To have texted DPs friend pretending to be him?

[JamRagRolyPoly]

DP got in at 5am last night, saw a text on his phone (he was there when I was looking for texts from me) from his friend saying 'strip club round the cormer' .

I outright asked him, did you go? He said no. He knows I'm very much against them. Now I'm wondering if he can lie to my face.

While he's in the shower I texted his friend pretending to be DP saying 'great night last night, how was the strip club' so his friend could potentially text back saying er you were there mate remember?

Aibu to want to know if my DP is capable of lying to my face? This troubles me more than the strip club, because then it's like, what else?

(I know tis sounds very childish btw)

A female content in/with herself usually has no problem with a guy visiting strip clubs or similar venues.
Really? Really?
I am extremely content with myself which is why i feel able to speak out about something im not happy with and not just sit back and accept it.

Why were you checking his phone in the first place?

I'm with you on not liking strip clubs but your proposed is wrong and franky quite abusive.

I think you do care a little bit fluffy or you wouldn't keep posting.

She's not been rude to you, she's just stated that she's not interested in counter opinions regarding strip clubs because she's not about to change her mind. And good on her.

running I agree. Beats me why people feel the need to come on threads like this and tell everyone how cool they are with strip clubs etc ad nauseam.

So you're fine with it. Well, so what?

flippin Cos they is so cool and sexy and boooootifull that it doesnt bother them at all.

I don't agree fluffy, and clearly you do care as you've taken issue over it, more than once.

Neither do I think the OP has been 'extremely rude'. She's distressed and upset and has been bated in a very unpleasant fashion by people who appear to have a distinct lack of compassion.

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'Sigmund, it doesn't really matter what context you used the term - it is very offensive to men, can you really not see that?'

Like you really care . The fact that posters call other posters a man for having a different opinion is actually pretty offensive to men too, but you haven't called others on that have you.

If only we could all be like that, eh ledkr?

I know flippinI am just an insecure and desperate woman who controlls her man and doesnt let him have his "mans needs"

and cant spell on sundays

"The fact that posters call other posters a man for having a different opinion is actually pretty offensive to men too"

Hang on - how is that offensive to men? I'm genuinely puzzled.

I'm really not suprised you're puzzled.

ledkr

Mind you, I'm single so by definition am therefore 'bitter' and 'man-hating'.

I'll just need to remain unenlightened then - my loss, I'm sure!

Fucking hell, the level of cognitive dissonance on this thread is staggering

It happens on every single thread of this subject, why is it that the derailers are so desperate to tell other women how ridiculous/jealous/insecure they are for having objections to their partner visiting a sexual entertainment venue, just what are they trying to prove?

they is cool, utterly secure, they love men, men love them and they are not remotely fugly

if you don't understand that mal, you must be a desperately bitter woman

I was single for a time flippin I actually dared to object to my h shagging about. He told me i was being ridiculous,and that lots of men had affairs and their wives didnt leave. He also pointed out that he had never hit me.I was very gratefull

I should think so too ledkr, fancy speaking to your husband like that!

AF I am glad you mentioned that, had quite forgotten being 'desperate' and 'ugly'.

ledkr I reckon you should have been greatful that he was so good looking that other women wanted to shag him.

You lucky caaah.

I can see that assuming some of these posts are from men would be offensive to men. My DH would be appalled if he were associated with the misogyny expressed here. Just as I would be appalled to be lumped together with a bunch of braying women watching a male strip show, simply because I'm a woman.

I think I'd have the good sense though to point out that there is no backdrop of prostution and organised crime behind the nevertheless ghastly 'Chippendale' events and that any comparisons were rather specious.

Interesting point, Mal. I have a 'point to prove' in that I think those places make the world a harder place for my dds to grow up in and generally reduce women to sex objects. I also hate the thought that exploited women are being abused, so I'm quite vocal about it.

On the other hand, those that 'like' them and don't 'mind' their partners going, why do they care enough to post so loudly on these threads? They're banging the drum for who exactly?

"they is cool, utterly secure, they love men, men love them and they are not remotely fugly

if you don't understand that mal, you must be a desperately bitter woman"

Can I just point out that I haven't suggested any of these things. It puzzles me greatly that someone would end a relationship because of an occasional visit to a strip club but I haven't suggested any of the above.

fluffy, I don't think you have, but others have on this thread and that does seem to be the prevailing point of the people who are trying to convince OP that she is the one with the problem here

notfluffy

I think what Jam is saying, is that it is something she feels very strongly about and that maybe it is a deal breaker for her. Whether you, personally, would end a relationship over this particular issue or not isn't the point.