So he kissed a girl....

[MomentarilyLost]

I started a thread about discovering my husband sending dirty emails to women and then going on to discover he had signed up to dating sites, singles chat rooms and had a secret facebook account.

All this has been going on during office hours.

So through means I am not proud of I have had the confirmation he has been sleeping with someone for two years. Another girl has told me they met and kissed.

I feel sick.

I feel stupid I didnt see this coming.

and do you know what..? the bastard still denies it.

I dont know how I will get through these coming days?

My poor children, I can barely talk at the minute

Any advice on how to pull myself together would be greatly received

ps you can buy a second hand copy on amazon for as little as £3.

I am fuming.

Ex has just been to get the DC. His was on the attack from word go. Barated me for going over my phone allowances (I have a phone in his name) he told me with such glee that I have left him with no choice but to put a cap on my account. He won't let me log on to keep track of my usage. He then had a go at me because all his mail wasn't together,some mail was not put in his pile to collect. I do not want or need to keep his mail I just hadn't put it all together yet.

I opened the back door of the car to say goodbye to the children and he drove backwards so I was pushed along with the car door. I asked what he was doing and he just said "nothing I am just leaving". And then refused to tell me a time he would have them back. He knows I have a dentist appointment tonight.

What a fecking shit.

I really should have taken the children out of the car.

Tell him to shove his mob phone contract up his arse

and then buy a cheap PAYG

tell him to get his mail redirected, and that after an allotted time any that comes for him will be "filed" in the shredder

what he did with the car door is assault...do you realise that ? You could have been injured if you had fallen under the wheels. This man needs a short, sharp shock. Who the fuck does he think he is ?

Agree with AF.

Get a PAYG. And report the car incident to the police.

And stop allowing him contact until he can not threaten you.

But a PAYG and use it. Keep your current cocntract phone and use it only for contact with him. Don't give him your new number...

Agree.

What a bastard.

he is letting you see his true colours now, isnt he. Because he cant have what he wants.

I wouldnt let him have access to my call log anyway, if I were you.

Cheers guys, you add fire to my belly.

Just briefly....

Twat just dropped dc off armed with toys and and an array of new gear.

Lovely to see the guy who is struggling to give me money is able to Piss money down the drain.

Kids all grumpy/distressed and fighting over toys.

Marvelous

this is how it's gonna be

unless you draw the line very, very firmly indeed

But how AF??

I have just spent 2 hours trying to settle the boys and I couldn't understand what the problem was. I then spoke with ex and he informed me they had fallen asleep in the car. But did not feel the need to tell me he dropped them home. With school in the morning this is not on! He was being totally obnoxious and I ask why he was being so rude. He said just because he could. What the actual fuck!

Spoke with solicitor on phone early and they informed me I do not need to let the children see him at this stage in the separation!? How can that be right? Not something I would have considered before. But....

Lay off the booze, Paula.

Might be a good idea to withdraw contact temporarily, given he likes them to sleep so he can have (yet more) peace anyway!

Lets not allow this person to derail the thread, as can happen.

how ? by taking advice just like your solicitor gave you

and people on your thread have been giving you all the way along, love

you owe this man nothing

his relationship with his dc is his own business
decide on what you deem to be reasonable contact and the details of it, tell him how it is going to be

he takes it or he leaves it

if he pisses about with it, he forgoes contact until he can prove he isn't going to use the dc to fuck your head up

he isn't doing himself any favours with the kids here...and by pissing you off he is playing a rather silly game

it's working though isn't it ? You are trying too hard to be reasonable

why ?

Cheers five, withdrawing contact is something I may have to seriously consider

I guess I just want to be reasonable

family solicitors know how sometimes in a messy break-up, one partner uses the kids against the other

they've seen it all before, a thousand times

the solicitor's advice to you is with that in mind, heed it

if he was reasonable, that would work

he isn't, so it won't

fuck it shouldn't be like this.Please tell me this kind of dick gets their comeuppance!

He has got in my head and is spoiling things again!

Time to get lost in a zombie take over I think.

Enjoy The Undead !

Love, make it clear you will brook no shit, and maybe he will settle down, it's been known

if you let him walk all over you though, it doesn't bode well

FUCK ME THAT IS THE MOST GRUESOME THING I HAVE EVER SEEN !

good init!

Got you hooked yet!?

Shhh, recorded it only a little way in

Jesus Christ < mops up puke >

You could have warned me

No where near as grim as my ex :)

heh

is that the british actor, erm..

wotsit

whoozit...