The Wonderful World of Dating - 'Salts' Diary

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Due to popular demand, Well actually the demand of Codswollop you will now ALL be able to follow me through this epic adventure in life.

Roll up, Roll up for this ONCE in a lifetime opportunity and follow me in this no-holds barred, hopefully colourful and VERY detailed diary of my dating experiences...

... I'll tell all, I promise.

lol Outofpractice... we could have a "I pulled you" party. All the women who get numbers etc could invite the men they've pulled then we could all mingle with all the men... talk about pooling resources! forget 't in the park' we could have 'predatory women in the park' - you have to admit... it's got a ring to it!!

Saturday was very good actually, stayed up drinking until 5am got on really well, talked and laughed about loads of stuff and there was more than a small spark but he's just that little bit too keen. I think I'll definitely see him again and take it from there. He sent me a text Sunday morning thanking me for a great night - which was nice actually.

I didn't like his shoes.

I think I'm getting Post Date Depression... the build up and the date are great and then the next few days I feel really miserable.

"A" mailed today asking if I'd got his phone message last night (which I didn't) and also said it's a shame we didn't meet up this week... errrmmm sorry but you didn't ask if we wanted to meet up, this guy is so unbeliveably arrogant!!

OOP - did you go on a date this weekend?

sounds good Salt!! Even if you didn't like his shoes, they could be changed!!

My DH was wearing the scruffiest (with holes) trakkie bottoms when I first went out with him, matched witha rather fetching cycle helmet!

That's what I was thinking, the shoes will have to go though, there's no two ways about it!

Should a guy pay loads of compliments on a first date, he did and over email today. It's making me feel a little uneasy. I guess he's just making an effort and they certainly sounded genuine enough but he's trying a little too hard (iykwim)

Also he seems quite immature for his age and I wonder if I might walk all over him if we started seeing each other regularly.

STOP B***Y ANALYSING THINGS!!!

Give the relationship a chance to develop naturally rather than going over every compliment, text message or whatever. You have had one date with the guy and you have already planned who is going to be the boss in this relationship and how long it will last. Go out, have fun, give the poor man and his shoes a chance. He is probably nervous (imagine if he knew about your diary!!) and therefore wants you to like him. You met at speed dating didn't you? Don't treatthe whole potential relationship like that

lol

Perhaps your right.

...especially after he decided to come visit me as the lack of trains meant a 2hour bus ride home for me in the middle of the night and I did happen to say it wouldn't be so bad as I'd have two hours to over-analyse the evening. And I wonder why I don't have a boyfriend

He's nice and I like him (except for the shoes)

what were the shoes lke?

Tell us what the rest of the package was like and we will let you know if you can bypass the shoes - I hope they weren't white! Glad you had a good time anyway! This is a great saga, can't wait for the next installment.

How big were the shoes

Sounds good. I think you should keep on seeing other people and keep your options open - perhaps this is the way to stop over-analysis. I didn't have a date, but went with my friend to the charity thing; as soon as I went in he remembered me and said hello and eventually I went over to chat and at the end he asked for my email, but suddenly I thought that I don't want to be giving an email contact to a total stranger, so just took his email. Anyway, I am accumulating all these contacts and expect you to do the same! Don't write off A or L - definitely worth keeping on a list if only for predatory women in the park event!!!

Forestfly... big enough

Ok, well, the rest of the package - he was tall - over 6ft easily! strawberry blonde-ish hair. He had one of those nice bodies where you can tell someone works out but it's not overdone.

On the whole nice looking... not drop dead gorgeous but certainly better than average (imho).

but the shoes... they were tan, suede(sp) trainer-type things, which with combats or something I'm sure would have looked pretty good but they just didn't work at all with his jeans.

I have a thing about shoes. If he's only got the one pair I'm in trouble!!

Anyway brief update on "A" - after I had a bit of a jokey-dig about him not being interested he sent me an email saying (basically) how could I say he wasn't interested and that he was the one chasing me... if that's his idea of chasing it's no wonder he's single!!

