Fuck Him and his Barbour - dating chat 10

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sunshire, ah, tis crap. sorry :(

I dont even know what to say... i dont think anyone can make it better... its just one of those things and today i happen to feel shit about it.

why is it so difficult to get a second date? for anyone to get a second date? what gives?

Im shaped like a weeble :) which is good though, because i might wooble, but i dont fall down....

Watch, you ARE a great catch. Much better than me for one - you have interests, and do things, go to places (my interests are limited to shopping, drinking and TOWIE... and I wonder why I'm single?!)

I do relate to the bad day thing. My FB today is full of people's babies and small children dressed up for Easter, all playing happy families. DS1 is out with friends, haven't seen him since yesterday afternoon, and DS2 is upstairs killing things on X box. Meh :(

Lol. Sponge my interests are the same as yours and the only good thing today was when an advert came up stating towie starts again next Sunday. I don't seem to do much with myself but I don't think it's my dullness that doesn't get me a second date, as I'm quite droll. it's something else. Maybe timing.
There is a lot of showing off that goes on Facebook.
I have a book on my kindle by rachel greenwald - why didn't he call you back. She surveyed hundreds of men and asked them why they didn't ask their date for a re-run. I'm going to read it again as I've forgotten what it said first time.
I'd love to send my dates a questionnaire for feedback.

waves at sponge

I always feel like that on Bank Holidays - like everyone else is having a great time and I am not.

My next door neighbours seem to know how to live and socialise yet there are four or five adults and two kids living in a tiny house. They are always holding bbqs and parties. Good on them!

I have promised to take ds2 to the pictures - ds1 is playing cricket but the reality is I don't really have the money to take him! But I will.

Also panicking about having to leave our rented property by July - I am going to consult again with our local council's housing options this week but tbh my options are severely limited. They have told me I need to get my ll to evict me in order for them to help me. I don't want it to come to that of course but local estate agents (of which there are over 20 in my postcode) don't seem that interested in me due to my budget and status.

Sorry bit of a hijack but wanted to sympathise.

Not interested in dating.

Hi everyone

We are back! Had a great holiday and can't wait to do it all again next year! I'm on a roll!

watch you are a great catch, you just haven't met a man who is worthy of you yet. You haven't managed a second date because, whether you realise it or not, you have dated dullards who wouldn't know a good time if it smacked them in the gob! Try not to let it get you down, it isn't anything to do with you, unless you smell of course.

Have you thought about varying your type? Going for someone totally different to who you would normally go for. Someone more mature, neat and tidy, wearing a suit, perhaps

watch you need to do what I am doing now to cheer you up. I'm currently wearing a fancy going out dress and I'm only in the house but it as made me feel good! Don't want to take it off [bugrin]

I'm not having a great day either. Going out for a drink soon, might help.

There are loads of dullards on the sites I find. I know I met a few of them last year. 3 in a row which put me off because I didn't want to waste anymore time.

Anyone know how much match.com is to join? Might try it, don't fancy POF again. Got chatting to a couple of exes in a drunken stupor last night. Both would keep me company again but I know it's not the answer.

Waves to SCL.

it's ok to have a wobble and be angry - you didn't sign up for this, very few of us thought we would be raising our glorious kids on our own, but life doesn't follow it's easy route for everyone. people have lied and cheated and just not been very nice and yet still, we retain a grain of hope that there is someone - so i think the plan is to let the anger go.

I'm not generically angry at my ex anymore. he annoys the fuck out of me on occasion, but |I| generally feel pity. Alright I didn't feel pity when him and his rich (ex) gf were swanning off on several holidays a year while i was taping our sons shoes together, but I am fucked if I am going to spend my life mourning a retrospectively dull relationship with a lazy philanderer. If there is someone out there that meets my ridiculously high standards (because i deserve someone wonderful!) then they'll turn up - or they won't, whatever. :)

hoist up that bosom, down that rum, be wonderful & make a plan! by all means change tactics and go for older men in suits (because that leaves more (far too young!) scruffs for me!)

