Close Encounters of The Intimate Kind! Dating thread No:8

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Continued from Makes post and in reply of:

Make just ask him. Why not? And of course you are going to be a bit of a mystery woman, he's only just blooming met you! Send him a message saying if he fancies unravelling a bit of the mystery then to get in touch because you would like to see him again. Be playful, be teasing, be fun, make him want you Make

I'm pleased you are having fun but I do have to ask, is all this dating costing you loads of money?? New outfits etc

Well i spoke to my vanisher earlier, but not messaging each other much now. Have been invited out BUT not sure about going by other person(s), seems a bit quick. Want to really talk first. These people are on POF, but have seen a picture of me. And some live really local, as in ten minutes away local. What if they are a stalker etc? Would rather meet someone up in london or somewhere further from home.

Guys full on at the beginning are to be wary of imo, they are either needy, and like you say seeking some fantastical woman, or are in for the quick kill and move on.
I wasn't keen on last night's date, there was no chemistry on either side. Tapas man has texted, chatty stuff. No mention of another date.

I dont really want to give my phone number out to random strangers. almost put randy then. Ooops. Seriously though do i really want lots of flirty texts coming in from men i dont know? I know i am an outrageoud flirt or at least have been told so! Maybe i need to get myself a duplicate phone for the dating sites...not too sure atm. After two or three messages seems a little soon to be honest, but i am not sure. There is one i would MAYBE consider giving my current number to, but not the others.

just checking in... :) going for drinks tomorrow night with guy from OKC (this was the one 'put-off' from last week..) not particularly excited by the prospect, but one has to get-out-there.

good on you for going snape. You never know, it might be fun. Hows PM? any news?

sponge - its not you. You know this :)

fabby - yep, happens all the time. ALL the time.

I have my date later, i fear he is more excited about it than me. Ive cancelled thursdays.

Weirdly, i was on the pc yesterday, when a date from 2.5 years ago pops up. My first internet date ( i think), and first shag post husband. had a bit of a natter, asked if i was still single, was baffled when i said i was. According to him i am ' hot' and also very very nice, so he cant understand it. I casually reminded him that he had taken 2.5 years to get in contact since that first date ;)
and he seems to think planning a visit to come and see me might be a good idea. He can, in the nicest possible way, fuck off.

yeah, he's quick witted and funny, so will be enjoyable for that alone, even if no actual spark type spark.

yes, heard from PM, he got actually officially sacked on my birthday, so I can grudgingly accept the non-birthday wishes - it's not all about me (but it bloody well should be!) he came for dinner last night. nice to see him, it's comfortable and familiar.

sponge of course it isn't you! and wistful is fine. :) A lot of internet people just simply vanish - they get cold feet or their wives catch them out or whatever.. no point in even thinking about it for too long.

watch date! date! date! date! :) good. hope you have fun. and 2.5 years ago is a chancer!

Hi everyone, just checking in. I'm still hidden on POF so not dating or collecting cock pics or browsing. Concentrating on real life for a bit but might unleash myself again soon, seeing as Spring is around the corner.

I shall be checking in later to see how the recent dates have gone

Have fun!

watch hope tonight goes well! cant believe 2.5 years ago man...the cheek of it

snape glad PM has resurfaced, and good luck for tomorrow. I know what you mean about having to get out there (even when it seems a lot of effort for not much return!)

Am in contact with a few on POF, following the 3 vanishers from last week. One seems normal enough but honestly who knows? He will probably either vanish or be married or both!

Incidentally, I got a couple of messages a few weeks ago from a guy claiming to be a junior dr/SHO. He was a bit young for me, and a bit short, and there was something not quite 100% about him, so I didn't reply. He emailed me again at the weekend, to ask why I hadnt replied and to tell me he wasnt looking for anything serious as he was married etc etc. Despite saying on his profile he was single. I sent him a terse message in response and blocked him. Spidey senses worked well on that one, I knew there was something off about him from the start!

snape - poor pm, that is pretty shitty.

hi time :)

sponge - well done on having some kind of sixth sense! The married man i was speaking to, before i knew he was married... keeps texting me pushing for a date. Ive told him ive got no interest, and just get random texts from him. Im ignoring in the hope he will get bored and go away.

