Fuck Him and his Barbour - dating chat 10

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New thread - you know what to do :)

Sort of similar here, we suggested after i moved cos i have been so busy! But we are chatting constantly, for an hour yesterday and we spoke again today, and he always makes me feel good! He has however run out of texts! DAMN. I was enjoying them suggestive texts! But hey never mind, i will get to meet him soon (where is the excited/anxious emoticon?) But i do not plan on sleeping with him as soon as we meet! I am a good girl, my halo is still intact (considering its halo number 42!!) and will not be getting broken again any time soon, maybe a little bent and damaged, but not broken! LOL.

mlm dont be daft you are not in the slightest ugly!!!
and what lovely long dark hair:)
Adams sounds good and long may it continue:)
I feel quite 'whatever' about mr occasional, although I do wish I'd played it cooler at the start..I'd had a run of rubbish sex and it took me by surprise

Thank you loves, i suppose my self worth was eroded away by the ex. Just wanted to make sure, and i can honestly say it was a recent pic (bout two months ago)

can be hard to be objective about your own appearance..spect most of us focus on and magnify perceived faults that other people dont even notice

Nothing wrong with you MyLittleMiracle. I'm guessing there's a great smile ready to burst forth. Mind you I'm 54 so even the thought of someone 23 years old both delights and terrifies me!

MLM ! Beautiful hair, certainly not a pig! :) I agree, I bet you have a smashing smile! :)

Time - i hope you have a fantastic time away. I love my holidays with DD and i, and to be honest, would feel quite sad if anyone else was there, we have a smashing time. Hoping you have fab weather and cant wait to hear about it when you get back.

Adams - it must be hard knowing shes moving away, i think when you are a lone parent ( and especially so when there is only one child too) it can be rather more of an intense friendship sort of relationship and untangling from that for a while ( which obviously she needs to do, but she will come back to you) must be incrediably hard, i cant imagine....

Loves - do you want to make it more often? I know the pretending you arent that bothered is a kind of protection from being hurt thiing, but it sounds ike you might like a bit more.... I get you on the good sex thing as well, when it happens you want more of it.. crap sex seems to be a bit of an epidemic. lol

mlm - you look fine :) though i have to say i dont think looks really come into it much at all. I dont look half bad ( and its taken me a long long time to be able to say that) and would say im attractive, yet ive been single forever. In fact all of us on this board are attractive ( we are mostly on FB too... ) and if you could see how lovely they are you would be shocked they are single too...

and yes, 1001 times ive said i cant be arsed and then carry on, its just i feel if i totally give up im just accepting the situation and not even trying. I dont meet any men at all day to day, and despite always being out and about and doing stuff, it just doesnt happen. I talk to people, and am open, but men dont tend to come running over in the park and just ask you out..... So im just treading that fine line between hope and cant be arsedness.

Quiting is the easy option! And i am not a quiter and never have been. I havent had much reason to smile until lately and now evreything seems to be going right, but i never was very photongenic. Maybe that needs to change to and i need to get more pictures of me! Would love to get my school pics back! It is such a shame that we are all struggling to find someone. I hope this chap is right for me. And i must admit i am still chatting to the chap i met a few weeks back. But no way could i manage two men on the go! One is more than enough at a time for me! And anyway we agreed on being friends......

And i know everyone on here is beautiful/ handsome (just to add the men into it too) adn you are all amazing inside. Sometimes it feels like its only ever the good people that get shit on.

i dont think most of us view it as being ' shit on' though.
Im happy with my single status 99.9% of the time and i dont think im the only one on this board that thinks that at all.

I dont feel i need to have a man to be complete or to be happy or any other nonsesnse and again, most of this board are the same

We all do occassionally get fed up a little/lonely/frustrated but thats all, it soon passes.

i dont see any of my bad dates, or any of the disperarers or ones that turn out to be idiots as ' being shit on' They are just people that arent right for me. A bad date is not the end of the world...

A bad date isnt teh end of the world. And the chap i am friends with wasnt a bad date, just no chemistry, we had a laugh and a good chat and it felt, well natural, no awkward silences or anything. So i am good being friends with him. I miss my old male friends, two of which were more of brothers than friends and were a little older than me. Where they are now i dont know.

I plan on getting a group of friends again, cos i have very few! And it would be nice to have both male and female friends.

Dont get me wrong that i am not LOVING being single cos i am, i have never needed any bloke, but its nice to have someone to cuddle you when you need it isnt it? It nice to feel you can share your worries and concerns with someone close.

And to be honest it feels like i was single a long long time before my marriage ended, it felt i wa salone then, so i have been single much longer than my marital status states. I thyink deep down everyone wants to be loved and feel secure. Thats all i have ever wanted. Someone who will accept me for who i am and what i am not try to change me!

