To have texted DPs friend pretending to be him?

[JamRagRolyPoly]

DP got in at 5am last night, saw a text on his phone (he was there when I was looking for texts from me) from his friend saying 'strip club round the cormer' .

I outright asked him, did you go? He said no. He knows I'm very much against them. Now I'm wondering if he can lie to my face.

While he's in the shower I texted his friend pretending to be DP saying 'great night last night, how was the strip club' so his friend could potentially text back saying er you were there mate remember?

Aibu to want to know if my DP is capable of lying to my face? This troubles me more than the strip club, because then it's like, what else?

(I know tis sounds very childish btw)

In my book, Hoops, you are not a good role model for your children.

jam what do you think your DP did in the club?

Exactly, hoops

I respect other people's right not to tolerate porn but accepting it doesn't make you some kind of low life or unfit to parent.

bay do you think I have porn on during the day and let my DS watch it?

I suspect he got very turned on by looking at other women's pussys.

I agree with baypolar.My Dh hasn't ever been to strip club-it isn't some compulsory male event.I have quite a few male friends who wouldn't want to go to one either.

That kind of place must be expensive, too.
You said money is tight and yet he is spending money on this.
Hmmm.

look people, could you stop your justifying of your own choices and listen to the OP ?

if you can't do that, get off the thread

I would have stayed over at my sisters until I knew what I wanted to do about it.

The Big Question is - do you want to stay in a relationship (and have a family) with a man who you absolutely cannot trust not to lie to you. He lied to you to save his arse - can you live with that? Can you live with being at home with the baby, not knowing where he is, not being able to believe him when he tells you? Personally, I'd be out of there like a bullet out of a gun before there are kids to consider, but this has to be your choice.

Is that ok with you hoops?

Or he could have been raging drunk and not even noticed the women, did he spend lots of money?

Town centers are full of drunken half naked women most weekends, who would drop their knickers and shag the nearest bloke to them in a shop doorway if it took their fancy.

Wow!

And this is considered normal??

'not even noticed the women'.
Where do you live, Hoops?
La La Land?

The Big Question is - do you want to stay in a relationship (and have a family) with a man who you absolutely cannot trust not to lie to you

Err, no!

Singledom - with kids - is so much more relaxed!

I live in the real world bay some people goes to these places to keep on drinking, I know I have, it was the last bar open, I think I saw about 4 naked women in the few hours I was in there for, they are not wandering around starkers all night

Well I'm sure he noticed them hoops, he got into bed extremely turned on and was groping me. He's not usually done that after a night out, usually just conks out.

Please stop playing this down hoops, not helping

I think the issue here is the fact he lied, what would you have done if as soon as he got home he told you where he had been? Would that have made a difference?

Jam, I am not sure this thread is helping you, love

Sorry, don't mean to play it down

Probably right AF.

Wouldn't have made much difference hoops, he should have called and told me before going in

I'm still interested in the questionable previous behaviour you alluded to which made you not trust him.

And what would have said? No, don't go in? Would he have listened to you? Sorry for so many questions, I'm genuinely sorry he lied to you (it's a deal breaker for me too)

The thread must have helped a little bit.
At least you know your not alone with the kind of things you value in a relationship.

I hope tomorrow is better for you and clearer.