Watch what a twat he is. His type are why I'd never take back a cheater - you'd just never know if they behaved like this pushing and pushing for girls to meet them. He is unbelieveable! Well done ignoring the knobber. I hope he gets bored soon and leaves you alone.

Time I'm still doing the same as you, RL etc... still can't see any end to that in sight yet, good job I'm still not bothered.

I have lost 1 stone and 1lb altogether now. yay me and my grand plan :o

Well done lubey! That's fantastic! I'm back on track and hoping to shift the weight once and for all. I'm quite enjoying the nurturing and looking after of myself

I can't see any end in sight to my self imposed man drought either. I've got far too much to do yet. Get myself a job for a start

snape sorry to hear about PM's job, he is lucky to have a friend like you.

watch have fun tonight!

Well done Lubey on the weight loss

Hope your teacher date goes OK Watch will be interesting to find out what he is like in real life now that your meeting him.

Snape sorry to hear about PM's job

Well I am only just recovering from Saturday night out - note to self eat before yuo drink stupid mounts of wine. Will I ever learn. I have now passed the throwing up in front of new boyfriend test with Mr Yacht. I was mortified, I am hardly ever sick and if I do feel ill I just want to be on my own, not too drunk to move from my heap on the floor. He did say it must be love though as he just felt really helpless and its not put him off me

yay lubey - thats fantastic. Ive lost about 10 lbs now.

I cant be arsed about later. it would be shit of me to cancel again wouldnt it. ( bearing in mind ive cancelled on him twice already)

cancelled the date. appolgised for messing him about. will ignore any texts/ phone calls i may get.

i really cannot be arsed with any of it right now. I dont want to be involved with anyone.

You should go Watch as you don't know how well you will get on with him before you meet, there must be something about him that intrigues you to re-arange the dates?

no, hes just talked/ guilted me into it.
Ive cancelled and ive 6 etxts in the space of a min trying to get me to change my mind.

No point in going then if you've only arranged it out of guilt

We should have a sub group of the thread for the Non daters

zany it really must be love! Mr Yacht sounds like a good one, you might have a keeper there.

I think so Time

Well done Watch with the 10lb loss! And thanks all am v chuffed to be getting somewhere with The Plan

Time :o at the sub-group thread idea. I'd start one myself today if I wasn't actually dead from all the being organised, walking, working and cleaning I've been doing on top of a lack of sleep this weekend. I have never been so knackered in my life, it's all paying off though.

Zany yay for the recovery being underway and Mr yacht passing the 'puking new gf' test.

good idea ' the non daters, dating thread'

Zany that is lovely (not the being sick part obviously) I always think the sick test is a good one

I think you did the right thing cancelling watch, there is no point going just because you feel guilted into it.

I have my second date with the guy I went out with last week (NOT Mr MiceInBed!) on thursday. I am quite excited we have been talking quite a lot on the phone and he seems ever so nice.

lubey that's a good kind of knackered though isn't it? I've been throwing myself into my course so I've spent a lot of time in front of the computer but it's paying off because I'm way ahead with it now. I've got a cleaning day planned for tomorrow though because I've not done much of that this past week but thanks to not having one of those dirty, untidy men around it's not so bad

I have been speaking to someone for about a week, neither of us have asked for each others number, but i am quite keen and he seems to be too. Do i give him my number....the only thing is that i only have one phone atm, so it would be MY number not an internet number ie a phone i have for dating sites? I like him and he seems like a nice fella, but dont they all?

If you feel comfortable ellen then go for it or if you would rather wait a little while then if he is a good guy he won't mind. I have only given my number to one guy and it has lead to some lovely phone calls.