The honing of the twat radars - dating chat thread number 9

[lubeybooby]

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All dating, online or otherwise in here please

Chit chat to serious stuff - off we go!

And guess what message i just got...... i was talking about feeling lonely, wanting some company, someone to talk to and hug etc, and i have been talking to him for the last about 4 hours so he just jumped in with "k you want to meet for some sex then" like hellloooo there is more to me than that! Jesus are all 18-26 year olds sex maniacs??

Hello all, some update...spent lovely evening with German dr....then even more charming night! He had booked a hotel and had put a bottle of champagne in his bag (with real glasses)...well!!!!! If I slept 3 hours I would say that I was lucky!
He sent me a charming message for valentine day and asked if I was free again on Thursday.
I've told him that coming out of a long term relationship I don't want to start another one and he's fine with that. Enjoys my company and wit and the sex , he's 10 years younger than me. Not sure that I will survive.

I am sure you can keep up with him! He'll be the one needing a rest!

Glad that some people are managing to find love online, starting to think about ditching POF, cos they all seem pervy on there, or maybe go for someone older than me (i'm early twenties). They all seem a little one minded. But the last time i went for someone older i ended up getting a divorce (still waiting for it to get sorted though)

no luck - sounds fantastic. glad its going well.

so mrs cello - update!!!!

loves - meh, i know that feelig so well!

mylittle - age makes no difference to the perv factor! Just give it time, you never know what might come up.

YKW did text back. At 1:15am i did not reply. It wasnt a text that needed a reply in any case. weird, whole thing is just weird.

Im still not convinced the teacher was fishing. I mean, we have only seen each other twice, he cant want any more from me after only that? Im just going to ignore and see if he brings anything up

Morning everyone

Been off work the last few days so not logged on as much. I had a good chat with Mr Yacht about things, lots of misunderstandings but all is good now. Had a lovely Valentines with him. My 2 DC's made me breakfast in bed, complete with waitress service and menu and my DD bought me some pressies.

Watch I think Mr Teacher was fishing to find out whether you are fwb or if there is more to it.

Sounds like a lovely evening with German Dr noluck

I got a Valentines message from my XP - why do they do that!!

They send you valentines, for two reasons.... 1, they want you back, and 2, they want to make sure you dont get someone else!

Or if on good terms, because they do still care, but could they not just send a "friendship" card and a box of chocolates??

Spot on Mylittle

Update - sweet boy lol Had a nice coffee in his flat and then had some nice snogging and fumbling. He is so young though, not a wrinkle on his face

I will possibly see him again if he asks as he is very intelligent and good company

Hotbutdim phoned today and suggested tomorrow night - thurs nights are becoming a bit of a pattern. I suggested we don't drink, mainly so I can see just how bad his hang ups about the bend are. I got a feeling they run very deep

I like him quite a lot, still don't think he is relationship material but as a mate he fab

Been chatting today to an italian and a frenchman, both seem nice, quite like an accent

Mrs c!!!! Yay :)
You are having abit of a fab time, aren't.you.

How's this for weird. Do you remember oct time I had a date with this guy that lived an hour a way, and I wasn't sure what to do, but ended up cancelling? Well we stayed as fb friends. Last few weeks he's been emailing me on there. Then the othet week he came to my town and asked if I was free for coffee. Which I wasn't. Well, I'm now off to his for the weekend, two weeks from now.
I'm not sure where this has come from????? But, he's ' seeing' someone. I know.this from his fb... Only 2 months. Hes told me its nothing serious at all and that he would really Like to meet me, because we nearly had it, the only problem was the distance.
??????

Eh, now hes like ' I'm going to get a train and see you tomorrow, I liked you from the get go'

Eh?

What?

Huh?

Bloody confusing..I really have no clue when it comes to men.
And I got several othet valentines texts yestetday too... From various people in the last year or so..

???? Eh???

I got one valentines wish yesterday night, quite late from someone who i have been speaking to since starting on the dating site. He seems really nice but also quite busy and really understanding. Just generally a nice person, so was well happy i got a valentines back from him! But not looking too much into it. x

I give up! I have had one message on pof in last 2 months, been sending messages but never get a response :( guess I am going to have to try a paying site afterall.
Seems to be one look at my picture and spelling punctuation and grammar requests and they all slink back under their stones.
Men who needs them!

Valentine update here.
My Very Nice Man from POF is still very keen. We have been together five months and haven't yet managed to have even a tiny falling out.

I seem to have become a nicer happier chilled person without a hot temper around him. I am beginning to trust this and think all the anger was due to the Ex/horrible marriage after all.

