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The Wonderful World of Dating - 'Salts' Diary

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salt · 17/11/2003 16:19

Due to popular demand, Well actually the demand of Codswollop you will now ALL be able to follow me through this epic adventure in life.

Roll up, Roll up for this ONCE in a lifetime opportunity and follow me in this no-holds barred, hopefully colourful and VERY detailed diary of my dating experiences...

... I'll tell all, I promise.

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outofpractice · 02/12/2003 11:28

Cheer up! I have got 3 single friends in the same boat (as I found out on Friday), one of whom is also a mother, and we are making resolutions to try and go out more - if there are no interesting men, at least we will have a good laugh together. Do you want to come out after Xmas with us? One of them also wants to go speed dating, out of curiosity - shall we all go together? Keep on telling yourself that there are some really good quality men, just like there are great jobs, and great places to live, but it takes a bit of effort and searching to find them!

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salt · 02/12/2003 11:32

Yep we could all go together - that would be fun - thanks.

I've cheered up a bit, I'm just cross with myself for liking someone that I don't even know. Just one of those days... dark morning, boring work on etc

All my friends are attached now, it would be fun to have some single friends but then it's going out. I resolve to go out at LEAST once a fortnight next year and I'm going to try for once a week. In fact I'm going to start looking for a regular reliable babysitter from today!

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princesspeahead · 02/12/2003 11:42

I have a comical first date story. Was asked out to dinner with someone from work, amusing guy, bit of an eccentric, but fine. Met up with him at the restaurant. He was wearing.... red, green, yellow and blue rainbow striped mohair sweater, black drainpipe jeans, zippy motorcycle jacket, green "PLO"-type scarf, and blue CLOGS! I'd only previously seen him in a city suit. Nearly hightailed it out of there, but thought "hell, it is only dinner". Then about 20 mins into the evening his brother came and joined us - completely pissed because his daughter had just been born the night before, he'd come from the hospital to celebrate with us. Sat down and told me all sorts of lurid stories about his life. It was the most bizarre date I've ever been on!

But the really funny bit?

Mr mohair-sweater-and-clogs is now my husband! Ha ha ha ha ha hahahahahahahaha

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salt · 02/12/2003 12:17

PPH - That is a fanastic story!! I'm speachless. Does he still have the sweater?!??!

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princesspeahead · 02/12/2003 12:22

I thought he didn't, but he confessed a month or so ago that he still does!
The TERRIBLE thing is that he refers to it as his "pulling sweater" - and really, who am I to disagree?

Oh, the shame of it

StressyHead · 02/12/2003 12:24

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princesspeahead · 02/12/2003 12:27

noooooooo stressyhead, that is too creepy!

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salt · 02/12/2003 12:29

ROFL both of those tales are so funny... how come nothing like that ever happens to me?!?!

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princesspeahead · 02/12/2003 12:31

count your blessings salt. or you could be married to a stripey clog-man with an oedipal complex...

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salt · 02/12/2003 12:41

hmmm, when you put it like that...

Just had an email from "A" making reference to and light of the text I sent him last night. Sent an email back also making light of it but having a cheap dig at the same time. Have got bored of his game.

Am now looking forward to "L" on Saturday night, it sounds like we'll have a nice night... don't know what to wear though...

Will keep my eye out for any mum-ish figures lurking around and hope for a rainbow sweater and blue clogs as these clothing items are obviously a good omen!

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outofpractice · 03/12/2003 18:10

Has anyone successfully asked a client out? Loads of men meet their partners this way, but women (or maybe just me?!) seem to be too scared about souring a working relationship and losing business from a good client. How can you get to know a potentially interesting client without being really direct? Obviously, one can't put a client in an embarrassing/awkward position if he wants to refuse, nor does one want to get too serious with a client whom you are just vaguely interested in.

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salt · 04/12/2003 08:32

OutofPractice... hmmm, someone in particular?!?!

I guess if you could bring general chit-chat into your meetings and then perhaps start to arrange meetings for lunchtimes where you could discuss work in a nice little bistro or fancy bar... once out of the office environment it's easier to move onto more casual conversation. Is this possible in your line of work?

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spacemonkey · 04/12/2003 08:36

PPH - "stripey clog man"! GUFFAW!!!!!!!!

outofpractice · 04/12/2003 10:58

No one in particular - the whole dating enterprise is all in general, until someone really interesting appears. Where are you meeting L and who is babysitting for you? Do you know whether A and L are also meeting other women?

