The honing of the twat radars - dating chat thread number 9

[lubeybooby]

Thread got too big so here's a new one :o

All dating, online or otherwise in here please

Chit chat to serious stuff - off we go!

do they short change us on purpose?
or do they really think that a quickie where she doesnt come is the right way to go about things?
next time I hear, 'sorry I havent had it for a while' I swear I will shoot him there and then!

Ah - they all say that. Without fail. ( bar mr epic sex)

and i want to say ' well, you should have wanked before you came out, who they fuck goes on a date with a loaded gun'

Honesltly, i just want to get laid, regulary. Thats it, who would have thought it would be so hard to achieve that?
Itsnot like im ugly or awful in bed, or smell.

watch what the actual fuck.. what is wrong with these people??

fabby, yes, dump.

hello phoenix & sunshine welcome aboard!

date was fine, a few beers, snogging at the station.. we plan to meet up in the next week or so for a shag, I'm making myself an appointment at the GUM for a clean bill of health (or otherwise...) before i commit to anything, my ex gave me an STD, so i'm very careful about these matters.

date punctuated by PM texting me. told him I was on a date. ha.

hahaha. excellent, did he reply to that?

sounds likes its going well. Its nice to hear that there is some hope out there.

no second chances where sex is concerned and dump him as soon as he gets lazy in bed
I cant think of any other 'solutions'

yep. he replied with, 'really? wow. go you!'

then a few more texts...

i missed my stop on the train and had to get a taxi back with a polish builder. clearly snogging turns my head and creates an inability to function correctly...

haha, dumping somone, chance would be a fine thing!

The problem i have, i think. Is that i dont really want a ' relationship' so dont see the point on not having sex quite soon. But , this has its downfalls, as you have no clue if they guy is just going to vanish straight after.

Maybe im being naieve, but you would have thought, regular, no strings sex with somone fairly ( i know, so modest) attracitve, would be a sought after thing. but no?

I dont want to be having a stream of one night stands. Thats not good for anyone.

So, i cant see what to do about it?

hahaaha snape - he was like ' er, shes waht??? shes not at home waiting for me, huh, best i get her attention bacl'

hahahahahahahaha.

Snape, It's a win win situation. PM gets jealous and you are having fun. Take his advice and go for it .

I do think im actually going to give up for a little while, because im worth a little bit more than that.

And i text the teacher to tell him hes a bit of a cock and has some growing up to do. I KNOW i shouldnt have done it, but i feel better for saying so.

watch that's really shitty. I'd be very annoyed at that sort of behaviour. What a Tosser. Best off out of that one, I think. Best foot forward and all that.

Snape Glad things are going well.

Helloo, to everyone else, getting quite busy now, this party! Red berets and martinis all round.

I'm booked up for the week ahead. I have one for coffee tomorrow night, Mr Friday Night for dinner on Friday (when else?) and a new one for dinner on Saturday. I have high hopes for him. Seems young, fit & funny. (thanks, God)

Watch, doesn't sound like you have anything to lose by sending the text, be interesting to see if and what he replies.

I totally agree with you that you are worth so much more and let a guy take some time to realise this then have the mind blowing sex. It's advice that I didn't always listen to as a divorced 26 year old, a long time ago so don't think I'm being judgemental.

Fabby GET RID. Do we need to say any more?

Do we qualify as a quiche now?

I'm with adamschic, I am really trying to hang on the 'the goods' for a while, even though my libido is in overdrive I think it pays off to keep the lid on in the short term.

I've found in the past that when they turn out to be proper tossers, the yuck feeling outweighs any temporary satisfaction you get from getting laid. Just my 2 cents tho. :)

I've had one recent close shave, where I thought, actually I'm glad I didn't go for it.

Ha, just got a text from PM, asking how it went last night, tempted to respond with, 'well, I'm on a promise & I need to have sex again at some point, right?'

Watch - he's an arsehole. I felt like you after the geordie and his distance problem. It really isn't you, it's them. And absolutely get the last word in, tell him exactly what an arse he is

Fabby - dump pronto - why even bother if he makes you feel that way

snape - sounds great, might make PM sit up and take notice but if it doesn't, you have a possible nice new man. I would respond exactly how you want to

I am having lots of no strings sex and I am having a whale of a time. I know it's not for everyone but for me, it's perfect. I am a bit of a dom though, so the sex always go how I want it and I sort of shock the man into going along with it. Luckily I know exactly how to get my jolies and they don't get theirs until I am finished lol I am probably guilty of acting man like with regards to dating though. I am forward and will ask outright for a date but after that I rarely call/text. I think I puzzle men as they aren't used to it

Hotbutdim is a FWB that everyone would want, we talk and laugh for the evening before any sexual activity. So they are out there, I know I've done well finding him

I've been chatting to a number of men and have one date tomorrow but I'm very meh about him. Hopefully meeting one at the weekend who I am not meh about, very excited to be meeting him

Ultimately, we need to do what makes us happy. If lots of dates and sex works, then do it. But if it's making you unhappy, then don't. find another way of getting what you need. We shouldn't ever let men make us feel bad

Watch, he is an arsehole, I'm glad you texted him & told him off. You got some good sex, so carve that notch on your bedpost & forget the little fucker. Pfffft.

