Going back to the original topic - are we talking about girl on girl only or are we talking about threesomes for starters? Or both. Bit of a difference between the two. And I think its really important to highlight the part about this being a fantasy.
G0ldenbrown Tue 13-Mar-12 18:03:48
My DH does not get it either. He says there's nothing sexy about two girls you definitely can't have.
What an odd opinion to have. Lacking in imagination. Loads of people of both sexes fantasise over Hollywood actors and actresses they know they definitely can't have...
sunshineandbooks Tue 13-Mar-12 18:23:35
Well an erstwhile best friend of mine once had a night with two women. He said it was the worst sex he ever had, since they were far more interested in each other than in him. He thought it would mean two women paying him attention instead of one, and had a bit of a rude awakening.
Here was me thinking you could have crap sex with an amazingly attract girl of your dreams and that be a massive let down too, and that crap sex wasn't just down to numbers but the individuals involved and whether they were motivated and how attracted to you they were...
CogitoErgoSometimes Tue 13-Mar-12 18:07:01
Because men confuse quantity with quality. If one naked woman is a turn-on, two must be even better
Actually not a huge lot wrong except you assume that quality comes at the expense of quantity. Not necessarily. Of course two have more attraction than one at some level.
If you are talking about threesomes, then the whole aspect of being able to attract more than one person is a confidence boost to anyone (I'm not talking about jumping into bed here. I'm talking about being asked on dates). And after that, being able to actually satisfy them both is another confidence boost. Something that is physically harder for men for obvious reasons. I'm not sure I find it unreasonable for men to fantasise about being good lovers with proven stamina. It makes sense to me.
AnyFucker Wed 14-Mar-12 10:50:09
yes, SJ, hence the catty comment about how "butch" women wouldn't be of interest at all, upthread
only young and beautiful "girls" on "girls" is the key here, isn't it ?
if I were a lesbian I would be mightily offended by the ridiculous antics of the faux lesbianators
Going to stick my neck out and make a claim that generally men do tend to like attractive girls/women more than unattractive girls/women - whether they be single, plural or lesbianating. Not really about what they are doing, being the attraction, is the point. Its about whether they fancy them in the first place which is fair enough as part of any fantasy. Fantasies are about the unobtainable or suspending reality or breaking the norm. Lets just ponder whether more women are guilty of drolling over Brad Pitt than Jeremy Paxman for a second here. Not a great deal of difference in that respect.
TBE Tue 13-Mar-12 18:08:52
I think women only having romantic relationships with other women is quite threatening to some men.
Threatening or mysterious? Don't forget we all love a mysterious film or tv programme as we simply don't fully know whats going to happen and are curious to find out.
DebbieD78 Tue 13-Mar-12 19:30:54
I think some men like it because they don't like looking at a penis.
Well quite. Even if you fancy men, lets be honest, the penis is not the most attractive part of the human body. If you are a straight man, you don't fancy men, why would you want to fantasise about any penis than your own? It seems quite logical to be more turned on by the prospect of two women doing rude things to each other imho.
oreoaddict Tue 13-Mar-12 22:26:16
I suppose really I found it interesting to hear from a males perspective to see if they really knew why, because I don't know why it turns me on when I feel like a straight woman.
Does anyone get where i'm coming from? I think maybe I should have named my thread "why are men and some straight women turned on by girl on girl action"
Because even if you are a straight woman it doesn't mean you can't see beauty and sensuality in another woman and find that attractive in them. Or be capable of imagining being with someone who knows exactly how your body works and can therefore - potentially - give you more pleasure than a man. (Fantasy is the key I think to it all) Plus as I said before penises aren't that attractive. I certainly don't find watching certain sex acts great viewing as a result.
niceguy2 Tue 13-Mar-12 22:41:05
What is it about a girl on girl which turns men on? No idea. But then I've no idea why boobs turn guys on? I mean think about it....why? I don't get it. But it just does.
Mystery and difference. Because they haven't got boobs.
oreoaddict Wed 14-Mar-12 11:56:57
I definitely agree that most men wouldn't really get anything out of watching "real lesbians" at it. Having said that, aren't we kind of assuming that "real lesbians" are always butch and masculine?.....Of course this isn't the case.
People get off on dogging. The act of watching a private act alone can be the turn on to some people.
I know someone who is shagging his best mates wife - because the husband gets off on watching someone else shagging his mrs and he trusts his mate not to run off with her!!! (I assume she enjoys this too but I've not heard that side of the story)
SparkyMcSparrow Wed 14-Mar-12 12:19:56
I am sexually attracted to women where as with men its more long term attractiveness. Does any of that make sense. Tis hard to explain!
I'm bi. I find women more physically attractive. I struggled to fancy men at all physically when in my teens and I did wonder if I was a lesbian for a long time. My attraction to men physically came later, and I don't find it as immediate and head turning as I do with women. It takes me longer to become attracted to men, but when I do I find it more powerful in a way. So yes it makes sense.
It makes sense. You sound bi with a preference for men tbh.