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salt · 04/12/2003 11:11

Well am meeting "L" at Euston station and then we're just going to some bars. I really don't know what to wear though.

My parents have dd overnight and I will get a taxi back to theirs afterwards, I live in the sticks and it would cost a small fortune in taxi fare to get back to mine.

I haven't even spoken on the phone to "L" yet so it will feel like a real blind date. Am getting a little nervous, wasn't nervous at all when meeting "A".

"A" said he hadn't been in contact with anyone else but then I said the same thing to him! Have written him off anyway, I haven't mailed him today and have decided to see if he bothers to mail me. We sort of fell out on Tuesday and although were mailing yesterday I'm bored of his game.

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salt · 04/12/2003 11:14

Well am meeting "L" at Euston station and then we're just going to some bars. I really don't know what to wear though.

My parents have dd overnight and I will get a taxi back to theirs afterwards, I live in the sticks and it would cost a small fortune in taxi fare to get back to mine.

I haven't even spoken on the phone to "L" yet so it will feel like a real blind date. Am getting a little nervous, wasn't nervous at all when meeting "A".

"A" said he hadn't been in contact with anyone else but then I said the same thing to him! Have written him off anyway, I haven't mailed him today and have decided to see if he bothers to mail me. We sort of fell out on Tuesday and although were mailing yesterday I'm bored of his game.

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salt · 04/12/2003 13:33

OH NO - PLEEEEEEEEASE someone have a brainwave... I've just checked the train times (normally v. frequent from here to London so not a problem) AND would you believe, they're not running Saturday night due to engineering works. Anyone got any ideas?!?!?

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outofpractice · 04/12/2003 13:56

Why not just call up L, who seems to be a single guy without kids and big organisational problems, and tell him you are having problems meeting him and please can you just go out somewhere near your parents' house? You can just go there during Saturday with your dd and get dressed there, can't you?

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salt · 04/12/2003 14:17

Could do (hadn't thought of that) but wanted to go out in London for a change. Might suggest he come's here instead, he did offer after all and that would make my life a whole load easier!

It's amazing what you don't think of when you're panicking!! feel stupid now!

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salt · 05/12/2003 14:55

It's my date tomorrow night. Don't know what to wear, don't know where to take him and don't even feel remotely interested. Let's hope this means he turns out to be the man of my dreams eh...

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outofpractice · 05/12/2003 16:25

Hope you enjoy your date tomorrow. Tbey say you are supposed to wear something you feel comfortable and attractive in, and not too loud (unless you feel at ease that way!). Not sure where you should take him. I have got bored of meeting dates for a drink and just talking so I am now trying to arrange to do more interesting things, like quick drink then cinema, or go to some event, or go to a party where there will be other friends you want to see. That way, you can have a nice evening even if you don't particularly like him. Sometimes I think you can tell just as much from a person's manner as from his words, so you do not "waste" the date by not talking all the time.

outofpractice · 05/12/2003 16:33

testing

CountessDracula · 05/12/2003 17:26

Good luck for saturday salt!

eidsvold · 07/12/2003 21:52

oh salty hope it all worked out - funny datin story - fixed up by a friend with a blind date - wondered why friend's friend kept referring to potential date as noddy ... interesting choice of nickname..

WELL

when he showed up - he bloody looked like noddy.... I mean where was a girl supposed to look to avoid from bursting out into laughter.

took me out for a really posh dinner into the city - ( when i lived in aus) drove like a loony.....

then spent the evening breaking into snorting laughter whenever I said anything remotely amusing - i know I can be funny but I was not that funny and one more snort and I was outta there. I was sooooo embarrassed......

needless to say - never saw him again and was soooo mad at friend for thinking I would like this guy - but she felt pressured by her friend to fix up date......

outofpractice · 08/12/2003 13:03

Go on salt - what happened on Saturday? I am feeling jaded and bored now of my very assertive dating. Got someone else's email address and felt pleased with myself, but afterwards thought I am not really interested in seeing any of them again. So, all I have proved is that I still know how to flirt and get someone's number off him, but why am I accumulating all these guys' contact details whom I feel so lukewarm about seeing again? Perhaps I should have a huge picnic in the park in the summertime (by which time I will have contact details of 100 single men to invite, at this rate) and try and pair up all my single female friends.

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