Fuck Him and his Barbour - dating chat 10

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loves I was nice about it (trying to keep good karma) Just told him I'm not really looking for more friends, and wished him well. It's a shame, he's the only guy I've ever met online dating that I fancied

Sponge I'm with you in the writing off someone who looks like your ex. Probably not the attitude but it would make me uncomfortable. I once turned a guy down for having the same name as my ex!

I have decided i WILL never date someone with my ex's name, sorry xxxx by name xxxx's by nature (arseholes) just my opinion sorry.

I am still chatting to one person and feel really good for a change! I would write off anyone who looked like my ex, sorry but i would have to, it would give me too many flash backs.

are you all on POF or different ones? I'm on POF. the guy I met for a drink last week and then had to say I didn't want to meet has messaged me today just to ask how I am. I've not replied. I took my picture off for a while and have had no messages at all (after suddenly having lots in one day).... I have to say I havnt sent any either lol
do you send messages to people without a picture if you like the sound of their profile ?

I'm on OKC Tolly but I'm thinking of branching out.

Call me shallow, but I would never message someone who had no picture. It's not difficult in this day and age to upload a pic onto the net. Ditto people who don't have their faces showing etc. It's just bloody weird imho, and I would wonder what they were hiding.

I found my current person i am chatting to on Oasis, but also have profiles on POF and OKC

Branch out i am so glad that i did!

Milk of course it was right to be polite, I was being facetious in reality I'm mostlyalways polite:)

spongeI was a bit put off a while ago by a bloke who (in his profile photo) looked like a particularly odious ex of mine.
When I met him he looked nothing like that ex..heaps better infact.
he also turned out to be odious though

the no online pic can sometimes be a tactic to get you to give your mobile number so that he can text you a pic he will then proceed to masturbate after sending you a picture of his erection

Is that what it is? Argh, that makes it even worse! God, are there no limits to the depths some people will stoop too?

we are just wank fodder to alot of these men

there, I've said it
I'm afraid it's the truth :(

There really are no depths they wont sink too, and some i have even got pictures off them half naked with a rude FIRST message, things i would even think to repeat, and okay i messaged them back, one with you think a lot of yourself dont you, and who says i am that type of girl?

We chatted for a while, but knew nothing would happen, despite him being fit as anything and very edible. Nope, not that sort of a girl! Will they stop asking, i may only be young but are all the men in my age group sex addicts? No, of course not all, just 90 percent. I have got someone at the moment i am chatting to who isnt just after one thing!

online dating is a euphemism for interactive porn for alot of these guys
we should start charging

Make some money that way, and one even suggested i just go over to his, would i be able to get the train there! HELLLLLLOOOOOOO I am not stupid. He wanted NSA fun! Well thats not my sort of a bloke!

It is like they want someone to shag. THAT will not be ME though.

nothing wrong with wanting someone to shag, as long as everyone is clear that's all that will be involved

I agree lovesineffable..I wouldnt have minded so much if I had known thats what all he wanted. At least it would have given me the choice as to whether to go over to his or not.

Still feel gutted as he was gorgeous. Oh well..got a date on Saturday with an average looking guy who seems normal. I told him I dont like playing games and if he is only after one thing then to jog on! my harshness seems to have kept him interested and he assures me he isnt like that. To be fair to him he hasnt mentioned sex once and is witty and intelligent in his replies. We shall see.

Newbie to the thread! Just thought id add my two pence by saying I met a bloke on pof in December who is just a dream Met some proper fucking nutters previously on there and was verging on giving up then he came along and I'm besotted in a way I never thought possible. Go for it ladies!

Hi First1! Well thats fantastic..Well done and Im glad you have found someone nice...

Denman, if he puts his cards on the table he wont be able to keep the upper hand and manoeuvre you into position.

telling him you dont like playing games might just make him up his game...

Witty and intelligent is obviously good, but then clever people can play a more subtle game, it takes brain power to pull off deception

Sorry!
dammit!!
ignore me, I've got my cynical head well and truly bolted on tonight

Hmm....you may be right! Trust me, I wont be sleeping with any guy I really think could go somewhere after date 4 again...Mind you, if they are just hot and not bf material I might!! eek..haha

just make sure whatever happens is on your terms...dont give any fucker the benefit of the doubt
(scuse my language-I also seem to have my f-ing and blinding head on tonight)

Denman - at least you got a good shag
I felt very close to frigid after waiting two months with my new man to do it. I was testing his motives! Not to say wait THAT long but maybe five dates next time...

True!! It was rather good!! ok..5 dates it is....:)

To be honest if they're only out for a shag then it doesn't make a blind bit of difference if you hold off from sex for one date or 5. For some men it is all the thrill of the chase - they'll keep chasing til they get what they want. Frankly I'd rather not waste my time developing feelings for someone who's emotionally unavailable.

Back when I was in my 20s I worked with someone who chased me for YEARS. Bought me flowers, drinks, anything to get me to go out with him. He would literally have done anything for me. Finally, after a drunken work do, we had a massive snog and ended up spending the night together, though nothing happened, we were so drunk we just cuddled up and passed out.

The next day I suggested going for a drink. He said he was a bit busy . Nothing more ever happened, he moved on shortly after to chase the next girl. It wasn't that he was ever that interested in me, it was just the fact I was resistent to his charms!

i think you're dead right there sponge..if you hold out it might make you seem like a more elusive prize, but that doesnt change the fact that he is motivated by the desire to make a conquest

once conquered his motivation shrivels up

Hello Denman & First. Great news on your man First - there is hope for us all!

Watch - neither of the sites I'm on currently have an intimate encounters button. To be honest, I think I'm too chicken. I did a fair bit of bonk & bust when I first did internet dating (in 2005!!!!), but I think I've got too cautious now. So, whilst my body likes the idea (alot) my head is screaming "NO".