 1 person (whom I know of now) to come after if I'm not. Fingers crossed!

Again, this is an old thread

To quote AF

"He is a proper fucking boo hoo'er
Isn't he ?

What a self pitying inadequate arsehole."

I could write paragraph after paragraph but this sums it up in two very to the point sentences and I fully concur.

Men who cry like little babies when they get caught out make me puke.

Oh shit I should have read
Page 4! Argh...

Still well put though AF!

Or even page 6! Jesus I'm off to open the wine!

When AF has to repeat themselves 4 years later

Keep a journal, dates, your feelings, it may help down the track

OOOPS, forgot its an old post. Well anyway that my advice to anyone in this situation. I hope OP is doing well now.

Well lets looks at this from his point of view, have the children taken priority over your husband now? For example are you to tired for sex or preoccupied with the kids to the extent that he feels left out? This might sound mean but men often feel like they are shunted out of the way when there are children and ( if we are honest ) sometimes viewed as little more then a means to support the family. If that's the case, not saying it is, then whats he supposed to do exactly? Part of being a husband and wife is to see to each others sexual needs/wants and if one person decides that they dont want sex/to tired or whatever then maybe he is justified in outsourcing the service that the wife no longer feels able to provide. But before people start screaming at me consider this. Visiting a prostitute is not a relationship with another woman and men will see this as a lesser evil than an affair. I am not taking sides here, but would say that there are two sides to every story.

mozatron Are you incapable of seeing how old this thread is?

I'm not even gonna validate the shit that fell out of your mouth with an actual response, I'm assuming you're an Internet troll

FOTFSOF, mozatron

Posting on an old thread to spout misogynist nonsense, a double whammy of idiocy.

Oh didn't see this was an old thread -.- nvm me.

Moz
How thick am I?
Thick enough to dig up a zombie thread on two separate occasions, apparently.

My husband who was also my best friend, a great father announced he had been sleeping with escorts, prostitutes for all our marriage and spent thousands. I was devastated but decided to stay as he said it was an addiction and he did go into recovery. 2 years ago he took his life as he said he could never get over the hurt he had caused me. I'm still reeling and bewildered and feel ill never trust another man! I thought I knew this man better than myself and the same, we were always together!!! I feel these women killed him in a way by luring him in but I know he had to take responsibility for what he did. Terrible. 💧

Betrayed this is an old thread but I couldn't not give you flowers. How utterly devastating for you.

Bagpus77 Please go and read and join chumplady.com - as a well as support from here, chumplady is a forum for people in your situation, who can help and support you through this.

They will explain your turd's playbook and why he does what he does and what is likely to happen next..... I have been what you have been through - he won't stop EVER. Anyone who is crass enough to try and lay the blame on you has a character problem.

Does Anyfucker really need to come back and say a THIRD time that this is an old thread?

Thank you I've just joined so didn't realise it was an old thread...was good to vent though! X

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