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The honing of the twat radars - dating chat thread number 9

999 replies

lubeybooby · 08/02/2012 20:24

Thread got too big so here's a new one :o

All dating, online or otherwise in here please

Chit chat to serious stuff - off we go!

OP posts:
TimeForMeAndDD · 10/02/2012 16:33

Grin Grin

TimeForMeAndDD · 10/02/2012 16:34

I quite like a nice forearm. I would stroke it.

MsCellophane · 10/02/2012 16:37

Hotbutdim was my name for him - but he isn't actually that dim so the name is naughty really. It was my first impression of him. He's actually smart in a different way, very artistic and a little bit camp

We are totally different, he is a young 40 year old, into garage and house type music still, never married, no kids, has lived a very fun life and has no idea what will happen next week. I'm a working mother with mortgage and pensions and an intricate ten year plan lol

He is lovely, one thing I couldn't work out is why he is actually single- it's because firstly he has no idea just how hot he is, he is quite a shy man with a real issue about his bendy willy. It stops him getting into relationships, which is sad really

Maybe he will grow on me and opposites will attract after all but I think having him as a friend will be amazing - even just for the laughing

MsCellophane · 10/02/2012 16:40

Ooh yes - forearms are so sexy - sexier than any cock, bendy or straight. Tanned with a little soft hair - yum

I am definitely going to help him through his issues and have great fun in the meantime

DatingMinefield · 10/02/2012 16:43

By 'work through his issues', I did, of course, mean jump up and down on him.Grin

Stop getting me all riled up with your talk of nice forearms. I dont need any encouragement. Wink

TimeForMeAndDD · 10/02/2012 16:44

Forearms are more attractive than cocks. In fact, I may add to my profile to send photo's of forearms instead of cock pics.

I think it's very kind of you to help him through his issues MrsC Grin

watchoutforthatsnail · 10/02/2012 16:46

Mrs c :), you Made me.lol.

I have a thing.about forearms.too.
Makes me go a bit weak at the knees.

noluck · 10/02/2012 16:47

Well, I didn't have to distance myself for long....German Dr has called to make a new date for next week. Swoon, who cares where we're having dinner....Blush, Blush and re Blush. Must make an appointment for waxing my bits and pieces....
I really didn't remember that dating could be such hard work (and fun)

lovesadirtylie · 10/02/2012 16:47

ha ha..you know they'd only send a pic of their forearm with their cokc resting on it Confused

DatingMinefield · 10/02/2012 16:50

Waaaaah! Grin @ lovesadirtylie

You are all killing me today!

DatingMinefield · 10/02/2012 16:54

I might request pictures of nice backs of the neck. I don't think they'll manage to rest their cocks on that. Hmm.

Snapespeare · 10/02/2012 17:13

I would accept pictures of cocks that could be mistaken for a forearm.

purely in the name of medical science.

:)

( I do like a nice forearm as well, I almost touched his fore skin arm last time.)

Snapespeare · 10/02/2012 17:15

msC hotbutdim sounds absolutely delicious, bendy bits or not. you're absolutely right, we all worry about what we see as imperfections and the other person just doesn't see them at all. :)

feedbackforfree · 10/02/2012 18:56

Hello everyone that left me caring and kind words after my horrible experience.

I'm absolutely fine. Just putting this into perspective because I've had some lovely dates and this is the first time I've had a problem. On reflection, there were some warnings which I pushed to the back of my mind so it is a lesson to all that where you have a doubt, it's probably there for a reason.

Good luck with all your searching. I'm gonna have a few weeks off, settle myself down and concentrate on what I have in real life and not this bloody internet dating. And of course, there's always the gorgeous guy that I've been dribbling over for weeks that just happened to text me last week. (He's not an internet date but we have a little history and he's free now so I may just go for that coffee he suggested!)

Best of luck to you all. I feel as if I have the best supportive network of friends that I have never met. In my previous names, I have received much support and good advice that I could never get from those in my day to day lives. This site is the best!

