The honing of the twat radars - dating chat thread number 9

[lubeybooby]

Thread got too big so here's a new one :o

All dating, online or otherwise in here please

Chit chat to serious stuff - off we go!

Oh Zany - how fab. You had a few reservations before, so it sounds like you had a really good trip.
Freak - hope the test is negative. Good news with your man though.
Watch - did he say on OKC that he has a huge cock, or did you ask him? Just wondering how the "have you got a huge one conversation goes!)

no, he was on pof..
erm, you are probably asking the wrong person, but im the queen of cock pics :)
i dont know, you start out with a slightly smutty/ flirty conversation and it soon desends into filth. That is of course, if you want to, at this momment in time, with it being spring and all, yeah, i do :)
If i didnt want the conversation to go that way, or wasnt comftable, then i wouldnt allow it.
Then you know, men - egos, all worshiping their cock and wanting to show it off for the most amazing thing they all think it is... send a picture. Or they say its huge, you say prove it, and seconds later your phone is beeping.
I am not proud of myself.
Anyway - ive seen it, its big.

zany - sounds like you had a lovely time away, jealous of the tan.

freak - wow, thats really good, pleased for you :)

hmmmph. well, it's a resurfacing of an old affliction that one keeps for ever and if one is careful can be managed. there were no indications of 'it' being around when the deed was done and condoms were used, so I'm fairly certain mr distraction is OK, I haven't heard from him, how would I know...

apparently it can just resurface through friction. there was an appreciable amount of friction. He was warned that there was the very slightest risk involved...and i think he'll be fine - that is probably worrying me on some level, I should maybe text him and suggest he goes to the GUM, but I won't. blocked him on OKC as well.

I'm not feeling particularly well. I am not sitting comfortably. in retrospect the sex was not worth the fanny agony one is currently experiencing. I need to have a serious think about future PIV related stuff (...) I'm not sure if I have acted completely honourably as regards the extent of risk he may or may not have been exposed to. :(

freak :) fingers crossed for you and lovely that you're getting on with someone nice

zany lovely news! :)

post waiting for date update! :)

watch another 'almost' 9"er. are you on some kind of specialist site?

It is really nice. I think in the past, whenever I've felt the need for things to progress faster, or get more serious, it's been because I haven't really known where I stand, or have sensed them holding back or whatever so have wanted to pin them down and elicit some kind of commitment. But with him, I know he's into me, he doesn't blow hot and cold, it's just really easy and as a result I don't feel the need to speed things up. It's very refreshing!

poor thing snape...as far as I know things with that virus are alot more complex than many people may realise, eg lots of people are immune to getting symtoms having been exposed to it in one form or another.
Hope it calms down for you pdq:)

Watch
I have been lurking about but afeared to post as I'm having a lovely time and didn't want to bang on incessantly about great sex with a nice man.

This is The Only Attractive Man on Match.com(tm). Who has now graduated into being potential boyfriend material.

Snape Perhaps I have been a bit selfish, but what can I say, it's everyone else's loss. I didn't grab him, I enticed him and worked my magic. (not really, I think I intimidated him a bit initially. He's hot but doesn't know it)

We had a slightly tense 1st date, drinks near his. I poured 4 pints of lager down him while I was on diet coke, he invited me in for coffee, made no moves on me whatsoever which obviously led to me snogging his face off and staying the night. Amazing sex ensued and while he is a little bit rounder than I was hoping, he's a lovely guy and he's definitely got the moves for a big lad.

We had a rematch Monday which lasted till 9pm last night. Fantastic! He seems very keen (in all departments) and although I really didn't think I wanted to get into anything emotional, I'm just abandoning the plan and going with what feels right. We've got loads in common and are just on the same wavelength generally. :)

He seems very happy with how things are going and I'm invited back to his tomorrow where he's going to be reciprocating by cooking me dinner in his boxers and am anticipating more bedroom fun after that.

I think we've clicked.

I await hearing from my chap, dont think i will hear from him again, but at least i spoke to someone in the same situation as me! It feels a little better for doing so, and he didnt run for the hills. I know he is really busy with work, so maybe thats why i ahvent heard, as we are only on msn.....my number is not given easily. I am being very careful about it!

Glad some of you are having such a brilliant time as a result of internet dating, and sorry that there are still so many pricks out there. wasting our time!!!!!

Well a little update from no-show on Friday. Ive heard from a mutual friend hes gone back to his ex who hes got dcs with. Oh well dont feel too bad now. Altho a text back wouldve been nice. Its not as tho I wouldve chopped his balls off . Do they think we are all pysco women?

Apparently all wom,en are psycho according to the ex.

I have an update to, after my message last night, i did speak to him and it was quite late when i did, but hey, i dont mind, and we are going to have a better chat tonight (it was about 11 last night) and arange a time to meet up! sooooo HAPPY!

DM absolutely delighted for you, wonderful news! :)

Thanks loves just feeling a bit sorry for myself & regrouping. Nothing a bucket of dettol & a wire brush won't sort out. Just wish the infernal itching would stop! :(

snape - sorry, thats not nice at all. Hopefully it will settle down soon.

datingminefiels - no, post, we like to hear the good stories :) glad its going ok, and think just taking it as it comes is a good plan. pleased for you.

seaside - nice that you have got a reason why it all didnt happen, its an unbelieveably common occurance.

littlemiracle - go, date him, meet him quickly :) but be careful not to put all your eggs into one basket.

postbel - and? how did it go?

