Fuck Him and his Barbour - dating chat 10

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New thread - you know what to do :)

i agree with sponge - if they are only out for a shag ( and you have no way of knowing their intentions) it will make not a jot of difference if you wait a while to shag, or do it straight away.
Ive been more hurt by the ones that play it that way and far rather a more honest approach, hence fuck and go works for me. ( if im feeling that way inclinded)

Denman - it wont have been anything you did, at all

Loves - totally agree, its the james bond theory proven all over again.

post - ah, i see. well, its nice to know the option is there should you want it :)

Thanks Snail..I know..he was just an arse!

Anyway, after a few days of moping I have pulled myself together! Meeting a much younger man for a drink tomorrow eve and have a date with Mr normal (hopefully!!) on Sat... Plus had very randomn text flirting today with the farrier!! Very strange..he is hot as however also has a GF so Im steering well clear!

Not all men are only after one thing, i know of someone who just needs to snuggle up with a nice girl and enjoy a film!! I did say i fancy watching the devil inside, hardly a chick flick, but honestly I DO!

Havent ever ever been on a cinema date so that will be nice, and i got sort of a compliment today, when i saw an old friend, who i havent seen since 16, and they told me wow, dont you look better now, you look sooo much better now that you have put some weight on and now have some boobs, i was like well cheers for noticing my weight gain, and typical bloke noticing the boobs! But then again last time he had seen me i was literally skin and bones and a tiny teeny size 6!

I take it as a compliment, but only cos it was him that said it. Anyone else would have got a mouthful!

...that does remain to be seen though MLM.... I am now so cynical that I wouldn't put it past certain men to use that as a lure, then wham!

of course some women are only after one thing as well... :)

No news here. No news is arguably good news.

Hello everyone! I love this thread title so much, lmao, watch.

I am still completely not bothered about dating. It's been six months now since I was on a site - crazy eh? How quickly has that gone?

I am not even sure if I will ever bother with dating sites again tbh. I did consider them a useful tool to at least keep a door open but I think maybe I'm one of these people that it just doesn't work for.

I have now lost 26.5lb since early Jan btw :o

Oh and I have a few RL flirtations going on and one mega huge crush, it will come to nothing but it's fun flirting at the moment, haha... and I have a fwb still, though haven't seen him since early feb and not bothered either.

Happier than ever all the time with this arrangement - me dd and cats, working my ass off and looking after myself... with the occasional rendezvous thumbs up

snape - id agree on the cynical thing as well.
Im feeling fairly cynical myself and not entirely sure i can be arsed. Ive got emails waiting to be responded to on my pof and ive logged in a few times but cant be bothered to reply.

I may very well have a little break, fuck them :)

lubey - huge congrats on the weight loss, thats fantastic :) so, spill about the crush :)

Hi everyone

Just popping in to say 'hello!'. Me and DD go on holiday this weekend! Yay! Can't wait, am unbelievably excited!

at you having a break watch, how many times have we heard that!!

Well done on the fantastic weightloss Lubey!! That's brilliant. I've managed to lose a stone and am feeling good for it. It's not been a massive effort, just not pigging out cutting down and eating mainly low carb so, in light of that, I am going to continue until I become a Miss Slinky!

My profile has remained hidden but actually, actually, I'm starting to feel a little bit as though I would like to unhide it so I may just do that when I get back from holiday. The sun must have sent me a bit funny.

I've not had chance to read all the thread but I may do later, until then 'Hello' to all and I hope everyone is doing ok.

Time, where are you going on holiday? I've been on lots of lovely holidays, just me and DD. Feeling a bit whimsical atm as we won't be doing it again for a few years. We need to holiday separately, seeing as she will be leaving home in October. I need to let her grow away from me.

I've just remembered I've still got a hidden POF profile. Might delete it today at some point. If I do go back on the site I would put up a new profile anyway, so no harm. I'm not looking atm and still seeing my lovely 'friend'.

Lubey, me and the guy I'm seeing now used to go months without meeting up, which was fine by me then.

Waving to everyone else. I catch up now and again but nothing to say so probably won't post much.

