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The honing of the twat radars - dating chat thread number 9

999 replies

lubeybooby · 08/02/2012 20:24

Thread got too big so here's a new one :o

All dating, online or otherwise in here please

Chit chat to serious stuff - off we go!

OP posts:
watchoutforthatsnail · 02/03/2012 11:30

im most likely not going to shag him. im just going to look - with my eyes.
Its ok, i lost my virginity to someone HUGE, and mr epic sex was on the bigger side too... but not 9.5 inches

Snapespeare · 02/03/2012 11:31

me? send a text? absolutely not. stuff him and all that sail in him. :)

re: Big Ben do we generally find that penis size is somewhat in relation to height, Is he about 7 feet tall? I am on the edge of my seat regarding your report-back watch - probably in solidarity as I expect you will not be able to sit comfortably for a fortnight after a monstering from mr ben.

watchoutforthatsnail · 02/03/2012 11:38

6ft - so no. Seriously, i cant believe it can be that big. i may or may not take a ruler with me. hahaha, i might actually. hahahahahaha.

Im not planning on shagging him, but we are meeting at the pub....

stuff him, hes a cock.

adamschic · 02/03/2012 11:46

My ex was 6ft 3, so could be a correlation there. Anyway, it's what they do with it that counts, barring miniscule.

lovesineffable · 02/03/2012 11:50

re height and penis size, my research over the past 35 years has found no reliable correlation

watchoutforthatsnail · 02/03/2012 11:50

my ex husand was 6ft 4 and adverage.

mr epic sex who was almost 9 ish was 5 ft 10.

of course its mostly what they do with it. but you know, i still need to see it.
i expecting some kind of scene like the end of boogie nights ( with mark wahlburg)

EHoneybadger · 02/03/2012 11:53

watch really sorry I got the wrong end of the stick, I was hoping there might be a happy ending there. He sounds like a nobber in actual fact.

lovesineffable · 02/03/2012 11:56

correction..30 years, not 35 Blush

watchoutforthatsnail · 02/03/2012 12:10

haha loves, you dont want to add extra years onto your age :)

ehoney - no worries, he was, ive moved on, its fine ;)

Snapespeare · 02/03/2012 12:13

ahh... the end of boogie nights. :)

i shall have to spend some time refamiliarising myself with mr Diggler and watching gay vampire porn true blood and gay roman porn sparatcus.

yes, he proved to be a cock. no matter. moving on. :)

watchoutforthatsnail · 02/03/2012 12:19

sounds like a good plan you have there snape.

and i shall report back saturday night, or sunday morning, depending on whats happened.

adamschic · 02/03/2012 12:31

Loves, unfortunately my researching has been 35 years. Blush I do generally find the bigger the man etc but I mean broad, muscles big etc. I tend not to fancy men with fat little fingers, they turn me off.

lovesineffable · 02/03/2012 12:38

In that case Adamschic I bow to your superior knowledge Grin

Snapespeare · 02/03/2012 12:39

watch research....! you're not just doing this for yourself - we are all somewhat curious!

hatesponge · 02/03/2012 13:05

lol, we will all be awaiting watch's update!

I have decided my date is utterly mad. We exchanged 3 amusing, slightly flirty texts, then he stopped replying again Hmm

You don't spend hours post date texting someone if you're not interested and then (when they text you again a few days later) text back...and then stop. Or do you? I mean, if he wasn't interested then he wouldn't have replied yesterday would he? But then again if he was, why suddenly stop?

Honestly....

watchoutforthatsnail · 02/03/2012 13:16

sponge - if he was interested in seeing you again, he would have asked to see you again. Its that simple. Your friends werent sure your texts came accross that you were interested, you text him, which shows you were... and thats it.
I wouldnt waste any time thinking about it any more.

snape - im taking one for the team in the interests of research :) im curious, else i wouldnt be going.

adamschic · 02/03/2012 13:21

Sponge, have to agree with Watch, sorry. Men don't tend to hold back if they want someone. IM humble E Grin. Time to say next!

hatesponge · 02/03/2012 13:22

but then why bother to even reply to my text? It just doesn't make any sense to me. Ignoring it totally - yes, my friends could have been wrong, or he could have changed his mind.

But it's just odd to bother to reply and then nothing - my friends thought so too Confused

PostBellumBugsy · 02/03/2012 13:28

sponge, it will never make sense. It is one of those unexplained, illogicial pieces of behaviour that make women froth at the mouth and unbelievably annoyingly you will never know the answer.

watchoutforthatsnail · 02/03/2012 13:33

because he was being polite? or doesnt want to be horrible and say to you that he doesnt want to see you again? or, hes just a cock.
it will be one of the 3, and you have no way of knowing or finding out which one it is.

men - if they want a second date, wont tend to care if they thought you were interested or not. they just tend to ask. they might ask and try and persuade you to say yes as well. If they want something, they usually try hard to get it. No amount of dropping hints or sending texts tend to make much difference.

I wish it wasnt like that, as it seems so 1940's but thats just how it seems to be. If he wants you, he will chase you, and you will know about it. If you dont know about it, its because hes not interested. if hes not in contact its because he doesnt want to be.
Shit, but true.

I dont mean to sound harsh about it, but its pretty much the way it is, no matter now infuriating it is.

hatesponge · 02/03/2012 13:44

yes but he did ask me out again. he did want to see me.

and frankly as my friend and her DP thought he was clearly interested, and theyve read the messages I'm sure they're right.

I'm not some deluded nutter clinging onto the vain hope that one man just might find me even vaguely attractive though everyone seems to think so Hmm

watchoutforthatsnail · 02/03/2012 13:49

noone thinks you are that at all, dont be daft.

he asked you, but didnt actually make plans for it. which is a big difference. If he wanted to see you again, he would have tied you down to something..

Men are idiots sometimes. or he might have thought about it further and then just changed his mind.

Snapespeare · 02/03/2012 13:52

you're not a deluded nutter! and it isn't really 1940 (checks watch..) even though some people are still firmly, ridiculously there.

chalk it up to him being a bit weird and move on. at least you got to this point before the shag he is utterly mad. There are plenty of them about. hone your twat radar. moving on!

PostBellumBugsy · 02/03/2012 13:53

Oh sponge, I don't think you are a deluded nutter at all. Blimey most of us have been at the end of this kind of treatment at some point. (Probably why we're telling you to let go - because we have tortured ourselves with these very same questions in the past & we know that they just drive you mad.)

The thing is unless you turn into a stalker & track him down - you will never know!!!!!! It doesn't matter what his reasons were - he has dropped off the face of your earth. That is the current reality. He has gone - whatever his intentions were, they are not there any more.

watchoutforthatsnail · 02/03/2012 13:55

some people are still there, and if they are behaving like that, they they are not for you ( nor me, nor anyone else either)
Its meant to be fun, it should ( when its working) be easy. If there is any angst in the beginning then i think thats a pretty big sign.

you should have somone chasing you, and being interested in you, making you smile, making you excited about seeing him or talking to him.. thats what you deserve. He is not it, not even for a second.