Milk that was brave of you. You should be proud of yourself that you took a chance. I don't think you need to be embarrased. He is probably complimented. There could be a lot of reasons he said no. DONT ASSUME THERE IS ANYTHING WRONG WITH YOU. You might just not be his type, or he might have his eye on someone else, or he might just be out of a relationship and want a break. It could be anything.
MLM I know you must be dissapointed but at least he told you. I think it is better not to invest too much time or emotion before meeting someone. Even if they are not lying they might not be what you expected, or you might not be one anothers type, or you might turn out to want different things, or there is a million other reasons it might not go anywhere
Internet dating can be a bit fickle and people on it can behave like unreliable flakes so unfortunately having one's guard up and erring on the side of caution, and not getting too hopeful at the beginning, seems safer in the long run. I think it is better not to assume anything much before meeting someone, and even then they really need to prove they are trustworthy over time.
I know you are moving and hope you can get out a bit and make some friends there, as I think there might be a danger if you feel isolated in your new place that you might become too reliant on dating to fullfill friendship needs as well. This might lead to a lot of heart-ache (as every dating situation gone south might feel like a big blow) but also there might be a danger of putting up with bad behaviour if you feel too reliant on a relationship for company.
I felt a bit with my own life I could become overly reliant on a relationship so I decided to take time out from dating and work on a few other things in my life (including nurturing some new friendships) and will get back into dating once I have sorted out my own life out a bit more.
I think this will make the dating less frustrating as well. If dates are a disaster I have people to laugh about it with, but more importantly I will be less inclined to put up with any shitty behaviour if I have some solid friendships to lean on (and ones that can point out if they notice I am getting into a bad relationship). Sorry if I am projecting my own issues on to you here, but i can just see the potential danger of being a bit overly reliant on relationships for friendship and socialising if you are in an isolated situation socially.