Well I have a date in all of about twenty minutes so very quick update. Date number 3 tomorrow night too and he is a relationship maybe now. Will update in due course on my phone atm

Already downed a drink before I went, just a little dutch courage and to keep the cold out.

I am thinking I am going to quit internet dating. He was lovely BUT while I was sitting with him I realised it wasn't him I wanted to spend time with but my first original internet date, who I see tomorrow night. I am so looking forward to seeing him. Why am I even trying dating other men?

watch - Cheer up kiddo! Have a quick wallow and then move on. I was looking at profiles on PoF last night and found something that struck a chord... "Am looking for someone who wants to be on the same team... total honesty and consideration... love caring for my man and love being rewarded with hugs... Now that's harmony." Pity she's a non-smoker, into fitness, a foodie and lives a long (80Km = 1 1/2 hour) country drive away. I did send her a message saying her profile had put a smile on her face though. She's either a total sweetheart or am utter nutcase!

FB photos only show the good stuff. No one posts pics of pissed off Granny with chocolate smeared on her Sunday best dress, little Suzi in tears 'cos cousin Billy nicked her egg and pulled Barbie's head off, little Tommy with shit running down his leg 'cos he got over-excited and crapped himself, or wee wifey in tears 'cos she caught hubby copping a grope with cousin Emma!

I had lunch with my Oasis/PoF friend yesterday. As always it was nice to spend time with her but she's still unreadable and unpredictable. Three weeks ago we were laughing and smiling and doing the wild thing and she was talking about us having a future of sorts - now it's like we're just acquaintances.

thank you everyone :)

Time - so glad you had a great holiday. You CAN do everything you want to, and i cant wait to watch you fly :)

Sponge - i do do lots, and somehow i do have sort of hobbies and things im interested in. But this doesnt make a blind bit of difference in finding someone to share it all with.

sunshire - lets us know what that book said, although i expect it will be down to him just not wanting to take it any further with you...

Sincity - sorry about your housing problem, can you not find another private rented? gumtree??? I have a fair bit of bbq's myself ;) am the bbq queen.

adams - how are you feeling today? Ive joined match a few times, only had one date from it. MOST people who are on it are also on the free ones, so there doesnt seem much point in paying for what you can get for free. Also, its worth doing a search of men on it first, to see whos on it, before you cough up £15 or whatever only yo find you dont like the look of any of them on it ( or have already talked/ dated them on another site) and thats speaking from experince....

snapes and rob - you both talk sense.

My mum called and burst into tears so she insisted i go round and they brought me takeaway... so i felt better for a few hours, but as soon as i came home again i instantally felt shite again. Its not just the dating thing, its sort of everything. Probably because ive got 6 whole days off work, and im on my own for all of it, its lonely. If dd was here i wouldnt feel like it at all. But shes not and shes not back until friday, and its horrible. Thats when i get angry, not so much at my ex husband, more at the position i find myself in now... which i cant see any way out of, i cant see it changing for a very long long time. and i had another negative single parent comment the other day and i cant tell you how angry it makes me. But thats probably a rant for another day ( even if its not helping my mood)

I have tried dating all types of men, yes, i like scruffy men, but it would be foolish to only date them. Mr cum tribute was a suit wearing middle management guy...the hard chair date was a chubby, bad haircutted ICT nurse with a purple, YES.. PURPLE shirt and silver cufflinks on the hottest day on the year... my coffee date with, i forget his name would be best classed as ' man at debenhams' Just because someone wears a suit does not automatically make them a nice person, just as somone scruffy is not always my type...

The easter fb thing i know is silly, and besides we did a big family easter, just a week early, and it was fab, and i know its not real... but it still cuts a little when you are sat on your own, feeling shit and missing your child.

oh - new lows. I have been messaged by a man on pof... and on one of his profile pics is his mothers grave covered in flowers.

