The Wonderful World of Dating - 'Salts' Diary

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Glad to hear you've been out and about a lot, hey and at least you'll end up getting some good work!!

Your party sounds like it could be interesting

Well quite a bit has happened actually.

'L' and I were supposed to go out on Saturday night but I couldn't get a babysitter. So he came round to my place and cooked dinner which was nice.

'A' is still messing me around. I'd had enough of him for a while now so last night told him I wasn't interested anymore as I had got bored of trying to second guess him all the time. He called me later that night and talked me round AGAIN. I told him that I had other offers etc and he seemed to get quite offended by this and told me that he didn't want 'his girl' being chatted up by other men. I told him what I thought of him and why (too long winded for a post). He told me that ...yep you guessed it... he's just really busy with work. France next week, America March he's only just got back from South Africa... etc, swears blind he doesn't have a girlfriend/wife/finacee or anything else.

The guy I went to school with I haven't heard much from.

The guy who has just split from his girlfriend is still texting me constantly.

The guy who has broken my heart over and over again still keeps in touch (as always) but is buying a house with his now long-term girlfriend. Soon they will get married and I will have to go to the wedding and be very happy for them both

The guy who chatted me up in a bar the other week... well I never called him back - I keep thinking I should have.

I'm getting more worried about Valentines day as 'A' and 'L' still both think that I am ther girlfriend and not seeing anyone else. I kind of tried to bring the subject up with both of them and neither seemed happy when I skated round the subject of other people...

...there maybe trouble ahead... but while there's moonlight and love and romance...

Salt A will be at Highbury you know - see L in the daytime and A in the evening!!

Think 'L' might plan a grand gesture as he's a bit like that... hope he doesn't tell me he loves me. He seems quite romantic and can imagine him doing something like that. He turned up with a huge bunch of flowers on Saturday and cooked dinner - bought all the stuff with him too including wine etc...

It's just not an exasy night to make an excuse for. How do you turn down somebody your supposed to be 'seeing' on Valentines day?!?!? "Sorry dear I've got a better offer"

sad but true: the best valentine's day I ever had was at university and I went out to a fancy restaurant that had a special valentine's menu with 3 other single female friends and we had too much to drink and laughed and laughed and laughed, and all the couples around us who didn't look like they had much to say to each other started looking more and more envious. also, that morning I had sent an anonymous card to someone gorgeous, who I then got together with a week later but afterwards he said he was sorry and could not understand why he liked me so much because he was gay

Ouch.

I love girly nights out on valentines day and I have to agree they are much more fun. This year all my friends are attached though. Except for one, might see if she want's to go out that night then I have an excuse not to see either man and if need be can arrange one for the weekend before and one for the weekend after.

Not that I can see 'A' making an appearence at all though - weirdo! I've still only seen him once and that was in November!

I know 6 single females, 2 under 30, 2 are mothers late 20s/early 30s, and 2 are over 40 (one is a mother). If you can find a venue, maybe we should all go! After all, it is a Saturday this year. You and I have got to meet sometime - I wanted to invite you to my party but how could I when it is at home and we have not even met yet?

That's not a bad idea! if I can rope my friend into it we could head out in London and take it from there. She's calling me tonight so I'll mention it to her.

Just need to moan why oh why am I always surrounded by men who are so polite that whatever I do they never give me a signal whether they are interested but just being polite, or madly fancy me but are just being polite, or just want to be friends but are just being polite, or are married but are just being polite, or actively don't want to socialise with me, but are just being polite. Nothing about men is ever clear to me until (after a series of overtures and suggestions to meet from me, meeting with politeness, politeness, politness, and total ambiguity, ambiguity, ambiguity) I get really fed up and just kiss them - and even then I sometimes get an apology for not having told me they have a girlfriend, or an apology that they do not know what they want.

Politeness is back in fashion. Got a terribly polite invitation from someone I like, which I responded to politely. Politeness allows both parties to save face for as long as possible, and be terribly polite to various men at the same time, and not fall head over heals into a stupid relationship this time

OOP - you are funny!!

All this politeness. Why don't I meet polite men?

Are you talking about a specific encounter or just in general?

I am talking about someone in particular whom I find attractive but know very little personal information about, but also commenting that I have always battled against this politeness. I am going to try so hard this time not to do hasty things in response to the politeness factor. I am deliberately being sensible and keeping options open, and trying to see other men socially too. However, being proactive is definitely working. Two female friends (both late 20s) are coming out with me on Feb 14 for dinner and then drinks - email me if you and your friend want to join us.

OOP - any news from the last week? how's it all going?

I was in a Taxi last week and the driver asked me if I'd like to go out sometime, I declined. We were talking about exercise and he offered to pay for me to join his gym, I declined. He then offered to get me a week guest pass, I declined. Then I was at my destination and he tried a couple more times - I declined.

I saw L at the weekend and I'm supposed to be seeing A on Thursday night. First time since the initial date and am quite excited/nervous, this is his last chance too so if he cancels that's it! Part of me is hoping that he does cancel as I am starting to feel guilty about L. He obviously has feelings for me and I think I need to make a decision. The other part of me wants A to sweep me off my feet... ho hum, I'm never satisfied.

Oooh Salt, you vamp you

Like your taxi driver story! Makes a nice change from a political diatribe! I had my big party but only 15 friends could come; it was fun though. I have established that: one interesting man has got a girlfriend (said he was bringing her but in the end did not come); friendoffriendoffriend given second chance really is as boring as hell and just sat in the corner not mingling with my friends (but drinking all my drink greedily) and I don't want to see him again even as a friend; old flame who said he wanted to meet up again can't even be bothered to say whether or not he could come which I think is rude and I don't think I want to be friends with someone rude; another one did not bother replying either way, but I was more interested in him to introduce to my friend than for myself, and I know he is terribly busy at work (yet again); and the one I really like could not come but then asked me to meet him for lunch, but unfortunately then I was going to be too busy and it was ridiculous because we had to arrange to call each other 17 days later to find out if we could find a day when we were both free. So everything is at a halt, except that I realized that a man in a class I had been attending was very attractive and I got all psyched up to ask him for his no at the last class, but then he did not turn up! And while working I bumped into someone whom I vaguely know and decided he really is charming and handsome, and that I have been stupid to rule out younger men thinking they automatically will be too immature to get involved with someone with a ds. I will have to find out whether he has a girlfriend and how to approach not in a totally tactless way. My friend has just got engaged to a really nice guy about 5 years younger than her and had a big issue about it when they first started seeing each other; he was so great with ds that I was really envious, and he has not even got any nieces or nephews. Did you see A last night?

OOP - Glad it's still going quite well for you and glad you have made definite decisions about some. New potential is always a little exciting too! I wouldn't rule out people based on age, just there mentality once I'd got to know them

Well last night was...hmmm interesting. Apparaently he's not attached but thinks I might stalk him?!?!??!?!??!?! I was so isulted/gob smacked I actually just stared at him for a few seconds until I regained my composure. The guys ego is out of this world. Apparently he doesn't think I would or he wouldn't have taken me for dinner but quote "I have been wrong in the past" I nearly wet myself!

Still long and short of it is, I said I'd let him take me out again but I wasn't going to see him 'exclusively'. I noticed some charcter traits last night that I'm very against - let's just say he's very opinionated.

The guy is hilarious in the wrong sort of way though. Oh and I got a speech about how he can't see himself ever settling down or having a relationship. I asked why he was so pessimistic ans skeptical had why he had bothered to take me out and he practially contradicted himself there and then. Weirdo!