The Brave Babes Battle Bus - On Their Way To Giving Up The Booze For Lent (or just for today)

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Hello, I'm Mouse

Welcome to the Brave Babes Bus where you'll find a mix of drinker, non drinkers, those who has been sober for a long time, and those who are getting there One Day At A Time.

Come and say hi....... we won't bite

And if you want to know how this all got started, HERE is a link to the previous threads.

Am I allowed to ask you a question dementedma? I don't know everyone's stories as a newbie.

well of course you are bibbity. you may not get an answer though

afternoon all.............yes I do have some boing,though that may be as much to do the the glorious sunshine than not drinking.

Oh sorry I went off (school run time) .

Just wanted to ask if you ever have a night off alcohol ma? That's all. There's nothing behind the question, just hoping to get to know a few of you better.

Hello Lovelies,

How are you all?

Dc2 has been home for a week, just went back this morning, and my house is a bit echoey and tidy!!!!

I have been a bit under the weather, after my (ahem!) waterworks problem a couple of weeks ago which entailed two lots of antibiotics. On Thursday I had an earache, and woke up on Friday, after a sleepless night with a chipmunk face! Visit to the dentist revealed an impacted wisdom (??????!) tooth, and another lot of antibiotics prescribed. I will be radioactive soon .

As you can tell, I feel brighter today, but last week and the weekend I was really weepy, the ab's always seem to do that to me.

Anyway, haven't had wine for what seems like forever, but, crikey really fancied it last night, but as I knew I absolutely couldn't have it (these ab's react violently with alcohol I was told), I didn't. Would it were always that easy!

BProud Sending you love, what a hard thing you did, to actually think, and process your thoughts about the past, it's a very brave thing to do. I hope you are ok. Whenever I start to do that I never get the whole way through, if you know what I mean.

Silver I hope you are managing to keep above water, take care.

Isinde 20 MONTHS Ican't believe the DT's are that old, I hope you are having a lovely day with them, don't you think they should have a look at the sea before they get much older .

Ma Hows tricks my lovely girl?

Sorry not to name check everyone, I've been away too long!

Lots of love
xxxx

P.s Is there a Mouse in the house? xxxxx

Pps I didn't sleep with a chipmunk face (bless DH )
I woke up looking like I had one. Crikey proper sentences are hard

weak boing!!! i am officially dead! been to personal trainer for 2 sessions and spring cleaned the kitchen!

sorry not to 'name check' everyone, i have been reading everyday, im just disappearing up the old proverbial, just a quick thought to our lovely new babes (and our wavering ones), i cannot tell you how much my life has expanded by getting sober, my horizons are SO wide its not true! i dont have the time to get pissed! AND ITS GREAT!!

and isindi - 20 MONTHS!!!! i kind of measure my sobriety by those little loves you know? i have been sober their whole lives! one day i would like to give them a hairy chined old sober aunty kiss and know its only the hairy chin thats putting them off, not my sweet sherry breath! (that is not meant as a dig btw, i promise!, its just that i cant quite believe how far we have come!)

Thanks Thurso I feel like I have shifted a huge weight off my back. It is never going to go away completely, but I have faced up to it and feel a whole lot better.
Sorry to hear you have been so poorly - poor you!
It is youngest DC 21st birthday this week, I am so proud of him, but it feels a bit odd, childhood is really over for him, and my role in his life is now completely different. I think I have hit menopause proper as well now - day 54 since last period, I feel a little mournful and discombobulated...

This is all looking so good. I am glad that there is some introspection going on rather than just thinking about the drinking. Really excited by that. Was blogging earlier today about Image and how we are perceived.

Bproud, yes, that milestone is a biggie. But my ds will always be my baby, albeit a very big one. Really bittersweet time. Tamoxifen threw me into menopause just glad I wasn't drinking at the same time. New Chapter, I feel like a Spring Chicken!

Hope everyone gets some really excellent boing going, like JWN says it's a whole new world out there without the burden of the booze.

Hope Trinity is still on the panda. I am a bit worried about Mouse.

Bibbity I am new too.
It's hard keeping up with everyone's stories. But I'm reading them and trying to remember who's who....
I feel quite supported just by popping on to the thread every so often. And I've already been given a lot of help here.

Yes, I also feel very much helped by this thread just being here. I read everything but don't post much!

bibbity the answer to your question is very very rarely but tonight is one of those rare nights!!!!.
I drink pretty much every night, not always a lot, sometimes just a glass or two, but something every night. I find it incredibly difficult to have a whole evening without alcohol. tonight I was late home from work and don't feel very well so that has helped me stay off it , but I still thought about it and am aware of it.
Tonight I am out of the sidecar and into the bus! Tries to squeeze onto seat next to isindie but not enough room>
Thurso hope you feel better old girl
mousey are you ok?

I'm venusandmars, I'm not new, I'm rather old... I can hardly believe that isindie's dts are 20 months old - bloody hell, how did all that time pass...?

For those of you who don't know me, I'm an ancient woman, of very confused mind - lots of strucutred, organised, time-tabled project management blended with hippy, laid-back weirdo stuff.

