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Very odd experience with Online Bloke - help me make sense!

200 replies

MuckyCarpet · 20/01/2012 09:44

Ok so before I start I know this one is going nowhere. However I'm intrigued about what is actually going on in this guy's head!

So we started talking about 2 weeks ago. Long conversations which turned into texts away from the dating site. He would text me mid-day and we'd text back and forth until almost midnight. He was full of nice-ness. Lots of kisses, generally being very sweet and caring, asking about my day, asking how I was etc. Then he asked me for my facebook details which I gave him -- BOOM! Totally changed.

Now if he'd simply seen a few of my less flattering photos on facebook and decided not to pursue things I'd be fine with that. However this guy hasn't just disappeared on me, he's carried on texting me but in a way that suggests he's actually trying to offend me/upset me.

For example, he used to send the first text saying "hiya xx how are you today? :)" and now he just sends a random text saying "alright" wtf?? why bother??

I noticed a photo on his facebook with him stood with Gordon Ramsey and so I mentioned it and said I was jealous and joked if he was well in with Gordon he could cook for me (in response to him saying he wanted me to cook him my signature dish). His response was "yeah, as Gordon would say, fuck off". ???

Now I'm quite happy to stop contacting the bloke (as I have done) but he's the one that keeps initiating conversation with me. Another example was him texting me and in reply I asked how his appointment had gone that he'd mentioned the day before. His response was that he didn't go as something came up. I replied "oh right, shame" and he replied "whatever".

Now he's started private messaging me on facebook. Last night he mentioned he was going to Australia. I said that sounded nice and he replied that he didn't want to go really. I tried to keep it light hearted and said I'd love to be forced to go to Australia and he replied with "thats you". I was in a shit mood myself at this point so just said "ok grumpy" and he replied "no, not grumpy".

Why even contact me at all just to be like this? Yet out of the blue he'll send me a random "nice" text again.

Headfuck yeah? what's his game?

OP posts:
LittlePickleHead · 23/01/2012 14:53

This sounds like someone I hired years ago. He won (actually didn't, came second and had a right strop) and was the 'main' character in a reality show. Gawd knows why I hired him - he was a knob of the highest order, so full of himself and really thought he was going to be on his way to LA to become an actor, and relished getting all the young girls at work to fancy him (which mostly they didn't). However, he called in sick for the first five Mondays he worked there. On the fifth one I told him not to come back again.

Really wondering if it's the same guy (Foof can you PM me!!)

Fregley · 23/01/2012 16:49

Please pm me too sobs

CrazyChicken · 23/01/2012 18:08

Please could someone PM me please.

SnapSnafu · 23/01/2012 21:15

Pleeeease could someone PM meeee! I did ask upthread but sniff, got missed. Pretty please. I won't do anything with the info, honestly.

fishyonadishy · 23/01/2012 21:18

have pmd littlepickle, fregley, crazychicken and snapnafu.

I think!

MsCellophane · 23/01/2012 21:23

I'm nosey and would like to know too please

HairyBeaver · 23/01/2012 21:38

Could i pleeeeeeeease have a pm too?

i neeeeeeeeeeeed to know who it is before i fall asleep

thank you

megcleary · 23/01/2012 21:45

Aw I need a PM too please if someone can fit it in.

Hotcupofteaplease · 23/01/2012 21:45

Oh now I reallllllly need to know; can I have a pm please?

carernotasaint · 23/01/2012 21:49

Can i have a PM as well please.

deathbymincepies · 23/01/2012 21:53

oo, oo, me too please

Sugary · 23/01/2012 21:53

And me, please?

ProfessionalProcrastinator · 23/01/2012 21:55

Me too!!!! Pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeezzzzzzzzzzzzzzz Grin

Doha · 23/01/2012 21:57

and nosey little moi !!! pleeaaassseeeeeeeee

SnapSnafu · 23/01/2012 21:58

ooooh if you need to do a shiney penguin, I'm your girl as I'm fairly local ;-)

to him.

Hairynigel · 23/01/2012 22:03

Please can i have a pm! Noses :o

Hairynigel · 23/01/2012 22:03

nosey

TuftyFinch · 23/01/2012 22:06

Could I have a PM? Please?

I'm just so nosy I can't help myself. I went to close this thread, after reading, I just couldn't do it. Grin

JaxTellerIsMyFriend · 23/01/2012 22:07

I am curious to see who he is. Just for curiosity sake mind. Grin

OP you are well rid, men like that only have room in their life for them, nobody else. Unless you are willing to massage his ego he wont want to know.

Bin him.

And let us know how your date goes with the nice bloke.

Freshlettice · 23/01/2012 23:36

Am I the only one who doesn't give a fuck who he is?
Just get rid of him! Now!
Lol at him trying to be nice now you are doing one-word answers. Actually, you could have a bit of a laugh with this now you know what he's up to...

landphil · 23/01/2012 23:50

Me too fresh.
Why on earth do any of you care?

OP I'd be much more concerned that a man you had never even met was sending you lovey dovey texts in the first place.

TheBigmouthBugle · 23/01/2012 23:58

Because it is the nature of woman human kind to be nosey.

So that's two less PMs I need to send

RightImDone · 24/01/2012 11:42

Ok just read this thread - can I have a PM pleaseeee?

Punkatheart · 24/01/2012 11:45

Write his name backwards. Then not possible on a search but it will save you PMs!

sb6699 · 24/01/2012 12:19

I really need to know now too (even though I probably wont have a clue who he is) Grin

PM in my direction pleeeeease!!!

He sounds rather unhinged tbh - why havent you deleted him yet?