He has become happy and whistles a lot and has started tidying and cleaning his messy house without any nagging prompting and is full of lovely plans for our future. He has paid off all his credit card debts and is solvent as well. But neither of us are in a rush to live together and he hasn't met my (older) DC as they don't want to meet him yet (however my dad thinks he is great and my friends all like him)

Yesterday he made me tea, gave me wine and roses, jewellery and cards and came over for a home cooked meal to keep the cost down. He'll be over later to warm me up in bed.

I'm not boasting, just saying there ARE some good'uns on POF. He was on there two years before he found me. I struck lucky in a week.

watch Personally, I'd have reservations about someone who seemed to be willing to 'trade in' his current squeeze for you at such short notice. If you had a date with him in October, he chose someone else, then comes back to you? I'd be saying thanks but no thanks. Your choice though. ;)

LittleHouse That's a ray of hope for us all. What nice news.

MsC Rah! You are doing well.

I have a date for coffee tomorrow morning. I have a cold and I'm really not feeling it. We'll see how it goes.

Then my dinner date on Friday. I really hope I'm feeling better by then. Sounds like a nice restaurant.

Btw, does anyone know if the 'hide' option on POF hides your whole profile or just the pics? I can still see Mr Friday night's profile, but it says his photos are hidden. Not sure what to read into that. Hope he's not marked me out as girlfriend material, he may be disappointed.

Incidentally I am amused that on both New Year's Eve and on Valentine's Day my VMN has had lots of texts and emails from women he met on POF and other dating sites who didn't like him enough to go out with him more than a few times. It seems they suddenly realise they are still single and he wasn't so bad after all.

That seems a bad idea, rehashing something that didn't work out before.
But he says I am nicer than them anyway

Dating, I cancelled on him, on account of the distance.

I always liked him.
He only met her mid nov.

I don't mind hanging out with him for the weekend..I know we will get on fantastically.

Dating, I cancelled on him, on account of the distance.

I always liked him.
He only met her mid nov.

I don't mind hanging out with him for the weekend..I know we will get on fantastically.

Twat radar. Man wanted to come to mine for coffee, I met him on PoF so suggested meeting somewhere public instead and his reaction was to say that I'm obviously the type of girl who messes people about. :-/

Thing is he's still texting me asking to come round for coffee... Urrrm no. Dodgy or what?

Radar going off there Hanaka as I think most men would understand that you want to meet somewhere public as no matter ho much you talk online they are still strangers....Next

Watch I remember him. Am tempted to say meet him (de ja vu as I'm sure I said the same in October ) but I would worry about what he is telling the woman he is seeing, does she know its not serious.

Sounds like a lovely Valentines Littlehouse there are plent of good ones out there too.

Why isn't hotbutdim relationship material MScello

Hi Lubey, Time and Poppa

yeah, i am going to meet him. and yes, you did say the same then. Hes not been seeing her long, like 2 months. This is an actual fact. What he has/ has not said to her, im not worrying about. Im not going for a ' date' rather a rum filled weekend, because hes really cool and we get on so well. ( are you fooled by the smoke and mirrors?) i didn not approach him, he did men, said that he wished we had met etc... and ijust thought why not. Probably not my finest momment, but, meh, it snot like hes married. Or even in a long term relationship.
am i awful?

thenykw phoned lst night too. Long conversation, hes trying to ' be more thoughtful and show me that he cares' i told him i had got lots of valentines, which he did not like :) then he baulked at the idea i might possibly have the attention of other men. hahahaha.

Not surprised ykw didn't like the idea of lots of Valentines, I think though he would show he cares alot more if he was single and pursuing you. Don't mean that to sound as though I doubt how he feels as I dont doubt it for a second, just with he was more available to you.

2 months isn't a long term thing but I would have been gutted it Mr Yacht met up with someone 2 months on. I do remember though that he had lots of potential. Just worried I guess that if you meet up and really like him then he's not free to date.

Mr Yacht's 2 DS's are coming round this Saturday again. His oldest DS keeps asking when they can visit although I think its my mother hen 8 year old daughter who he wants to see

Oh and I'm meeting him Mum and other sister next weekend. Ahhhhh

yes, yes he would. Im not going to get in a stress about it. its up to him. Though i did tell him ive always doubted what he says with reagrds to me, which he didnt like, but said he understood why. He4 said hes going to try and chnage that. Quite why? and bearing in mind its been this way for nearly 3 years? ridiclous.

yeah, um. obviously you are right. I know this really. Im not planning on stealing him. Hes not going to tell her, obviously, but said, should we end up just mates, he would like us to hang out, so if he told her, she might get funny about that. which i can understand. Because we might just get on as friends. Thats where this has come from ( from my side, ish) we get on really really well, and i know he would be awesome fun.

watch have a good weekend! sounds fun. :)

zany glad everything going well. :)

hanaka fuckmuppet.

me? nothing to report.