Very odd experience with Online Bloke - help me make sense!

[MuckyCarpet]

Ok so before I start I know this one is going nowhere. However I'm intrigued about what is actually going on in this guy's head!

So we started talking about 2 weeks ago. Long conversations which turned into texts away from the dating site. He would text me mid-day and we'd text back and forth until almost midnight. He was full of nice-ness. Lots of kisses, generally being very sweet and caring, asking about my day, asking how I was etc. Then he asked me for my facebook details which I gave him -- BOOM! Totally changed.

Now if he'd simply seen a few of my less flattering photos on facebook and decided not to pursue things I'd be fine with that. However this guy hasn't just disappeared on me, he's carried on texting me but in a way that suggests he's actually trying to offend me/upset me.

For example, he used to send the first text saying "hiya xx how are you today? :)" and now he just sends a random text saying "alright" wtf?? why bother??

I noticed a photo on his facebook with him stood with Gordon Ramsey and so I mentioned it and said I was jealous and joked if he was well in with Gordon he could cook for me (in response to him saying he wanted me to cook him my signature dish). His response was "yeah, as Gordon would say, fuck off". ???

Now I'm quite happy to stop contacting the bloke (as I have done) but he's the one that keeps initiating conversation with me. Another example was him texting me and in reply I asked how his appointment had gone that he'd mentioned the day before. His response was that he didn't go as something came up. I replied "oh right, shame" and he replied "whatever".

Now he's started private messaging me on facebook. Last night he mentioned he was going to Australia. I said that sounded nice and he replied that he didn't want to go really. I tried to keep it light hearted and said I'd love to be forced to go to Australia and he replied with "thats you". I was in a shit mood myself at this point so just said "ok grumpy" and he replied "no, not grumpy".

Why even contact me at all just to be like this? Yet out of the blue he'll send me a random "nice" text again.

Headfuck yeah? what's his game?

Why are you still engaging him in text/Facebook convos anyway? Once you got the first stroppy text, that was the time to bow out. Perhaps he thinks you like his behaviour if you keep returning for more.

I would block/ignore and never speak to him again. You are showing this is fine for you by continuing to show interest whem he's rude. Actions speak louder than words.

As to why he is like this, who knows, be glad you don't have to deal with it anymore.

Grade A tosser. I agree with the PPs that he's seen that you have a life that doesn't invovle him and he's acting like a twat so you fall over yourself to work out why.

Why? He's a tosser, pure and simple.

Delete and block.

Well, it's either that he is immature and inexperienced and genuinely thinks that women like being insulted ie the old pull-her-pigtails-cos-you-really-fancy-her crap - or he is an abuser who gets off on keeping women confused and apologetic.
Either way, block and forget.

My klaxon is sounding:

"Honestly I feel like I've done something to offend HIM. That's how cold he's turned."

The only change was that he knows you like him. So this is what he does when somebody likes him- he punishes them. Great. He is speaking to you with disdain because you like(d) him.

When you delete/block him, I'll put £50 on him sending abusive texts.

Also, the zombie hamsters. I am loving the zombie hamsters.

I wouldn't say he's a tosser. I'd say he's Bad News All Round. Don't waste one more second 'trying to work him out'. He's actively treating you like shit to see if you'll bite. Like, DUH.

to reiterate. delete/block/ignore.

you're being polite to respond to his texts/PMs. don't bother, really.

Definitely delete & block. There are nice and normal single men out there. Don't waste another minute on this bloke.

Even by posting this thread you've given him far too much of your time and head-space. Who cares why he is such a twat, why bother trying to fathom out what he's doing? It's not you, it's him. Delete and block NOW!! Next!

Other possible explanations include the fact that he won a reality tv show a few years back and is a bit of a local celeb. I didn't realise until the facebook thing and then didn't make a fuss over it when I did (he would have known I'd twig on as soon as I looked at his facebook page). Perhaps he was looking for a more arse kissing enthusiastic response.

Other possibility is that he's simply looking for people to add to his facebook to make as many people aware as possible of his fundraising causes (which would explain the sudden change in behaviour as soon as I'd added him as well as the lack of meeting suggestions).

Who cares what his reasons are? (And I mean that in as nice a way as possible) The minute somebody starts been rude is the minute you have nothing more to do with them.

Some people just aren't very nice, and there's no point trying to second guess why. Just remove them from your life. It works a treat every time!

But it never fails to amaze me how a person can literally portray 2 completely different personalities. I always thought I was a pretty good judge of character but this one really had me fooled.

Please tell me he hasn't got your REAL phone number? Please tell me that have a Dating phone?

Delete the fucker.

He does have my real mobile number. Honestly he was a bloody brilliant actor!

Dating phone is a good idea though and from now on, when I refer back to this man in my future tales of my online dating experience, he will be known as zombie hamster man.

What an absolute weirdo. I would have blocked after the first couple of stroppy texts too. Good riddance!

I gave one guy my proper number, and then realised that I ought not to have done, no issues there with him, but just thinking better safe than sorry.

I now have one, I feel kinda bad somehow about it, but explain that my blackberry is for work, the HTC for non-work, but emails come into both of them.

If a relationship came about that was set to last, then I'd say i was going to just have the one phone as an economy thingy.

Who is he? Would we have heard of him from his reality show?

No none of you will know him. It was a good few years ago. I'd been speaking to him and seen tons of pictures of him AND he dropped loads of hints and I still didn't twig on or have a clue who he was until it was literally written out in front of me. (But then I don't watch TV so no wonder lol)

Anyone else curious about who he is now?

I agree with the others though avoid avoid avoid.

Sorry x posted took me ages to read through!

I used to watch all the reality shows a few years ago. I bet I bloody know him. Is it Big Brother's Craig?

No but I quite like Craig

I really can't say it on here, he's obsessed with it and probably searches for his name on google all the time lol. I'm not trying to be all mysterious and annoying though, if anyone really wants to know I will pm as long as it isn't then posted on the open forum.

I understand why it is baffling, but in the end he is an ARSE. Get rid.

Oooh I want to know! Just incase I'm ever single again, I'll know to avoid.

Plus I watch loads of telly

Bloody HELL he sounds awful. Obsessed with his winning some rubbishy programme years ago, to the point of hinting about it constantly. What a nobber.

I met a guy once of the "act uninterested, that'll make her chase me" variety. It worked for a week or two, but then I caught on. What I did realise was that all this acting cold on his part gives you the PERFECT excuse to drop him - he can't really complain as he has been the one acting uninterested. I'd bet a fiver on him acting all "I can't believe you broke my heart" or similar bollocks when he realises you don't have any more time for him. How about a nice simple text like "I'd rather you didn't contact me again as we clearly just don't get on that well. Goodbye."

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