The Wonderful World of Dating - 'Salts' Diary

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Due to popular demand, Well actually the demand of Codswollop you will now ALL be able to follow me through this epic adventure in life.

Roll up, Roll up for this ONCE in a lifetime opportunity and follow me in this no-holds barred, hopefully colourful and VERY detailed diary of my dating experiences...

... I'll tell all, I promise.

salty1! where are you?

Cant live my life though yours any more! Hope your dates were good!

hi guys, sorry couldn't get on to mumsnet at all Thursday and Friday... was looking forward to getting your opinion on what to wear etc...

took a guess in the end and went for a really chunky choclate brown sweater (as it was Sunday night) and some funky brown and cream checked trousers (which I wore to speeddating in the first place).

He was an hour late

...but it was worth it

Tell us more - Tell us more

Wow

oh come on!!!

go on tell us more PLEASE!!!

I want to know!!!!! This is what i've got to look forward to!!!! Please tell

Ok, well I thought it would be a disaster and I could come on here and give you all a good laugh but actually it was ok. He wasn't as good looking or as tall as I remembered him to be but he did seem like a really nice (and funny) guy.

We got on really well (I thought) but I did a terrible thing and drank too much wine!!! I feel rotten today. He wasn't drinking either as he was driving so I did wake up this morning thinking "Oh no how did I end up so drunk" and worrying that I made a complete arse of myself.

Guess I just have to wait and see if he calls now - hope he does but have a feeling he won't And what's worse is that he's going away today so I have to wait at least a week to see if he's going to call.

Hangover is not helping me feel positive about this - all I want to do is crawl back into bed and things went slightly further than they would have if I had drank so much. Still, always next weekend to look forward to

Don't give yourself a hard time i did exactly the same on my first date. Hangovers make everything worse. I bet you just talked a lot and made him laugh. The man i did this with rang me back and i was leathered! Any way if he doesn,t you can get the better looking taller guy. Thats if i don't beat you to him

sounds ok salt I always used to get drunk on dates, I thought it was expected!

I'm sure it will be fine, just wait and see whether he gets in touch or not. Anyway, plenty more opportunities with other men if not!

Oooh forestfly you're single too.. can exchange dating stories!

Well will see, best start preparing for the next date I suppose. It's his loss if he doesn't call anyway...

why do they sell wine in small or large... why am I so greedy?!? why can't bar's just force you to drink small glasses of wine on a first date

• but it was fun, am going to throw myself into this dating lark just maybe not on a Sunday night in future. Wish I wasn't at work, feel SO ill.

I'm jealous you get dates, i don't know how to. Well i do with people who are just not my type! Large wine is a killer before you know it you've had a bottle. I had a drink before i went aswell to calm my nerves. I was getting a bit hysterical!

salt - that would be good - if you could tell the barman you were on a first date and then after a couple he would start giving you water instead!

Forestfly - I went speed dating. That's how I met last nights and next weekends. You should try it, just read your other thread - it will cheer you up, it's such a laugh.

Curse large white wine.

Maybe i'll look into it

Am fearing turning into Bridget Jones though, keep glancing at my mobile to see if I have any text message... it was only one bloody date, just did it again - sod!

Must think about next date

It's exciting though hey! If they ring i get all giddy and totally loose all dignity! Good luck, but he won't ring today will he? Isn't it the thing to not act eager and wait a few days?

Salt, I am also following your news with interest. You inspired me after weeks' delay to ring up a friend of a friend of a friend whose no had been given to me, and we are meeting on Friday. Have no information about him, except where he works, but was very flexible, wanting to meet at a time and place that suited me, and promising to call me back with a venue after asking a friend for recommendations. Now, here is a question for you - I had quite a long conversation with an interesting man at a charity event and afterwards thought I would like to see him again, but I could not find out anything from anyone about his name or contact or other information. However, I know when there is another event which he will probably be at, and my friend promised to go with me. But what should I do then, if he is there and still seems interesting? Should I just give him my no on a paper, or ask for his? Or should I be asking him if he is married first? Or is it better not to ask, because that gives him a polite get out if he does not want to exchange nos?

Oooh OutofPractice, sounds like it's all hotting up

I would go to the next charity event and get chatting to him, try and get the conversation on to weekends or hobbies or something... I always find that I can manage to slip a "Are you here with your partner?" or "Doesn't your wife mind you spending so much time at football?" into any conversation... then when he says "Oh no, I'm not married" you can continue the conversation and then later ask if he would like to meet up another time for a drink.

Tell more about Friday - are you excited? this is a different guy - right?

salt, you are the queen of chit chat

Yes, OOP, find out quite explicitly. THEN give him your number.

Codswallop - unfortunately not, just Desssperattte. Nah kidding.

Just find that those lines really work well - catches them off gaurd to so you normally get the truth! like "she's at home" or "nah, she hates it"...

Friend of friend of friend has not called yet actually he was supposed to email because he has not got a mobile (surely a plus point in life) and has probably written down the wrong spelling of email address. However, I can always ring him tomorrow evening to see what is going on, and arrange to see a real friend if he is not coming. This makes me think how I am too old to hang around waiting for someone to call me, and I had better get the second guy's number instead of ineptly just giving him mine and waiting for a call. Funny how we are all scared of predatory married men - I usually have ds with me, and if you ask whether a man has kids, he invariably tells you if he doesn't have a partner (on the other hand, men with partners but no children just keep quiet ...)