And the only way i am getting bac in the saddle is to start dating again and ENJOYING IT!

watch you are so beautiful and so is your little girl! It seems harsh that we could all be single! I wish life was less complicated!

see, thats what i mean, noone of us are unattractive in the slightest. Not even a little bit.

Looks dont come into it though......
mind you, neither does personality - because again, we are all awesome on here, amazing ladies, with fab jobs, cracking lifes, etc...

its literally just luck, meeting the right person, at the right time when you are both in the right frame of mind.

Thank you watch and I shall indeed bore you fill you in on how it went when I get back. I am soooo excited! So is DD. I am looking forward to this holiday far more than I ever looked forward to holidays with him. I think you are right too about having a close relationship with our DD's. I was a single parent for many years to my three older children and although I loved them all just as much the relationship I have with DD is more intense. It's wonderful. We do most definitely share a special bond.

On the subject on being single, I've been giving this some thought. I do think men are a lot little bit intimidated by attractive, intelligent and confident looking women and a lot of men wouldn't approach such a woman for fear of being knocked back or simply because they think such a woman is out of their league. We as women are guilty of that too, I think.

Also, I think standards are different in people. Some people are attracted by looks, some personality, what some women are prepared to accept others won't. I wouldn't date someone who made a racist comment in a message but some women wouldn't have a problem with it, I wouldn't date someone who used every swear word mentionable in a message but some women would. I wouldn't date someone with a criminal past but that wouldn't put all women off.

I am very happy with my single life, having a man isn't essential to me. I know the type of man I would like in my life, if I ever meet him, great, if I don't, well it's no great loss because I'm happy anyway. But, I'm not going to settle for anything less than I think I deserve just for the sake of having a man in my life.

And THAT is why I'm still single!

have a fab time ;) really...

and yes, thats why i am too...
though to be fair, its not like i get many offers on second dates either, i didnt even get a call back from the dim guy saturday.
i would have said no, but its not the point. lol

What a great post Time. Have a lovely time in Weymouth. I've never been - but I love the seaside! I'd love to hear all about it.

Maybe you scare them off

Seriously though, I reckon a lot of men, regular men, are all mouth and no trousers. From what you have described of your sex sessions, I reckon a lot of men would be scared they would have to perform like that all the time, and they just ain't up to it

Thank you Post . I love Weymouth! I could easily live there. I shall be more than happy to bore you with the details when I get back

hahaha. hahaha.
time - you make me laugh. This is maybe true.. but im also lovely. and honestly until i was single i didnt really realise that maybe my sex life was a little more, erm, experimental and enthuastic than mosts....

I mean, i had been told that by past partners, but i thought they were making it up.

Still, nothing wrong with a quickie or lazy sex, but im not going to settle for somone that doesnt know what hes doing, or isnt concerned about my enjoyment, because, well, what would be the point of that??

AND - most dates i dont sleep with, so that cant be a reason :)

I know you are lovely

I also totally agree that you shouldn't settle for sex that isn't up to the standards you require. Sex isn't as high on my list of priorities as it once was but I would like not to have to assume the frozen chicken position. I won't settle for a small willy again. Fact!

The problem isn't with you watch, the problem is that you just haven't met the man who is man enough for you yet. Simples!

exactly - and thats the same for all of us on here.

It certainly is. It could happen at any time for any one of us. As long as we are open to it.

ok, im bored.
Does anyone want to play a game.

I was thinking when i found those ones for sponge ( even thought they were no good) but she hadnt seen them... so would anyone go through pof for me? and pick ones they think i might be interested in/ might like me?
We could do it for each other.. might be fun??

PM me if interested..

I posted a while back about a guy I had started seeing (friend of a friend of a friend type situation). We've been on quite a few dates (met end of Jan) and have lots of fun, we don't just have sex but go out to the cinema/galleries/dinner etc. Last week he called me his girlfriend.. lovely. All going well. We're going out for dinner tonight.

I was signed up to POF but didn't have a photo on my profile or anything, and was still getting the odd email, so I decided to log on today to delete my profile. Whilst I was online I got a couple of messages in my inbox (as you do), and guess who one of them was from.. yes, you guessed it.

He said "hey, you sound fun", made some relevant quotes from a film mentioned in my profile etc etc. He obviously doesn't realise it's me.. even though he's being a bit thick because it describes me/my personality fairly well, but anway.

I'm meant to be meeting him tonight for god's sake. I don't know what to do now! I really like him. We always said we'd keep things easy and take it slow.. but that didn't include trying to pick up other people surely?!

Oh Jarvis that's pants! No advice sorry. x

jarvis - im sorry. you must feel terrible.
have you had the ' we are exclusive ' talk yet though, because if you havent, then its pretty much par of the course im afraid ( and awfully common)