The honing of the twat radars - dating chat thread number 9

[lubeybooby]

Thread got too big so here's a new one :o

All dating, online or otherwise in here please

Chit chat to serious stuff - off we go!

Yes fuck muppet. He messages me on PoF today asking why I hadn't got in contact again. I told him straight that he was nasty after my request to meet in public so now I didn't want to meet him. He told me I would never meet anyone with that attitude oh well I'd rather be single than with someone like that anyway

Hope you told him to fuck right off hanaka

I didn't bother replying.

I'm back to join the thread. Remember me from genital wart/hedgetrimmer man? And then I swanned off to Dubai with Shrek? Well when I returned from Dubai and dumped Shrek, an ex from last July got in contact, said he had made a big mistake in dumping me and wanted to try again..well I saw him for a few weeks before I realised what a twat he was and here I am again, old, free and single...

OK, so what I'm after from you ladies is advice on what site to try next? Ive done POF and don't want to go there again.

There's ok Cupid that's free too...

Sorry watch but YKW sounds like a right twat. Girlfriend of two months and he is planning on meeting you behind her back. Charming...that the sort of bloke you want? If he was really into you, he would just be finishing with her but no, it seems clear he wants to keep her on the back burner.

zany hope the meeting of the family goes well! You will be fine I am sure!

Stay, ywk isn't the one I'm off to see, its someone else.
Ywk is a twat though :)

2,months is nothing, its 8 weeks. In any case, it might be a just be friends thing.... I'm not going for a date. I'm going to hang out for the weekend.

I did check if it was a good idea and he said they were only dating and it was casual. I'm inclinded to believe him.

Hello Ladies, can I join your thread?

I'm 27 and have been single for aaaaages. I don't mind it at all but I wouldn't mind meeting a nice man. I've never been in a really long term realtionship and I am well known for attracting dickish men. The singledom doesn't really bother me and finding sex hasn't been a problem - but just with the wrong people!

I've joined OkCupid but not very bowled over to be honest - a lot of the predictable messages from people called things like "EatYouBabe69" ! Also I;m finding I don;t really have the time/inclination for big long messages - I would rather just meet people....but am not confident enough to suggest.

I'm not sure I'm cut out for internet dating, can I ask if any of you know of any good singles social evenings at all? Has anyone ever been on one of these?

Also, I know this sounds stupid, but I have horribly low self esteem, and I've got a real hang up about my weight. Can someone help me get rid of the feeling that a big woman won't find a decent man???

What a pathetic Hello message that was - sorry!

Watch, I probably would go to (but I am this threads serial dater at the moment)

Just make sure you have your twat radar set to high

Butwhy - I am a larger lady, I wear a size 18/20 and shop in Evans. I'm having a whale of a time at the moment. I have my 'looking for' set for intimate encounter but say exactly what I'm looking for, which isn't casual sex. See below

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"Me - 5'2, curvy, voluptuous or fat depends on how you see things - I wear a size 18. I'm smart, work and support myself, funny, fun, tactile and told I have a pretty face

I'm a busy person with work and family commitments that make a relationship a tricky thing to manage.

Looking for dates with a man who will be tall and if possible, muscular. Someone bright and independant

Not looking for one night stands, more someone to have drinks and conversation with, that if the attraction is there ends with great kissing at a minimum. Not looking for loads of dates with different men, I would prefer one regular person for dates without the pressure of a relationship

I'm not looking for webcam chats, sexting or sending/receiving risque pictures, so don't ask.

The chat thingy crashes my browser, so I don't use it

Not interested in being a mistress

And no pic no reply

Honesty and manners are important to me, so use them :)"

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I have met some really nice people, no one has had a problem with my clothes from Evans, most have their 'looking for' set to dating

I don't email for weeks, if the conversation is going well I will give them my number, so far my twat radar is working fine.

Last night I started talking to a gorgeous man, we swapped numbers this afternoon, had a long convo and hopefully will be meeting over the weekend

I say, pretend you have confidence, thats what I do. Be brave and be forward

MrsCellophane, thank you SO much for posting that. I never know whether to address my size in my blurb - I worry that if I do, most will be put off, but if I dont, people will be disappointed when they meet me. I think you sound brilliant and confident in yours!

Good luck for the weekend! I long for that fluttery feeling when you've got something to really look forward to - I really hope you connect with this chap.

I've actually met someone in RL a couple of days ago - we got on really well, though admittedly he was trying to sell me a car!! I feel he went out of his way to tell me he was single... but who knows, anything for commission!! Also the lovely part of my brain is working away saying "Why would he fancy you? You're fat!"