Ive hiden my profile for the momment, i can only fit in one date this weekend, and then im not free again for another two weeks. It never seems fair to chat to someone, or line up dates weeks in advance, so ill keep it closed for about a week.

snape, dont feel sorry for yourself. Honestly, dont. Is it going to happen everytime you do the deed? or is it just a one off, unfortunate coinsidance?
You know dating takes a lot of balls, putting yourself out there, when you have been hurt before, putting yourself out there knowing you could get rejected or worse... yeah, that takes balls.
I think all of us are pretty awesome to be honest :)

Sorry, two day meeting - painful having to work, when I want to MN!!!!

Date went fine. He bore more than a passing resemblance to his photo. He was interesting & polite. Has slightly odd teeth (which I know is very shallow of me to be judgy about), but makes me wonder could I snog him.

Didn't feel any instant chemistry, but did like him. Can't quite decide whether to take it further or not. I don't see him as a long term option & I sense he is looking for a proper relationship. Am dithering - any thoughts?

On the plus side I survived and even quite enjoyed the first date I've been on in about 4 years.

Sorry to hear about itchy thing Snape. Hopefully it will die back down & not resurface again for years to come.

Hopefully you will start to feel better soon SNAPE, Poor you, must be horrid.

I am so looking forward to planning out date tonight! He isnt on msn, but said he would be in earlier tonight

POSTBELLUMBUGSEY, I think you should just go out enjoy yourself and see how it goes, worse case senario, nothing comes of it!

It's actually horrid & thank you all very much for your kind words. I feel a bit wanky about it sometimes (picked it up, oh let's call it it's name, herpes, from LTR, the one after kids,dad because he was fucking around on me & then stayed too long because I felt unclean & didn't really see it as a pick-up line...) because I think the right thing to do is to mention it if intimacy is on the cards, but I only kind of sleep with people if I like them & then I kind of think they won't like me if I tell them I have a occasionally communicable STD.

ugh. Am I overthinking this? Please tell me you are all rampant with the pox! :)

postbel - glad it went ok ish. With regards to if you want to see him again, id personally take the sign that you arent sure, as a no. You would know if you wanted to see him again. But thats just me. Ive met plenty of perfectly plesant men, but for whatever reason just didnt have the desire to see them again. When you meet somone you want to see again, you will know it :)

Snape :( thats a shitty thing to happen. It really is.But it wasnt your fault, at all. you werent unclean. I think all of us can overthink anything really. Ive never had an STD, but sure as hell ive probably just been lucky.

Snape an ex of mine had herpes. He told me about it and I did some research, as I was worried about it. Apparently, something like 80% of the general population have the virus (either facial or genital) in their blood, but it only manifests in 1 in 4 of those people. For some reason that gave me great comfort!

Watch, I'm also going with the questions in my head / dithering as a sign I probably shouldn't proceed. He did seem like a decent person & I don't want to end up being a bitch (which I have a tendency to do, given the icicles in my heart! ), so think it is probably best to move on to the next one - although I am so tempted by the offer of a ride on his amazing motorbike. Are you excited about seeing surfer boy?

i have the herpes virus. caught from kissing a rather deliclous boy, who i later became engaged to.
I should have taken the fact he gave me that as a sign really though. I got it very badly, ending up with getting them ON MY FACE!!!!!!!!! not just my lips, BUT ON MY HEAD!!!!!!!!! and on my hands. It was pretty grim. Something weird then happend and i had repeat occuring tonsilitus ( like monthly, and so badly i was in a& e frequently halluincating because of the fever and not being able to breathe, at the age of 19, they got so bad ( and were dripping in pus) that i had to have them out, quite rare for that to happen in somone in that age.

Actually, my ex husband gave me impetiago as well, aged 20. Another flesh eating yukness. Im begining to wonder whats up with these dirty men.

Post - right call i reckon. If you arent wondering what its like to kiss them, then yeah, no point. There needs to be something there...

Um, yeah. I think so. He text me this morning to say he has the day off and was i free. I have no idea what we are doing, or anything though. He told me he was planning to heading to see me at about 12, to which i told him he could, but i wouldnt be about, and he was all like ' oh, i thought we were spending the weekend hanging out' we have rough plans for about 4 pm ish, but nothing set in stone. Im guessing hes just a bit like that, non planny. I just know im going to probably wake up still drunk sunday morning.

LOL - but hopefully without fake tan on your sheets!

yes, i dont want fake tan on my sheets nor bit of condoms all over the place.

:)

nor any talk of tuna.

Post the one I am seeing, didn't fancy him at all after first date but thought he was nice, second date still didn't fancy him but got on really well, third date had the weirdest snog ever, thought that was it but then realised I would be upset if I didn't see him again. Wouldn't say I really properly fancied him til date 6 but something kept me seeing him

weird!!
must've been guided by subconscious instincts

I'm not sure I'd be willing to spare any man the time for 6 dates without finding out if he was any good in bed...what if he turned out to be one of those 'skip the foreplay and stick it in 'er quickly' types'

freak - then you must have quite liked him from the off, you have to at least like them...
i couldnt waste 6 dates with somone if i didnt like them. And if we dont click on some level, then yeah, wouldnt see again.

loves- i do agree :)

It was quite a novelty for me too, there was definitely something that kept me seeing him. Think I just really liked him and enjoyed his company and spending time with him