Just got mail from "L" - reading along the lines of 'nothing to say but just wanted to say hi'... ahh

OOP - could you not set up a hotmail account or something that you could give out to men. One that doesn't contain any personal details... just a thought...

It's good that he remembered you and asked for your contact, he obviously liked you!

Well "L" wanted to see me again this weekend but I am busy all weekend so it was a no go. Which is a bit of a shame actually as I quite like him although he's a bit full on.

AND have arranged to see "A" again the week before christmas, he has picked up his game although still am not sure about his motives!

OMG!!! bursting to tell somebody...

Late Friday afternoon my plans for the evening fell through. I already had arranged for DD to stay with parents so I dropped 'L' a line to see if he was free, he said he could be so we ended up going out Friday night. We went to a really swanky bar and spent the evening curled up on a huge sofa drinking wine and chatting... had a fantastic night.

Something really strange happened though... now, I don't have feelings for him (only been out twice) but I do like him and would like to get to know him better but... the first time we went out I had a 'I'm going to marry this man' thought which obviously I dismissed immediately but it happened again on friday night too. How can you think that about someone you don't even know?!?!

Got the train home Saturday morning (naughty girl) and got a text whilst on the train from 'A' asking if I wasn't home because he'd tried to call. Suddenly felt guilty - WHY?!?!? this guy just calls when he feels like it and is totally self obsessed, I've only been out with him once and yet I feel guilty because I wasn't in when he called?!?!?

At what point do you put all your eggs in one basket? I'm thinking not yet as I don't really know either of them very well... I need someone to tell me it's alright to see them both for a little while longer... I might not like either of them after all!!

I'd forgotten what all this felt like... the excitement of someone new... the possibility of a relationship... Christmas!!! I'm feeling very good at the moment...

Friday night was great, we even shared a hotdog in the rain... sad(?)... I thought it was quite romantic.

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WoW Sounds great Salt. Rememebr I told you about my friend and the dating agency, well 4 months on she is engaged!!! Just go with it, enjoy the ride

Greedy
I'd keep them both on hold for a little while longer, A might be alright, just being cautious, and you might go off L, or vice versa, who knows?!!!!! Just don't tell the other man, and don't keep it going on for a long time, just until you know which ones turned into a boyfriend. Sounds very exciting to me i'd stop fretting and bloody enjoy there attention

Good for you Salt.
I agree with Forestfly. Date both of them until you decide which one you like best. That's what I did after my first live-in relationship broke up.
It's good for your self-esteem and a few dates doesn't constitute an exclusive relationship. There's plenty of time in the future to find to find the new mr right - don't rush into anything.

thanks guys, I'm on such a high at the minute. This is the first time in ages that I've had any (good) excitement in my life

Just want to tell everyone that I see what a great time I had in detail but have refrained so far and have not told anyone

Well this might be the last time I get to post until next year so a quick round up...

I'm seeing "L" on Sunday, I have an awful feeling he's bought me a christmas present so need to go and buy one in return (just in case) but have no idea what to get as we don't even know each other that well. Any ideas?

I'm seeing "A" on Monday night, still know nothing about this guy at all but he does phone me once a week so have no idea what his game is. I think we may both be just keeping each other on a back burner.

So will let you all know how it goes when I return in the new year... hopefully will have loads of gossip. Especially as I'm going to a girly christmas meal on Friday night, we have one every year and it gets very messy... one year a bloke ran up behind me and bit my bum so hard I had teeth marks for a fortnight (through a pair of jeans too)

OOP - are you still around - do you have any dates over Christmas?

Have a great time Salt >sulk

FF - whatever happened to that guy in the barbers?

Nothing, i didn't know what to do, he doesn't even no who iam, and i don't even no if hes taken. Pointless

What happened to the handbag mission?

I went in but didn't leave anything i felt like a bit of an a*e

Do you have a DS?