The Brave Babes Battle Bus - On Their Way To Giving Up The Booze For Lent (or just for today)

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Hello, I'm Mouse

Welcome to the Brave Babes Bus where you'll find a mix of drinker, non drinkers, those who has been sober for a long time, and those who are getting there One Day At A Time.

Come and say hi....... we won't bite

And if you want to know how this all got started, HERE is a link to the previous threads.

sarah I called my inner booze-fuelled harpie 'my inner fishwife'. She's largely quiet these days...

Hello lovely babes, quick check in while i have internet access.

Had a 'social' drink on Friday. Nothing major and did have a giggle. I now realise that day to day drinking is dangerous and life is better without it. I still feel I need to moderate it, but I was determined to not make a total arse of myself. Twas controlled :o! However, to be honest I probably would have had the same enjoyable experience without the drink Hmmmm

Hope everyone is fine and dandy. I am busy with decorating and sorting.

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Quick post. Day 3 here. DD so poorly no time to think about it. Been with her 24/7. She had a fever last night and was hallucinating. It was horrible to see pure terror in her face

There is no way I could do this with a drink in me.

Morning babes, old and new, a v quick post to mark my place on the thread and then unfortunately I have to go as got a busy day ahead of me.

Woke up at 5.30am having gone to bed at 1.00am so am feeling pretty rubbish and gloomy today. Am on day 12 or 13 not drinking (I think? gave up for Lent), a little bit annoyed with myself that most days I would still like a drink. Interestingly enough those thoughts are definitely stronger on Friday and SAturday nights (which are nights when I do usually drink, Mondays to Thursdays I abstain) - we are such creatures of habit!

Hello my name is quiet and today is the 1st day of the rest of my life,no idea why it's today,could be an email I got offering me a place to do a spiritual healing course,I have waited for years for one of these to come up for me and I can't drink and learn at the same time.Could be the fact that everything feels different or it could be that I feel so much of what all of you have to say resonates so much for me.OR it could be from another thread I read yesterday and replied on that maybe just maybe I am not quite the same as lots of people and I should just be me and not fight it,why I never really thought of this before I don't know.The thread was one about "what's wrong with my brain" and she is so like me,so I did this test thing that gives some idea (not diagnosis) about ASD scales and I scored 37 dh scored 10,he turned to me and said "is this why you have obsessions about lists and why you don't cope with lots of things and get stressed" I think put simply the answer is yes.So I now just have to accept me for who I am,accept the fact that I deal only in perfection and order and routine and must not drink to hide the fact I can't cope with other peoples expectations of me,my parents being one of them.I spoke to a friend about this (a newish friend) and she said that in the year she has known me she had noticed lots of these traits about me.

So here I am,back on the panda/badger/mothership,the house is devoid of any wine or beer.This is me,this is who I am those in the world who can't accept me for who I am quirks and all can just clear off.

Wow that feels so much better for getting that off my chest.

Morning all ,hope you all have productive days

msgee I sincerely hope your poor little dd starts to feel better soon,poor thing and poor you too,in fact poor both of you :(

Afternoon all

Quiet, wow, it sounds like you've had a revelation. I hope this is Day 1 of a much more contented and happy life for you

MsGee, oh you poor thing. And your poor daughter. That must have been so frightening . Give yourself a pat on the back that you weren't drinking. Those kind of unexpected events can be a good reminder of why we must always be sober and in control. Who knows what awful emergencies await us? Hope she gets better soon. Can't bring myself to read the poo/wedding ring thread - will leave that to my imagination...or maybe I will just try to not think about it at all. La la la la la....

Bibbity, well done on getting to day 12/13. I think it's completely normal to still want a drink at some times. You're not having one though - that's what matters . How are you feeling in general without the drink?

Isinde, sounds like you have a plan . Oh how I wish we had any kind of family support...it's hard without isn't it? Even harder when you're hungover though (as I have to occasionally remind myself). Hope you have a good day in t'big city.

How is everyone else doing? How are you, Rain? OK I hope. Saf, I hope you're alright, if you're out there??

Loads going on here. All stressful, all triggers, but trying to keep a sense of perspective. This too will pass...

Have good days everyone

Thanks for kind messages everyone. DH took the day off work so I can sleep and do some work. He is wonderful

DD seems much better now, fever broke in the night I think. She has bounced around the house and nibbled a corner of a piece of toast. We have negotiated a return to nursery tmrw as long as I pick her up mid afternoon It might sound harsh to send her back but she is fine today other than not eating and needs her routine.

As for me I am shattered. Incredibly drink is far from my mind. I just want sleep, to enjoy DD being healthy and to thank my lucky stars I have been sober when she needs me.

Today is day 3. It's easier than day 1, so I'll keep going.

SSSM I'm still here and reading. Just not in a great place right now but I'm hanging on in there

Good luck Quiet xxx

MsGee glad to hear LittleMissGee is recovering quickly from her ordeal. Quicker than her mum anyway . Well done Huey on the controlled drinking .

Isinde I am so happy to hear you had a successful booze free trip. Having to drive is the perfect reason not to start drinking and then you will be in charge of the dts and they will keep you sober, I'm sure.

bibbity well done, keep at it, it gets easier x

Quiet well, well, well, fancy that. You have had a revelation and what a weight it must be off your shoulders. I like your positive statement, it will be good to read back and remind yourself if you ever need to .