MsC, you sound like you're having a great time! Good for you. :)

I was at the start of this thread - had a really horrible abusive date.

Anyway, I haven't been put off. I've still got my old friend in the background but things are progressing too slowly. He contacted me and asked to see me but so far, he hasn't made a suggestion of when. Maybe, he just sees me as an old friend and a bit of comfort. Oh well...... not going to discount him but also not going to wait around and hope it all changes into something else.

Anyway, "met" a really nice (hopefully) person. We've been texting and chatting and he seems such a nice, grounded, decent person. (At least he hasn't asked my bra size which is a distinct improvement on some of them.) I can't meet up with him yet as I am out of action for a couple of weeks due to an operation but I loved chatting to him last night, and he I, apparently.

Life feels better when there are some possibilities but it can also feel like shit when those possibilities crash and burn! I won't hold my breath just yet......

Feedback I'm really pleased you're back in the saddle, so to speak. Keep your chin up. :)

In other news, I've just come across a man that I had erm, relations with a loooooong time ago on POF. And I've just alerted him to my presence by looking at his profile. Bollocks.

Hi phoenixx and sunshine! have fun!

lovesadirtylie, you're spot on mate. Single is great, celibate sucks, relationships are fraught with peril. I'd be buggered without masturbation!

watch, when a young gorgeous sensual/sexual switched on person like you is frustrated by the process it gives some slight hope to we less eligible people.

he-he, just being alive is fraught with peril!!!! (

I have been talking to someone off POF tonight, we swapped msn....yes yes, i know be careful, BUT he has been very honest, said i didnt drink cos of meds, he said he didnt either, got into a really deep conversation and feel like i have known him forever. Both been married, he's 5 years older (i think) and seems really nice, also local, just moved back to the same area as me, went to the schools in my area, etc. Just seems really nice, but not getting my hopes up. The other one disappeared, got a valentine message and he's disappeared, nothing since, but hey, never mind, his loss not mine obviously. I am not unattractive....i have had a few offers to go out (about 8 or 9 in all over the last three/four weeks), but not decided to go. Someone even invited me to just go to their, but that is WAAAYYYYY To dodgy, i am certainly NOT stupid.

So thats my update.

i did send the text, unsurprisingly he did not reply.
I am still angry/pissed off/hurt and this is just generally, not just towards him.
Ive been awake since 4am.
I dont know if i should just leave dating for a while, but then that feels like totally giving up.
In the past, ive done the leaving dating, seeing what happens in real life - the answer is a big fat nothing.
Ive done dating and said im not having sex until a few dates in, what happens is i end up celibate for nearly a year.
Ive done meeting quickly, ive done meeting slowly. Ive done coffee dates, ive done druken date. Ive done skying first. Ive done sex from quite early on in the date.
Ive done chatty, ive done not saying much . Ive done being keen, ive done playing hard to get.
I am pretty much at a loss.
Least not forget, ive done ALOT of dating.
The only conclusion is, it must be me. All the men ive met, cannot be wrong, can they?

Even when i lower my standards, like saturdays date ( he was So wet, and un interesting and meh, his thing he was most animated about was having bumped into nigel from eastenders in a flower show. ) but he didnt even ask me out again.

Yet, i constantly get come onto my men ( with girlfriends) who tell me they fancy me and want a night with me. because i am

I dont get it, i really dont.

I havent EVER really done the dating thing!!
Never really had to dress to impress, my exH i met at a stables, and although my jodpurs were skin tight and i was wearing a strappy, which suited my all to slim figure at the time (now not so slim), i felt good in it, and obviously it showed, but i never rewally had to dress up. The boyfriend before, was a old friend, who i ha dknown all of my life. I remember living in my levi jeans. His friends always said i was "fit" but i never felt it, cos i was always in jeans or in my school uniform, with my all too short school skirt (which i look back on embarrassment, when i crossed my legs in it, you could ALMOST see my bum, it was tooooooo short) So I am at 23 very new to the dating scene and need some one to teach me

ANY TAKERS?? PLEASE??