I've been on a date with a competition bodybuilder, lovely but too short

My hotbutdim I have a few times, totally drop dead gorgeous but not much in common and is becoming a mate and a FWB

A 27 year old lawyer, really really cute but too young

And this latest one is muscle bound and so far lovely, if we don't connect I've managed to get out, away from work and family and had a nice drink or coffee

They all look like people who I wouldn't have thought would look twice at me in a bar, but I have been pleasantly surprised by how lovely they have all been. One good thing about internet dating is you can show your personality through the email side of things and then the chatting by text and on the phone. I find I can totally be myself and obviously some men like me lol

Hi Charlottesmum, I remember you as I thought you were very brave jetting off to Dubai with Shrek. Sorry it didn't work out but hope you had a nice holiday.

I haven't posted on here for ages as I'm not internet dating at all.

I have started seeing a long term male friend more regularly and am very happy. We are having lovely dates and lots of fun so that suits me down to the ground. Talking about taking a holiday very soon. Hope that doesn't spoil it all, should be OK as we get on very well.

Mrs C, I like your profile and hope you meet someone who will become a regular mate from it, sounds like you are having lots of fun atm anyway.

Hope everyone else is OK.

Hi Charlottesmum I was wondering how you were getting on, thought you must have emigrated to dubai . I met Mr Yacht on okcupid and although you don't get as many message there did appear to be more 'suitable' men on there.

Thats a lovely profile MsCello not surprised your inundated with dates at the moment.

Hi Butwhy internet dating can be tough as you seem to get more twats on there than normal. I would have gone on a singles night if I had the confidence to do it as it seems better to see the person first (in a superficial kind of way) to see if there are any sparks.

Mr Yacht cooked dinner for my DD and I last night and it was good, can tell her hardly cooks though so we have traded a deal that I am happy to do most of the cooking if I can get shoulder rubs on demand - works for me as I love cooking.

I'm going out with my single, my age, girl friends tonight....we have much to update about...
German Dr. want us to spend Sunday evening together and is sending me such sweet messages but I don't always get his German sense of humour, so I'm sometimes a bit wary in my responses.
Long time buddy has also contacted me, we shall see...
I'm moving into my own home soon so spend lots of time packing boxes (have ruined my hands ) petty I know....
Haven't felt so happy in ages and ages, and carefree and relaxed, (and extremely sexually satisfied )
Hope that you are all doing well, virtual hugs to all

really chuffed for you both noluck & adams that's smashing! :)

MsC your profile is lovely, you come across as sweet and really honest - I think that's what is luring them all in.

so, no word since sunday from last fridays distraction date. Think I'm chalking that one up to a disappearer.

PM for dinner tonight :)

that's a name that rings a very loud bell snape!!!

heh. warning bell.

just had a browse through OKC, there is nothing there. sigh.

Coffee yesterday was a washout. Nice man, but not attractive.
I'm going to get a bit stricter with my criteria. Don't have the time to waste.

Have cancelled tonight with Mr Friday Night and re-arranged for next week.

I am ILL. I think I shall spend the weekend in my dressing gown with tissues, on the net pretending to be a hot blonde in a cocktail dress. At least I am usually a hot blonde. Not too much pretending.

DM, the wasted time is such a bummer, but seems very hard to predict from photo's whether or not you'll find the person attractive.
I mean, I think I can tell if I definitely wont, but other than that they're all 'maybe's'.

My solution is not to invest too much time in the initial meeting, I make sure it's some place I can get to quickly and where I'll be going anyway.

I have a coffee arranged for this afteroon, not feeling any enthusiasm but not feeling any dread either

I predict he'll be nice enough but I wont fancy him enough to want to take things any further.

He might be sex on legs...but I'm not holding my breath

Is tricky. Men seem to be excellent at picking photos that don't actually show their faces or their bodies very well. Unless its a cock pic. What's the matter with them?

I use two headshots, one with hair down and one full length. That way I think you get a fair representation of what I look like.

Keep that sense of optimism lovesa, you never know.

Have a date tonight (I think) with mr banker. He seems nice enough but a bit overly keen :s I feel poorly and tired though

DM, yep, penis is all it's gory detail, blurry face and body, wtf eh, as if all they need to do is prove that they have male genitalia.

I generally put one or two face pics and a couple of tasteful full length underwear shots to give a good idea of build.

It's hard to be optimistic, there have been so many of those heart sinking moments when you first spot the person you arranged to meet.
Infact I can only think of two occasions when I was pleasantly surprised.

Underwear?!?!?!

Either you're joking or we're moving in very different circles.

hanaka, if he's keen, he won't mind being put off. Don't go out if you don't feel like it, I'm not, because I wouldn't enjoy myself. That and the attractive hacking cough. :)

I'm currently on a dirty sleazy no strings sex sorta website..I think POF only allows fully clothed shots?