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Fuck Him and his Barbour - dating chat 10

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watchoutforthatsnail · 16/03/2012 10:00

New thread - you know what to do :)

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watchoutforthatsnail · 22/03/2012 13:13

its not so much bad vibes, as overly keen ones.
he text me at like 7:40 am to tell me he had just got to work and to have a good day.
ive not even met him yet, its too much.

While he hasnt done anything ' wrong' it just makes me panic, the expectation is now there ( on his side)

And i dont even know if i want an actual relationship, id like something to start casual and just develop, maybe. i dont know...

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PostBellumBugsy · 22/03/2012 13:17

Shit Watch, that "we're on to a winner" line would freak me too! I'm very easily freaked though! It just triggers my inner cringe button. Don't think you should cancel - look at is as a practice session of the new demure you.

With WealthyShort'n'Portly, I'm not going to email back. If he gets in touch with a specific date for dinner, I'll see what mood I'm in!

watchoutforthatsnail · 22/03/2012 13:22

fuck the demure me!
lol

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watchoutforthatsnail · 22/03/2012 13:22

oh and good idea about ws'n'p :)

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adamschic · 22/03/2012 13:27

Watch, sounds like he isn't very experienced with internet dating or he would know that you cannot know if you are onto a winner unless you have met.

watchoutforthatsnail · 22/03/2012 13:43

i dont think he is, he has alluded to people saying he is ' too nice and a bit boring ' to date, i also have a sneaking suspicion that he lives at home ( aged 29) neither of these things make him attractive...........

He didnt seem overly wet and blah on the phone or in texts, but you dont know until you meet do you?

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lovesineffable · 22/03/2012 13:59

re 'onto a winner' that kind of thing puts me off, makes him sound inexperienced, as if he thinks all he has to do is get you to agree to a meeting and then he's home and dry with you.
Dream on soft lad...prepare to have your hopes dashed & your ego crushed!

I remember a bloke who said over the phone 'I've got a good feeling about this'
knowing he'd sent me photo's from several years ago Confused
last bloke I met said 'just meet me I promise you wont be disappointed'
I was very!

watchoutforthatsnail · 22/03/2012 14:05

i think he might be....again, not attractive. Maybe thats why he was asking about extending the date into the evening?
Im going to end up feeling like a bitch, arent i.

its so weird isnt it, men have such big egos and such self beliefe in themselves, that noone could find them unattractive, yet woman view it all from totally the other side.

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PostBellumBugsy · 22/03/2012 14:16

Hopefully, Watch, he'll turn out to be ok & just a bit prone to slightly sappy texts. Not sure sappy is the right word - but you know what I mean.

lovesineffable · 22/03/2012 14:29

I have read several times that men tend to over estimate their attractiveness where as women tend to do the opposite.

It does sound like he's trying to buy himself more time to win you over watch, or hope that a few drinks will make you more persuadable?

PostBellumBugsy · 22/03/2012 14:46

that theory explains ALOT loves! [need a nodding cynical emoticon]

hatesponge · 22/03/2012 14:51

Watch he does sounds a bit irritating. Over-keenness like that tends to make me feel a little bit sick in my mouth Blush It's hard to tell if it's genuine inexperience - (which may be forgiveable) or some sort of faux coyness (which wouldn't be).

Lol at your suggestion for me btw, I've never owned one maybe this is part of my problem Grin

lovesineffable · 22/03/2012 15:00

seriously? You dont have a battery operated boyfriend?

Snapespeare · 22/03/2012 15:30

7.40!! good grief.

I'm getting weary of advising 'go! you can't tell until you meet him in person, there might be a spark blahblahblahblah' when I'm currently in a can't be arsed mindset! Wink

I treated myself to a new swanky waterproof battery boyfriemd a while ago. I seldon get the chance to give him an outing (he's a noisy bugger, even with the bedroom door barricaded, I worry about the Dcs thinking i'm mixing pancakes with an electric blender in my boudoir...) and tend to prefer 'father fist and his five sons'...

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watchoutforthatsnail · 22/03/2012 15:59

sponge - really??? REALLY???

my god woman, get thee to love honey as a present to your self!!!!!!!

Ive just got 3 now, i used to have about 25. Why one woman needs 25 i dont know.. i just sort of collected them.....

snape - lol. i dont even think about things like that, though i do have a very very funny story about that, which ill post later when i have more time.

