Shall I contact or text?

[iofficiallygiveup]

I have been seeing someone for a couple of months, we had a chat about whether we were going to be exclusive and both said we would think about it, there is a few complications, I have dc, he doesnt and obviously I can't always be available for nights out etc.

Anyway last night was one such night, he went out and I had a little look at his FB (I know, I know . On there around 10.00 pm he made friends with a woman and she immediately left a VERY flirty message. I did not hear from him all evening and have not heard from him today, this is very unsual for us as we are constantly texting and chatting.

So I think I have been dumped haven't I? My mate says ring him but I really don't want to to be honest, it seems he is just one of those that moves on without a word and I feel it is keeping my dignity to just retire in silence and dignity. So what do you all think?

It wasn't Internet dating, we were introduced by a mutual friend. He ASKED me to to sleep with other people first. No not done anything that much wrong as I said in previous posts but the way it was going was different to that.

NOT to sleep with other people!!!

Agree with abi if you like someone you let them know the reason for a change in tempo. If you don't it's either because you're not that bothered or you're playing games.

Neither are attractive.

iofficially I have to say that you have handled this really well and with admirable dignity. I agree that you should trust your instincts. At this stage of the game there really should not be this much angst. It should be easy. I know of no relationship which started in this manner that has been successful.

I, too, believe that you were an option to him (so sorry), and when this woman did not live up to expectations, and crucially, when you did not chase him he started putting out the feelers to see if he could pick up where he left you.

Even if it was innocent he did not have the common courtesy to contact you for 3 days. This alone would be enough to put me off someone. Manners maketh the man, not clothes - my grandpapa would tell me.

I don't know your back story but reading some of your posts on this thread I get the sense that you have been through much and you have come out the other end stronger, more confident and better aware of who you are. You are studying to ensure a successful future for you and your children. You have my admiration. Continue as you are, but don't give up on relationships. There are some wonderful men out there and when it is right you will know. A relationship should never leave you feeling wretched.

As for him - if he continues to text ignore.

Thank you, that was lovely to read. Believe me I wasn't always like this . The two years off dating and intensive MN therapy has given me a much healthier outlook on the dating game.