Mouse how did you get on today with the pain management? Have you heard from venus recently, haven't see her posting for a while. Hope your dh is feeling better soon x

Hello says Sarah as she crawls in from the salt mines, what a day.

Quiet I am soooo thrilled about your place and your light bulb moment. This is wonderful news.

MsGee I am also glad that DD is feeling more perky, and that you are tired, meant with the best of intentions, if you can get some sober sleep it will do you the world of good. Nothing better than a long deep sleep.

Bibbity, even after all these years I still have moments, well more than moments when the first sip, the ritual of pouring the first glass comes back to me, I can smell it, taste it, miss it occasionally, then thankfully remember the pain.

Isinde, excellent news, well done for breaking a habit.

Going to have a large cup of tea.

Be safe everyone xx

Hello all

msgee so glad to hear your DD is on the mend.

Rain hope you're okay :)

Isinde well done on your trip.

sssm hope you're doing okay?

bibbity well done ma'am!

Quiet good luck with your course, it sounds great!

DH and I are grumpy today - I'm not feeling well and he's worried about uni - exactly the kind of day I would usually have said 'sod it' and gone down the pub. Day 2 and holding. I don't want a drink, I want some paracetamol, my pyjamas and an early night. So I'll get off of here and do just that :) Night all.

I've still not drunk anything alchoholic although felt like some while driving home tonight after dropping DD at dance class. Normally I would drive home then have a load of wine. Instead I have come to have a short ride on the Bus!

This is such a supportive thread. Thanks for all your words of wisdom to me - and to eachother. It's amazing seeing how good everyone is to eachother. I have looked at Mouse's profile - she is wonderful. I wonder where she is at the moment.

Quiet - have been mulling on your post today and hope that what I'm about to post helps. Sorry it's about me / DH but I hope it helps.

My DH has many ASD traits. It used to cause problems for us both but once we both accepted that he has (as I do) his ways then life became much happier. And consequently he is more relaxed and therefore easier to live with! Some things we accept as a given - I don't question why it's important, I just know that to the person I love it is. Similarly he accepts my anxiety (and drinking if I'm honest but not equating that to ASD!)

Yesterday we talked about how we would manage with DD being sick and the likelihood we may get it. He told me he had to deal with he situation as he needed to. And for him that was cleaning the entire house and stocking the cupboards with medicine. And therefore couldn't take care of DD till that was done. I laughed and asked him why he thought that would surprise me. The look of relief on his face - my heart just melted. We just know each other, we accept each other and I love him beyond belief. He's one in a million. I wouldn't change a hair on his lovely hairy self. Is a small example but at one time we'd have fought his need to do this. And everyone would have been unhappy.

So go with it, be who you need to be. You'll be happier, freer and you'll not waste all that energy fighting it and pretending ( I mean that in a nice way).

And for the lighter moments watch The Big Bang Theory. My DH says that he thinks just like Sheldon. And I think that's great. Sheldon is fecking awesome (incidentally DH used to work in a similar field to the character - and said everyone in his office was in the spectrum).

evening all babes,can't thank you all enough for the support with my lightbulb moment,it does feel so much better that my semingly quite ridiculous obsessions to do things in a certain order is perfectly normal to me.I had suspected befor that ds was on the spectrum but never considered that I was (well I suppose it was there in the back of my mind but has only just come to the front).

I have not had a drink and even better I did a 5 mile run earlier split in the middle by stopping at my doctors so the nurse could take my bloods) and off I went home again,I live 2 1/2 miles from the docs,am going to feel it in the am though as I threw a couple of hills in and was very very windy.

msgee am so pleased dd is feeling better and you can start to get some well deserved rest and thanks so much for sharing about your dh,this means a lot and yes is helpful,my dh is actually pretty good about my strangeness most of the time,although he is a bit about my washing up routine,this weekend with no hot water has had me hyperventilating so he has had to do most of it whilst I pace in the kitchen as nothing is being done correctly

Nigella well done you :o

To all the rest of you have a safe evening

just read that back,I meant it was very very windy whilst running

I was not very very windy :o

indie posting from a train whilst sober? . am welljel.

Morning

inde am a bit of your boing. I am in day 4 and no boing!

All ok here. DD is at nursery and slept in her own bed till 5am (with some bribing). Then we had a nice lie in which was lovely.

Tonight I have parents night so can't drink. Which is good

Morning all

Glad DD is better, MsGee, and well done for planning to not drink tonight too .

Onesunny, so are you on Day 3 now?? How are you feeling?

Quiet hope you're feeling nice and boingy this morning

I too am of your hint of a boing, Isinde. it's really interesting what you were talking about before. I think the crux of my problem lies in my lack of self-acceptance and self-esteem. I haven't read JW's book. Did she manage to reach that elusive point of acceptance, and accept her differences? I think that is what I struggle with. I do believe myself to be a decent enough person, yet I don't feel it when it matters. In everyday situations my automatic response to just about anything is to doubt myself and question my actions and abilities etc. To fully accept yourself, whatever/whoever you are, must be...well I can't imagine it! Hmmm... I think too much. Always bloody thinking. Gets me nowhere

Well I hope everyone has good days. Fantastically sunny and slightly breezy day here. I love seeing sheets etc drying on the line Did I really just type that?

afternoon all.
didn't sleep very well in that there sidecar. wonder what life is like on the bus???