TimeForMeAndDD · 10/02/2012 19:01

Thanks for coming back Feedback, I'm pleased you are doing ok Smile I hope all goes well with your new dating interest too, sounds promising. You take good care of yourself and don't be a stranger! Smile x

feedbackforfree · 10/02/2012 19:05

I won't Timefor - I've enjoyed reading this thread. I've been internet dating a year and I've done loads of intimate encounters and never, ever had a problem. With the advent of 2012, I made a new profile - dating, not IE and the first one I meet up with, is a twat. Better go back to intimate encounters!

The new love interest? He is the only bloke I've met in a long time that I want. I sent him packing three weeks ago because of my fear of getting hurt but he contacted me talking about our time together so I will do my best to meet him half way. I'm an awful sodding communicator when it comes to affairs of the heart!

TimeForMeAndDD · 10/02/2012 19:23

I do admire you for not letting this one terrible experience put you off, it's so easy to tar all men with the same brush, something I am working on trying not to do because I would like to experience love and have a shag before my fanjo ceases up for good

Your new man sounds lovely and I am pleased you are going to do your best to meet him half way. Do you think you could be more scared because you do actually really like him? If he was someone you weren't really into you would just go for it regardless.

You should stay on the thread, we are really good with advice when it comes to affairs of the heart. and other rude things

lovesadirtylie · 10/02/2012 19:23

Feedback, glad to hear you're ok after that horrible experience.

I have a bit of a theory that with IE type dating men show their colours much more quickly and the bad ones show up more easily

TimeForMeAndDD · 10/02/2012 19:27

I agree loves I've had messages from the same men on both a regular and an IE profile and they do stand on ceremony less on the IE side.

Zanywany · 10/02/2012 19:34

Glad your OK Feedback

Dating and Snapes you made me spill my wine from laughing at yuor forearm/skin/cock resting Grin

feedbackforfree · 10/02/2012 19:43

Timefor, you're correct. I have feelings for Mr. Separated. We went to school together and have know each other for almost 40 years although no real contact until recent years through our jobs. When I met up with him by chance, I'd been single for so long but I knew right away that he was what/who I wanted. He came back in touch when his marriage was in (more) trouble and we flirted and chatted. When he finally left, we had a fling but I wasn't sure what it was we had so I walked. However, he text me last week and asked to meet up so I still don't know what he wants out of this but I have to give it a chance (and make him fall in love with me!) He left it for me to contact him which I have done today so we are going for coffee to have a chat and a catch up.

Also, Mr. Nasty had no idea I have been an IE person. I made it very clear that I was looking for dating.

lovesadirtylie · 10/02/2012 19:51

Mr Nasty sounds like a vile basket case Angry

I know I've wised up quite alot over time with internet dating, just through learning the hard way, I cringe at how I let some people take the pi$$ Blush

TimeForMeAndDD · 10/02/2012 20:13

Feedback I can understand why you feel the way you do, it does sound as though he is keen though. I hope you are able to let go of your fears and just go with the flow, it could be a jolly nice experience Smile

As for the vile basket case, well, he is just that, vile. Let's hope he get's his comeuppance pretty soon. Even if he did know you had previously has a IE profile it didn't give him the right to treat you the way he did, you could have turned up to the date completely naked and he still wouldn't have had a right to lay a finger on you unless you gave him permission to do so. You did absolutely nothing wrong, this wasn't about you, it's about the vile excuse for a man that he is.

Snapespeare · 10/02/2012 23:14

Feedback, hello. :) glad you seem to be feeling a bit better about the while fucking horrible horribleness. Been thinking about you over the last few days, really glad you have a potential who doesn't seem to be an inherent fuckmuppet. I reiterate, please don't be a stranger, we are all lovely Blush & would like to hear how you're getting on. :)

I am making myself a Bacon sandwich & will then do date-deconstruct for the interested...

Snapespeare · 10/02/2012 23:14

Feedback, hello. :) glad you seem to be feeling a bit better about the while fucking horrible horribleness. Been thinking about you over the last few days, really glad you have a potential who doesn't seem to be an inherent fuckmuppet. I reiterate, please don't be a stranger, we are all lovely Blush & would like to hear how you're getting on. :)

I am making myself a Bacon sandwich & will then do date-deconstruct for the interested...