For years, I thought I was a 'functional alcoholic' holding down a responsible job, dealing with family, kids, work and the stuff of life... now I see that I was just an alcoholic still managng to hold on by the skin of my teeth.

Thankfully, I'm off that merry-go-round, but for anyone new who is reading this, whatever you think you've done that is bad, or difficult, or abhorent, or shameful, someone on here will have been in the ame (or similar) place. Please know that this is a safe place to post - somewhere where you can tell the truth of your own story, somewhere that is OK for you to be you...

I've been on the bus since about last June. It's changed my life. It's possibly saved my life and that is no exaggeration healthwise! Ask whatever you like bibbity, we are usually happy to share . Nigella well done so far, eventually you will change those habits. I used to get home from the school run and wonder if it was too early to crack open the wine most some days.

Venus lovely to hear from you again, I was wondering if you were still ok. You been busy? Ma I meant to ask, how are things panning out with the new boss? Do you share the same sense of humour like the last one.

JWN what sort of things does your trainer put you through? Is it punishing, like Biggest Loser? I feel for you, my lovely, you are a brave, strong woman. Just when I think how inspiring you are, you go and do something even more amazing. Just keep thinking how fab you will look as Mother of the Bride. How far you have come x

Mouse how goes it my furry friend?

aw faire! you have just made me feel like a polar explorer or eversest climber! im not quite in the 'biggest loser' league but this guy is ex forces, fit as a butchers dog (in more ways than one! ), im doing a lot od resistance stuff, treadmill, cross trainer and these sort of straps on the wall half an hour with him and im nearly dead or crying! and then he shouts 'get down and give me 10! sadist!

Straps on the wall are you sure you haven't wandered into the wrong 'club' .

How long have you got before the big day and how much do you want to lose?

Hi everyone. Well I am on Day 2. I feel awful. Depressed and angry and sad and generally flat

I am feeling like the worse mother in the world. Sorry to bring the thread down, I just had to get it off my chest. I am doing the best I can at the moment and I am holding it together for the family but inside I feel so useless and dreadful. I don't think anyone in RL will have noticed as I am still functioning and smiling but when I'm on my own I'm sad. I don't want to burden DH with these thoughts. I am already on ADs. I am hoping it is just a phase and I'm trying to be kind to myself.

I will stay off the alcohol as best as I can as I know it will not help me feel better. Any other ideas if anyine has been in the same boat would be appreciated. I want to help myself but I am finding it difficult to think clearly about ways to do this.

Rain How long have you been on ads because I know they take a while to kick in but if you think it's been long enough and you still feel awful it may be worth going back to the GP. Perhaps give them a call in the morning? Well done on Day 2 x

I was going to ask the same question as Faire, Rain. Only because if you have taken them with alcohol, you will feel more depressed. If the booze is leaving your system it really is a bit of a whammy going on there. Side effects are horrible.

Please try to stay away from one or the other. You might not be feeling sleepy, so make yourself a warm drink with sugar as much as you can. Day 3 will be better, promise, and once the alcohol starts to clear, the pills will start to work properly. Trying to hold your hand across the cyber space. xx

Sarah, have I been stopping my ads working by drinking ?
Wow, I am a twat !

Thanks Faire and Sarah. Your support means a lot

I have been on ADs on and off since I was 14 (long sad story, I won't bore you all with) but I have coped well in life considering and I am usually a strong person. I guess I have spent a lot of my life self medicating with alcohol/drugs/self harm etc, which has masked some of my feelings so maybe it is just a case of learning to live normally without these crutches.

I don't want to come across as someone with major mental health problems because, although I spent a lot of my youth in institutions, I really worked hard to get it together and I lead a normal life. I have been sucessful on the whole. I have a professional career, 4 beautiful DCs and a wonderful DH and I live in a nice place. My life is good, which makes these feelings all the more puzzling. I am not completely falling apart here, I just feel so flat and sad.

Sorry to go on about ME. I am still reading all your posts and wishing you all the best.

rain another one on ads and booze here. i can relate to your post a lot.
have to go now but promise to chat later.
faire new boss is ok, but I miss the old one. However the old one does send me lots of funny emails and am meeting him on Friday so looking forward to that.

Morning all

Rain mental health problems are not something you need to feel you have to hide or diminish, especially on this bus ((hugs)). If you had fallen out of a tree and broken your leg when you were seven, or came off your bike and broken your arm when you were twelve, you wouldn't think twice about mentioning it to anyone. Mental and physical injury/illness are not so different really. It's just that one is easier for others to understand sometimes.

You are a strong person, that is clear from your posts and you have coped well and come a long way. However, it might be that in order to move forward you could benefit from looking back a little. Have you had counselling at all. If so, was it of any use to you. I expect BProud could offer you some support and advice here but I just wanted to let you know you can talk about whatever you like here, it's a safe place x

Have a good day, one and all. Oh, and just because I haven't said it for a while, today I will not be drinking .

me, that is, ma, not you, with the toast. I can't really see through cyberspace