I have now seen it all.

This is the reason i am single.!!!!!!!!!!!!!

( im meant to have a date in a few hours... except the guy hasnt told me when and where yet........ Hes got an hour left and if i dont hear, hes toast)

'snort!' at the mums grave. :) You should meet him. (bwaaaaaaaaaaaahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahhhhhh!!!)

Well I have my lovely possible friend coming over tonight. So loads more alone time together. And the best thing us he sits and listens, we chat, it feels natural and there is no wondering hand syndrome. I woke up feeling down then thought but Xxx IS coming round today. And then had a big smile on my face.

fucks sake. lol. but a good reminder of why being single isnt that bad if thats the other option..

mlm - thats good, can i be really nosey, how are you getting so much free time to date? where is your child?

Thanks watch I'm thinking saving for and buying a car is to be my next goal, now I've got this travelling lark sussed

I totally agree with you re men in suits. I wasn't implying that a suit makes a man a nicer person, I know for a fact it doesn't as The Ex is a suit wearing moron man and he is the oddest, vilest man I know! I would be happy with a street cleaner if he treated me well.

I'm a bit worried about you, you do sound very low at the moment. I did have a at the grave pic though! You don't half know how to pull 'em!

Pleased to hear all is going well for you MLM . I've unleashed my profile but not had anything worth replying to as yet. I did find myself enjoying the male attention I got while on holiday though. I do believe I am softening

Sincity I'm sorry to hear about your housing problem too. If you ask your LL to give you notice to quit, which he should be doing shortly anyway, the council will help you. They do usually take it right to the bitter end though, and it's quite possible you will have to go into temporary housing for a while before you are permanently housed. It's all very stressful. I second what watch said about finding another private rental, looking at Gumtree perhaps. I do hope it all works out for you.

Being single is FAAAAAAAAAAAAAAB! I love being single When I do eventually meet a man, all I want is his willy the good bits, no dirty washing, no farting, no snoring, none of that crap, thank you!

i do feel shit. I dont ofetn feel bad, im one of those annoying happy people... but maybe about one or two days in 6 months ill just feel like absolute shit and angry at everything and how everything has turned out. and then it passes and ill be fine.
Its mostly just frustration on my behalf, at how things are and i cant seem to change anything, or get any further forward.... but im loate to accept that ill be forever lonely/ on my own/ skint/missing my child/ dealing with shitty comments from people.

Watch, sorry to hear you are having a miserable time at the moment. You will find someone...you just have good standards and wont put up with any old rubbish!

Well I have second date today with the nice guy who I dont really fancy but am hoping will grow on me! If there is no spark today then Im going to have to tell him. Unfortunately it appears he is really keen and contacts me rather a lot which is slightly offputting..

Have a date tomorrow night with a rather good looking city chap! 7 years younger, nice and tall and can hold a conversation! We shall see..

honestly, its probably because im just left on my own. DD ewnt on tuesday, and isnt back till late friday. People are busy doing family stuff... if i was at work im sure id be fine, its just sat on my own. or just doing something for a few hours then back to being on my own.. thats whats making me sad.

Do you not have anyone close by you could go out with for a few hours? Browse the shops?
I know the feeling..all my friends are away with family this weekend and my sister is on holiday so I just gave the house a good clean, rode my horse, caught up on stuff and it doesnt seem to bad then. Its horrible feeling lonely tho..

ah, see, i have been.. ive done somethign every day. I shouldnt complain

i need to sort the house out but because i feel shit i cant been arsed. in a bit of a fug... sure ill be fine in a few days.

You most certainly should not accept that you will be all those things forever, because you won't! Life is full of surprises, you could pop to the shop this afternoon and bump into the man of your dreams! Anything is possible, absolutely anything

I can relate to how you feel although luckily I've not felt like that in a very long time. I'm still relishing my freedom so enjoy my own company and the freedom to do whatever I want without being abused. Tis grand!