The honing of the twat radars - dating chat thread number 9

[lubeybooby]

Thread got too big so here's a new one :o

All dating, online or otherwise in here please

Chit chat to serious stuff - off we go!

dating - pass them on :)
snape - sorry :( on all counts.

I got a text from the teacher saying ' now the trouble with having a friend with benefits is, what do you say to each other on valentines day?'

Im not sure how to respond??
Part of me is going ' what, we are fwb, since when, i didnt agree to that ??????'
then ' clearly it is just sex, im all offended'
then ' urgh, i dont want to say anything to anyone about valentines day'
then ' i have nothing to say, its just sex'
then ' aw, bless him, sweet to send something?

i need a response, advise me!

Difficult, watch. Do you think he's just awkwardly acknowledging the occasion, or fishing for, something a bit more emotional from you?

i have no idea!!!

who knows. I dont even know myself. I wouldnt have labelled it a fwb, but then i dont know what i would have labelled anything as, seeing as i have no clue what i want. Hes just someone whos company i enjoy???
i dont know???

i dont know if i should go back with something cheeky, or sarky or sweet?
or what.
meh.
I dont know what to do. help.

ive gone with sarky and slightly patronising.
' lol, we are friends with benefits?'

way to go me. way to go.
You see, this is why im single. I cant even work out what it is i want.

oh - he has replied with ' well, we have had lots of sex, and are friends, arent we?'

urgh, i suck so badly.

its ok. i pulled it back with ' yes, so maybe ' have a ncie day and a promise of some filth later'

and he came back with

' have a nice day, promise to fuck you friday :)'

who said romance was dead.
though i am rubbish, utterly rubbish. Talk about totally claming up.

Hahahahaha. Well done!
Not too bad a save though.

I am smirking at watch.

'I've checked my calendar and 'fwb day' is on the 62nd of Heliopary, but if you fancy a shag on friday i'm up for it.'

i think the difficulty here is you don't know what you want, or what it is and it's possibly too early to define what it is, so maybe have a think about what you want? :)

me and PM are writing our screenplay again. it's lovely to sit and write, we're sparky, goddamit.

I've accepted the dinner invitation. .
I WILL NOT get sucked into anything even slightly 'serious' though.

I'm feeling saucy today. I've even started a thread about sex toys, but I don't think anyone's biting yet. Perhaps I should have put it in Chat.

That's a great suggestion Snape, why weren't you here earlier when watch needed the help?

I just got a valentines card from ykw.

I need some kind of mn batphone.....

watch the audacity of ykw. Bastard! Fuckmuppet!

hey internet daters, catching up on what you have all been up to!

Watch - He was fishing. Definitely. You dont text your FWB anything on valentines day unless its smut. In my opinion! Good save though. I think you should just go with the flow, no working out what you want...just see how it goes and then you wont have to work anything out, you will know.

You really think he was fishing? Really?
No..... Can't have been. Impossible.
Though he is in contact everyday, yestetday he text ne to tell me he was thinking of me and was looking.forward to Friday. Eh? This confuses me.

I'm totally speachless about ykw' s card. I have no idea what to think or how to respond to that either ????

I agree, fwb arrangements and valentines day seem sort of incongruous!

Fishing!!! The question is do you want him to fish? I agree with go with the flow though

I'm meeting the young whippersnapper tonight, at his home - eek

I haven't had a snog on Valentines day for about 17 years - the same as the age gap

my mum married a man who was 27 when she was 44, they're still together some 25 years later..
I'm just sayin' :)

I remember he had a white ford capri

trying to summon up some enthusiasm to meet a bloke on Friday.
Feels like a 90% chance that my first sight of him will be swiftly followed by that familiar sinking feeling of 'ooops I dont fancy him..how quickly can I get out of here'

No response needed for ykws card watch. Get him to stuff. :)

Yup I really think he was fishing! Fwb is meant to be just sex, he didn't have to text you anything today, knowing arrangements were in place for Friday. He is younger than you isn't he. I bet he would like a bit more than fwb but is nervous about taking the initiative. Just my two cents!

With ykw, a picture of a small bonfire with said vday card should suffice!

He's 24. But comes across confident.
Maybe he might be thinking that... ?? I doubt it. But he knows I was/ am very anti any thing serious.

Who knows? Seeing him Friday, hes coming round at 4 and won't leave till sat lunchtime.

Also, I text ykw..do you think I have had a reply? No, no I have not.
Reason 1002 why I would never be in a relationship with him.

Ach you shouldnt have text him! He is a fuckwit of the highest order :) If you have made it clear you are anti anything serious, then it will have to come from you should you decide you want to move up a level and actually....date :D no rush though eh, just see how it goes!

Maybe a little hinting doesnt hurt? How is she supposed to know he wants more if he doesnt hint at all?? Its the sort of thing i used to do, but internet dating means i can just out right ask it, cos i usually have a drink discussion (normally with you guys) and then do it!

I am/ was on POF, but all theguys in my age group on there seem to want pure filth....and i am not that type of girl. I am only a fallen angel...whose halo shattered into a million peices at about 14!