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Very odd experience with Online Bloke - help me make sense!

200 replies

MuckyCarpet · 20/01/2012 09:44

Ok so before I start I know this one is going nowhere. However I'm intrigued about what is actually going on in this guy's head!

So we started talking about 2 weeks ago. Long conversations which turned into texts away from the dating site. He would text me mid-day and we'd text back and forth until almost midnight. He was full of nice-ness. Lots of kisses, generally being very sweet and caring, asking about my day, asking how I was etc. Then he asked me for my facebook details which I gave him -- BOOM! Totally changed.

Now if he'd simply seen a few of my less flattering photos on facebook and decided not to pursue things I'd be fine with that. However this guy hasn't just disappeared on me, he's carried on texting me but in a way that suggests he's actually trying to offend me/upset me.

For example, he used to send the first text saying "hiya xx how are you today? :)" and now he just sends a random text saying "alright" wtf?? why bother??

I noticed a photo on his facebook with him stood with Gordon Ramsey and so I mentioned it and said I was jealous and joked if he was well in with Gordon he could cook for me (in response to him saying he wanted me to cook him my signature dish). His response was "yeah, as Gordon would say, fuck off". ???

Now I'm quite happy to stop contacting the bloke (as I have done) but he's the one that keeps initiating conversation with me. Another example was him texting me and in reply I asked how his appointment had gone that he'd mentioned the day before. His response was that he didn't go as something came up. I replied "oh right, shame" and he replied "whatever".

Now he's started private messaging me on facebook. Last night he mentioned he was going to Australia. I said that sounded nice and he replied that he didn't want to go really. I tried to keep it light hearted and said I'd love to be forced to go to Australia and he replied with "thats you". I was in a shit mood myself at this point so just said "ok grumpy" and he replied "no, not grumpy".

Why even contact me at all just to be like this? Yet out of the blue he'll send me a random "nice" text again.

Headfuck yeah? what's his game?

OP posts:
PippiLongBottom · 22/01/2012 11:13

Why don't you just get this thread pulled OP, when you've PM'd the others Wink

Kitesurfgirl · 22/01/2012 11:16

Who cares why he's being an idiot? I really really REALLY don't understand why an intelligent woman would give any time of day to trying to understand - isn't it obvious? The guy IS A TOOL. Delete. Block. Get on with your life. He's clearly a total loser. :) (suggest you also read 'he's just not that into you' ...that book revolutionised by dating approach..then I met the man of my dreams!)

Kitesurfgirl · 22/01/2012 11:17

Oh. And i have a friend who won a reality show about 4 years ago- he's a lovely guy, but omg did he turn into a total knob for a while! I hope it's not him, but I would just say, anyone who lets something as minor as that go to their head is really really not worth the effort in dating terms!!!! And leopards don't charge their spots, once a player, always a player!

iscream · 22/01/2012 11:25

Please PM me as well, I am nosy too!
I am really glad you are ditching him.
He sounds like bad news.
I knew a woman like that, never ever figured out her two sides.

Enjoy your date with new guy.

shinyblackgrape · 22/01/2012 11:45

Ooooh yes - can you pm me too I'm wondering hell's kitchen if he was standing with Gordon Ramsey.

I am vair, vair discrete and in return will offer this sage and well thought out advice: tell him to knob off and that hardly anyone watches the programme. Hit him where it hurts Grin

Sparks1 · 22/01/2012 11:50

Who says women gossip...

TheWisdomOfSolomum · 22/01/2012 12:04

WHERE'S MY PM!!!

Grin
solidgoldbrass · 22/01/2012 13:20

Me too, mee tooo! I wanna know.

akaemmafrost · 22/01/2012 15:32

Me too, me too! Pm please Grin

shinyblackgrape · 22/01/2012 15:45

I've had no pm so I therefore have no option but to conclude that you are dating Anthony Worral Thompson and referring to his magnificent victory on Ready Steady Cook!

JustHecate · 22/01/2012 18:27

He is going to continue to dick you around. I think you should just stop responding to him at all.

I'm not ordering you Grin cos it reads a bit like that! Grin it's just my opinion.

JustHecate · 22/01/2012 18:27

oh yes. and pm me too.

That one WAS an order Wink

MuckyCarpet · 22/01/2012 18:35

Shiny was right. Anthony it is. Just can't get enough of the guy Blush

disclaimer
I am joking.

OP posts:
Achica · 22/01/2012 19:46

Maybe he's just a clean freak who doesn't like a mucky carpet Wink????

MuckyCarpet · 22/01/2012 20:11

pmsl! maybe so! lol Grin

OP posts:
SirSugar · 22/01/2012 21:19

I cant understand why you haven't already deleted this idiot, unless you like being used as his entertainment

SnapSnafu · 22/01/2012 21:32

Could someone pm me too, please?

Proudnscary · 22/01/2012 21:47

Oh for God's sake grow up everyone...after you've pm'd me his name...

wannaBe · 22/01/2012 21:52

was he on kim and aggie? hence your username? Grin pm here too please.

I knew someone who won the weakest link.

Tobermory · 22/01/2012 21:58

The last series of messages you described show that he is in fact a twunt of the highest order and you shouldn't waste any more energy on him.

Having said that, I really would like to know what the reality show was. Grin

what was I watching in 2004? Can't remember!

Being v mosey. Sorry.

Tobermory · 22/01/2012 22:01

WannaBe, I wondered about that too. The name came up in a google - am a bit Blush that I googled!

AbbyAbsinthe · 22/01/2012 22:02

Stay bored with him, OP. I'm pretty sure he's a knob.

fishyonadishy · 22/01/2012 22:09

Oh god please PM me too.

fishyonadishy · 22/01/2012 22:10

I really thought it was going to be Geordie ANthony from big brother as he was a right moody get. Disappointed it wasn't BB.

akaemmafrost · 22/01/2012 22:17

I need a PM too please. No one had sent me one Sad.