The Brave Babes Battle Bus - On Their Way To Giving Up The Booze For Lent (or just for today)

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Hello, I'm Mouse

Welcome to the Brave Babes Bus where you'll find a mix of drinker, non drinkers, those who has been sober for a long time, and those who are getting there One Day At A Time.

Come and say hi....... we won't bite

And if you want to know how this all got started, HERE is a link to the previous threads.

YAY!

ma Yay!!!!

Well thefeckdone Ma xx

I'm doing it too! Side by side, shoulder to shoulder, tonight, we, I, YOU, did it.

Night night all, I'm off to get some shut eye too. Mwahs xx

HERE is the new thread for those who see only this page.

MsGee - mwahs to you, not 'seen' you for ages. Hope you're okay, catch up Wednesday, night xx

Mouse mwah xxxx

right after all that, I am off for a bath and to read... xx

Thanks all of you for your encouragement, couldn't have coped this evening without this thread (off to new one now). This is the first time for about six months that I have not drunk in the evening. I feel fine, didn't miss it as much as I thought. However, tomorrow is another day, another challenge and I know that I am going to have to be careful not to think it's ok to drink after having just one night off.

ma - well done on facing things this evening. for you.

greyhound too

And keep posting on this thread till it is full. We usually like to make sure they are full up before getting going on the new one, because there have been a couple of occasions where new posters have come onto the last page of an old thread, and have been brave enough to make their very first post, only to be left unanswered and unsupported as we alll party on on a new thread.

Oh, and by the way, if I had been drinking tonight I would have been passed out in bed hours ago.

Morning!! Boing ....

Yay greyhound well done

I am lying in bed whilst DD plays counting games on the iPhone. It's still a bit shit that she wakes at 6am but I'm not hungover. I do have a sore throat, so gym going delayed for another week

Today I will not be drinking. Anyone else?

Today I will not drink. I've had a lousy night - not the blissful, sober slumber I hoped for. I have not touched alcohol for 36 hours but have a cold and was up several times in the night needing to wee. Wonder if this is my body detoxifying?

Morning all early Babes!! Freezing here today, where did that sun go? Not a brill night for me either, slept ok but again woke feeling thinck headed and still tired. What's that all about, surely my body must be "clean" by now, or maybe it's just revenge for all those years of abuse .

Hi everyone, sorry I went AWOL but my plan for the night was telling my husband I had a migraine, asking him if he minds sorting the kids, taking aNytol and climbing into bed. Had THE WORST night sweats, changed 3 times and ended up sleeping on a bath towel. I just can't see a life completely without alcohol but giving up completely seems the only way as I can't be trusted with one.Ever. I know this but I can't digest it. Seems so final and no one knows my concerns or how bad it is including my DH. Boozy summer BBQ's are our gave and summers coming. I just know that the flatness I feel inside when hungover can trigger my bulimia so I have a lot to gain by trying to stay sober. Been bulimic most of my life and my counsellor agreed alcohol and it's depressive side effects trigger my binges/purges. Plus I want to give my children my everything not just part of me. They are so lovely and I rarely do anything with them

God I ramble

So you're on Day 2 Lola?

That's fantastic! The night sweats will pass.

I didn't sleep through the night ever until I stopped drinking. And I mean ever- my earliest memories are as toddler waking up and my parents and sibling were asleep. I was put on sleeping tablets age 11, probably placebo I now think, but still never slept until I got sober. I now rarely wake up in the night and never stay awake.

isinde of course you can Leave the wedding planning till you feel in the mood for it. There is another thread on non-religious readings here too for when you are ready ... or I can help with spreadsheets.... I have lots of spreadsheets from my wedding - can email to you? - www.mumsnet.com/Talk/parties_celebrations/586290-non-soppy-and-vomit-inducing-civil-ceremony-readings-impossible/AllOnOnePage

Lola its taken me over a week to start getting a normal sleep pattern. When I don't drink I find it harder to fall asleep but I don't wake in the night quite so much.

Another thing for babes to consider is that a lot of us are full of colds, snots, hayfever etc. So we are not going to feel amazing in the morning! Sadly real life continues when we stop drinking - I just think - yes, I feel crap this morning but I would have felt much worse had I drunk.

oh and Lola it sounds like you have such excellent reasons to stop ... but you have known all this for a while. So what is going to make the change this time? Many of us hit rock bottom, or have a glimpse of that, many don't though - there is a just a growing realisation that life could be different.

FWIW for me its about being a parent. I want to be the best I can. And I can't when I am drinking - in small subtle ways but it creeps into daily life. I first posted here after arranging extra days at nursery for DD because I was behind in work (self employed) due to hangovers. At the same time DD was crying about going to nursery and telling me that one of the staff hurt her. And I had to put her in more rather than less because of my problem. It wasn't a huge rock bottom but it made me feel like I had failed her so badly.

Yesterday I picked up DD from nursery and having made a picnic tea (ok a sarnie and a bottle of water!) we went to the park for an hour. On the weekend we baked together. These things never normally happen. I can only assume that not drinnking is the link. I told a client that I was taking DD for a spontaneous trip to the park after nursery yesterday (and had to get off the phone) and she told me what a lovely thing to do that was. And I felt fucking great. Its a while since I felt like a good mum.

I hope this isn't too preachy. I just mean that we all know why we should stop and often the trigger isn't that information its something else. Once I figured my motivation (being a good mum) and the (latest) triggers (feeling like a horrid mum after a TFMR last year) I could make a bit of a breakthrough and harness the motivation.

Morning lovely Babes xxx (Slightly feverish boing, still off sick)

Hi Lola I have binge eating disorder and drinking and hangovers are huge triggers for me. Similarly, BBQ or any type of buffet type meal can send me into a flat spin. You're doing great :) x

morning all. It is blowing a gale and fecking SNOWING!! I am back in bed on laptop with DS in beside me reading a book. Judging by the hilarity and giggles, David Walliams "Gangsta Granny" is a fine read for a 10 year old!
lola you are doing brilliantly, keep at it.
MsGee that halo will slip and choke you one of these days!

Similar trigger MsGee, when hungover I take them to school, rarely tidy/clean, often forget mufti days/bring xyz into school days, can't be bothered with taking them anywhere or doing anything so it's pick them up and bring them home and put the tv on for them.

On the days I don't have a hangover which is when I've used all my willpower to abstain and gone to bed flat and moody because of it I wake such a different person. I feel like I give them more of me, I get the house in some sort of order, cook proper meals and sometimes take them somewhere after school even if just Costa Coffee for a cake and they get so much more of me. Plus at bedtime when I want to start on the wine I get angry and irritable if they don't go down straight away when I should be there reading them books and ensuring they are wound down. God even saying it makes me feel sick...

I did try this before and did a month and I took my son to Football every Sunday morning and then we'd all go swimming or something. It stopped when I started drinking again, I really want to do this but I'm scared about the next night out I go on or the next BBQ. I guess I love the feeling after the first few wines too much but I can't just have a couple of glasses I know that.

Thanks helpyourself , I couldn't tell anyone I have alcohol related nightsweats, isn't that awful?? Everything thinks I'm this happy go lucky girl who is always up for swine and a laugh when in reality I'm using alcohol the same way an addict uses drugs. No difference ....

Sunny that is so helpful to hear, feel like a loon having so many bloody mental health issues! Hangovers make many people crave junk but my bingeing and purgeing can last days and the only thing that perks me up is drinking. Viscious vile circle, I'm going to kick this vile addiction, I really do want to. I want to feel fit and healthy and to be a good mum. Might of mentioned this but my kids are beyond lovely