To have texted DPs friend pretending to be him?

[JamRagRolyPoly]

DP got in at 5am last night, saw a text on his phone (he was there when I was looking for texts from me) from his friend saying 'strip club round the cormer' .

I outright asked him, did you go? He said no. He knows I'm very much against them. Now I'm wondering if he can lie to my face.

While he's in the shower I texted his friend pretending to be DP saying 'great night last night, how was the strip club' so his friend could potentially text back saying er you were there mate remember?

Aibu to want to know if my DP is capable of lying to my face? This troubles me more than the strip club, because then it's like, what else?

(I know tis sounds very childish btw)

Bandito, I'll pm you.

thank you Bay, appreciate it. I work in finance so money interests me

You gotta love this place sometimes....

Notfluffy
She opened her legs for him. She knew I was deeply in love with him.
She is no innocent in this.
And neither was he.

Right. Time to go to work. Ewwwww.
Ta ra.
Bandito...I'll pm from work.

Is telling someone to fuck off a personal attack? I thought you had to call them a twat or something? Thanks for reporting Fluffy

....hope you're ok jam and the chat went well

I really wouldn't work your like out on long term projections - if you're retiring in 2050, you're stupidly young. My pension has tanked recently. ANYWAY

fluffy - where do you draw the line? Strippers are fine, porn's fine. How about prostitutes? Clearly affairs aren't okay with the way you've been attacking bay.

like? life

You're welcome. I keep getting told it's the correct thing to do. Telling me to fuck off was uncalled for. The thread's not about yours or Bays retirement arrangements, I think it was fair to ask you to take it to PM.

Bay. Well done for the almost total evasion in addressing my quite specific post.

Notfluffybutprickly

OK, have it your way. I'll dump him.
Happy now?

Have fun wi' y'er porn.
Classy act, you are.

" porn's fine"

Where did I say porn's fine? I'll make it easy for you, I haven't given my personal opinion on porn, so you won't find it.

Am I ok with my DH having sex with another woman? No. Could I forgive? I have no idea, maybe, maybe not, would depend on lots.

And I haven't attacked Bay FGS, she made some pretty damning indictments on the OP's partner, I just asked her to clarify how she came to her conclusions when she had found it in her to forgive her DH actually having sex with a woman. She evaded answering in full quite well.

where do you draw the line? Strippers are fine, porn's fine. How about prostitutes?

2 out of the 3 are legal and socially accepted. Which bit of that are people finding so hard to comprehend?!

Mind you, BayPolar, there are some people who enjoy their work even if it isn't well paid, and would like to work until they're too old to go on. Both my brothers and I fall into this category. My younger brother no longer works because he no longer lives. My elder brother loves his work (and actually earns rather a lot from it) and won't be retiring voluntarily. I stopped working due to disability but am trying to retrain despite that so that I can get out working again - because I like working. We just choose our work to enhance our lives rather than crush them. We were lucky, in that we could.

Bay, I couldn't care less whether you leave your husband or have him stuffed and mounted, I was questioning your hypocrisy towards the OP's partner. You STILL haven't answered my questions I posted, yet you've had time to be personal and petty towards me.

Jux
I concur. I have met many who say they want to work till they die because they love their job.
Each to their own.
Especially in Japan.
It seems that nobody wants to retire here.
Former headmasters, who earned heaps, come back and work as part time teachers, or to drive the school bus.

BTW, he's not my husband.

From what Jam wrote, he hasn't shown much remorse but what do we know, it's behind the scenes.
Maybe he showed the same depth of remorse that my guy did and all is well now.

Right. Deep Japanese bath then off to work.
Sorry for getting off track in here but maybe somebody will benefit in the end, so wasn't a complete waste of time.

Wow huge thread.

I have to add this. DHs old business partner was the most respectable, MC picture of family picture-perfect perfection you would ever meet. Only he had a dirty little secret.

Every chance he could he would go to the most seedy, illicit Lap dancing clubs all over the world. There, I was told by DH who went along now and then, he would proceed to rub his face in various Women's genital areas, touch them, do all sorts of awful "extras" and worst of all I thought, he would insult them verbally and put them down and humiliate them.

DH used to get teased to the point of bullying for not being able to bear it anymore and he would not go.

This man seriously gave the impression of being such a clean cut God fearing man. I have never been able to shrug off the sick feeling it gave me to think of him verbally abusing those Women and them just being quiet and having to take it.
These places are not harmless fun...

'Have fun with your porn'

I'm beginning to wonder whether Sigmund is posting on behalf of Peter Stringfellow's PR company. Or maybe that's Sparky.

I personally don't have a problem with recreational drug taking, no particular moral stance on it (although I don't do it myself). If someone did have a moral stance against drugs I would completely respect that as their choice - wouldn't come onto MN and start calling them 'uptight' or whatever.

There was a thread not-so-long-ago where a woman found out her dp had done drugs and she was completely anti-drugs. I don't remember a single post telling her she was 'uptight' or telling her that their dp's did drugs sometimes and it didn't bother them. So why does this happen when aspects of the sex industry are involved?

I fear, alas, it it the MRA's hard at work. And that's a shame, because deep at the heart of this thread there is a real woman going through a lot of distress. There is no rule that just because strip clubs are legal we all have to accept men going to them - it is not a right, and for a lot of men (my dh included) it's not even desirable.

"Maybe he showed the same depth of remorse that my guy did and all is well now."

There we go Bay, we have now established that what you did in fact do on your initial post that I addressed, is make shit up. Thanks for clarifying, at least in part.

notfluffybutprickly

Ah? You have lost me.
What did I make up? bath running

p.s Why are you ragging on me so much?

Oh, and sigmund I wasn't going to bother replying to you again, but anyway.

Yes, I do care about that term you used because you used it directly at men who don't like porn/strip clubs. Men like my own dh, and the partners of many of the other women on this thread. The reason is as follows: men who respect women as equals, men who recognise that strip clubs are as demeaning to the men that use them as they are to the women who work in them do not deserve to be called derogatory names.

"p.s Why are you ragging on me so much?"

I'd have left you alone if you hadn't evaded my questions so much. But you've clarified it now, thanks. And stop with the childish username change. I've actually been quite respectful to you.