Does the team think it's common for a 'now and again' arrangement to evolve into a more regular/frequent arrangement?

I'm asking because I have a now and again arrangement which I'd like a bit more of-just because of the sex you understand..or maybe that would kill it/

loves, why is it just a "now & then" arrangement at the moment?

it's all a bit 'dont ask dont tell' he seems to travel quite alot with work and family commitments.
I tend not to contact him so as to give the impression I'm not bothered

(how did I bugger up that strikethrough?? )

It's always difficult getting the balance between playing a bit hard to get & them thinking you really aren't that interested. Next time you get together, could you sound him out on whether he might like to meet up more often? Or could you try and get another meet up planned sooner?

this might sound odd but I have good memories of steamy afternoons, if anything happens between us which leaves me feeling offended or on the back foot, they will be tainted.
He's the only person that I've not ended up feeling pissed off with, I'd rather just let it slide so that it stays as a positive experience

Fair enough - if it isn't broken, don't fix it!

there was another guy last summer with whom I thought the sex was especially good BUT I now see him as pathetic pretentious pratt, so the memory is ruined by the reality

adams we are going to Weymouth. We love Weymouth. It's my first holiday as a single parent and I can't help but feel dead chuffed. I never had the confidence when I was a single parent the first time round. I intend this to be just the start. And yes, I'm afraid you do need to let go of your DD . It's not all bad though, a whole new chapter is opening up for you as much as it is your DD, your life could take on a whole new meaning. Embrace it and make the most of it, life is too short not to. I love my DD with all of my heart but I also look forward to the day when I'm only responsible for me and the cat

loves I personally think it's fine for a 'now and then' arrangement to become more regular. I would love a 'now and then' arrangement, nothing too demanding but something nice, with someone nice. I would love to have experience of a bit of love and affection and a shag. I don't think becoming more regular would kill it, not if you didn't let it.

Well there are a few out there who arent just after a girl for one thing....... i found one, or at least i think so but we are just mates! And can never be anything more.

As for my dating life, i have someone lined up, BUT i need to wait until after i move, which is really soon. And the we are going to arrange a sort of day/time etc.

Looking forward to it, and we are talking DAILY on the phone. It feels good to be me again, and yes i am flirting it about a bit, but so what, i am getting some looks (so must still have a sexiness about me), so all is good!

I should have listened to chrissy, and gotten myself out there and not been scared of what if's!

Can someone just confirm by looking at my picture its not cos I look absolutely pig ugly please, just to check?

Well just on the train back from London after a few drinks with my very young and hot date! Sadly he was very quiet and didn't have enough humour or life about him for me. He was fit though but no spark. Now texting mr Saturday date, who is hilarious to chat to. Really looking forward to our date

Sounds good denman03, shame there was no spark, but hey if you dont try you dont know!

Time, hope you get this glorious weather on your hols. Have a lovley time.

I am looking forward to less responsibility, in a way, and it's more me trying to encourage DD to holiday without me. We must have had lots of fun as she would still come with me, especially if I'm paying .

Loves, that's exactly what has happened with me, a fun filled now and again, has become regular. I never contacted him either as I knew not to ask questions or get too involved. So far (3 months) regular hasn't spoilt it at all, it's got better the more we get to know each other. It's still not serious and might never become this, but it's too good atm to spoil.

question.. how do i block someone on POF ? the date from last week who I told I won't be seein again.. still keeps sendin me a message everytime i log in. does he have to click on my profile to see I'm online? I'm sure I checked the box to be hidden from people I'd viewed.

and if I make myself hidden, can I still send messages?
thankyou :)

I thought next to the message box there was a block this user on the right hand side, if you go into their message and the bos where you reply iykwim? And next to it there is i am sure block user?

Have a look and let me know! Or i will keep wondering!

ah... I'm in the mobile app maybe I have to go onto the desktop site ... will do that in a bit. I don't like having to hide up from someone lol
I have another date after Easter with some I've been. chatting to for a few weeks now. in away during school holibobs so he suggested afterwards :)