Im going to go still, so long as he doesnt piss me off in the meantime.

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ParsleyTheLioness · 22/03/2012 16:37
MyLittleMiracle · 22/03/2012 18:53

Hello, parsley back again? Hope you are okay.

ParsleyTheLioness · 22/03/2012 21:16

Soldiering on MLM. Don't have much to contribute at the moment. If I meet someone, through daily life, might consider a date, but too raw to put myself through any online stuff...!

adamschic · 22/03/2012 22:39

Totally off topic, stress has lifted and thanks to my facebook friends who are on this thread and have taken the time to like my great news received tonight re DD.

Will catch up tomorrow.

watchoutforthatsnail · 23/03/2012 07:46

parsley - you dont have to be activley dating to join in :)

Adams, congrats

So, my three most embarassing vibrator stories :)
In chronalogical order - the first aged approx 19/20.

Still living at home, with my dad and step mother and her children. The evil step mother, not liking me had chosen my bedroom to be on the ground floor of a 4 story house, in what used to be the coal bunker, damp, dark and only entered via several rooms... It was late, the rest of the family were several floors up. I was having phone sex, with my boyfriend, being in the army, we didnt see each other a lot. I was enjoying it, as you do...... rather loudly probably, because suddenrly my dressing gown glad dad burst into my bedroom shouting ' what is wrong, do you need an ambulance!!' time stood still, absolute silence broken only by the sound of a loudly buzzing vibrator and my boyfriends hysterical laughter on the other end of the phone. I screamed for my dad to get out, who, bless him was obviuosly just totally confused and stood glued to the spot as i again shouted for him to get out, pulling my coveres up around me.. causing my vibrator to fall onto the floor.....

Coudlnt look him in the eye for weeks!!!!!

The second incident ( of many, it has to be said) was when i moved from the UK to germany. Work had persuaded me to pack my ' personnal items' myself, and not let the packers do it. The helpful people had even saved me some boxes from the office. Off i go home, pack the boxes with vibrators and other such things and think nothing of it. It is only when the removal men come and start loading up the van that i realise what has happened, because the work people, knowing me, and knowing i would find it funny, had written ' VIBRATORS' all over one side of the box, the sides that i had carried not facing me. They had also done some lovely penis drawings. And i just hadnt noticed, somehow i packed the boxes with that side away from me, and they got stacked up aganist a wall and wsnt noticed. SO, i nearly died laughing when the removal men were carrying them, well, so did they. funny all round.

kudos to my work collegues for a genius plan.

The third one was when i was moving back from germany to the uk, my stuff had been in storage for a few weeks and my family were helping me unpack and set up. My dad and brother were upstairs building my bed, settig up the tv etc... and i was downstairs doing the kitchen with my sister. They called down to ask if i knew were some vital bed bits were, i shout up they were in a box in the bottom onf the wardrobe, but to avoid the ones on the shelf. They only heard that part. My brother says, for as long as he lives he will never forget my dads face as he opened this box, expecting bed bits, only to find a pleatora of vibrators and sex toys. hahahahahahahahahaaha

Luckily i find the whole thing hysterically funny, and noone is surprised.

:)

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ParsleyTheLioness · 23/03/2012 07:50

Excellent Watch Grin

lovesineffable · 23/03/2012 08:47

i have zero embarassing vibrator stories! Mustveledashelteredlife!!

watchoutforthatsnail · 23/03/2012 09:04

Its is funny isnt it :)

I have a host of stories like that..... they are the best though i think, maybe, bar the time i got caught shagging in a disused bomb shelter by some german hill walkers...

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hatesponge · 23/03/2012 10:03

watch Grin esp at the illustrated boxes from your colleagues!

loves not so sheltered as me given my previous admission that I don't even own one...

watchoutforthatsnail · 23/03/2012 10:16

that was fab, they were fab work collegues :) I miss them, they used to play chair olympics with me :) and we used to have cheese days, just eating cheese. ( was actually a very serious and grown up job, just happened to work with some amazingly fun people)

Sponge, honestly, you should get one. You are doing yourself a diservice if you dont.. :)

sats date text me last night when he had finished work and then when he was driiving home, and then when he got home.... i got this in detail. i told him i was out and could not reply.... from the comfort of my sofa.

cancelling is looking likely.

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