Close Encounters of The Intimate Kind! Dating thread No:8

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Continued from Makes post and in reply of:

Make just ask him. Why not? And of course you are going to be a bit of a mystery woman, he's only just blooming met you! Send him a message saying if he fancies unravelling a bit of the mystery then to get in touch because you would like to see him again. Be playful, be teasing, be fun, make him want you Make

I'm pleased you are having fun but I do have to ask, is all this dating costing you loads of money?? New outfits etc

If someone is going to like or love you they are going to do so for who and what you are, not your possessions or bank balance or job etc etc

Did I hear mention of PM?

Happy Birthday Snape and seeing as it is your birthday I shall let you off with your little slip up, but don't make a habit of it. Have a fag instead

Happy birthday... at least your never be this young again!

A quote from a birthday card....sorry sounded not too great! No offence meant. sorry if it did. I reread it and it sounded really not nice! I meant you will never be as young as you are again! x

Thank you And sorry for negative thoughts, think it's the legacy of my marriage that i'll always doubt myself now, it's taken me a long time to stop believing I am boring, ignorant, stupid, whatever else he told me I was and every now and then the self doubt creeps in again. Thankfully I have some fantastic friends who stuck by me even when I barely spoke to them for years (wasn't allowed to) and they have really helped me

You are a beautifu and attractive woman and a wonderful person, you deserve for someone to love you and to enjoy your company!

I hope you have a lovely time today Freakoid Just think how high your confidence will be when this guy is falling at your feet!

I had a lovely phone call with my Mr Sunday last night

Mr MiceInBed has also been in touch...would I like to go out again? I thought I was quite clear on that front!! I don't know whether to send a nice rejection or just block.

send a nice rejection - just not too nice. :)

Im laughing at the mice thing, thats the most wonderful thing i have heard all day. can you even imagine? what if he rolls on them and squashes them in the night? weird, werid man. Send a nice, but no spark text.

freak - good luck for your date, dont let any self doubt creap in.. and have a lvoely time.

The teacher has gone quiet on me. Which is typical as i had actually arranged a sitter for monday. This is why its bad to arrange sitters, because people are flakey and you look a tit constantly cancelling sitters, and its also really taking the piss to keep asking people, and then cancelling and messing them about.

Good luck today Freak don't forget to update

Watch Not sure about the teacher, you don't seem that excited about meeting him or disappointed that you might not meet him.

DGQ just tell him that seen as you sleep with your dozen cats that you don't think the cat/mice mixture will work

zany - you are right, im neither. He last messaged me at 10:40 last night, saying sorry he hadnt replied to my earlier text ( at 11:32 am) but he had been busy eating dinner. And that was all he said. how strange.
Ive not replied and ive not heard from him today when i would have normally. Im not fussed either way as i had cancelled on fri and had only agreed to meet because he called and talked me into it.
How did sat go with the ex?

Jeez that was a long dinner Watch

Saturday night went fine, I have to admit it was lovely to see him again and to catch up with mutual friends and although I will always have some feelings for him it has definately given me some closure. He has phoned/texted since but I don't want to keep in regulary, frequent contact with him. I texted Mr Yacht on my way home too as I know he was worried about me going.

We are out this Saturday night to meet a big group of friends and Mr Yacht's sister is coming too so I'm really looking forward to it.

Glad it went ok Zany

Date was good, he was really nice and easy to talk to, got on well and had lots in common. No awkward silences. One awkward moment where he asked me about hobbies/interests/clubs etc and I had to say none but he was nice about it. At this point I don't fancy him but he isn't unattractive and has the potential to grow on me if he's as nice as he seems. And the initial phwoar thing has never got me far in the past! He would like to see me again

Sounds promising freakoid I am not a fan of the initial phwoar type either. Much better to have a nice man.

freakoid, glad it went well :) i dont have any hobbies either (aside from shopping, MN-ing and going to the pub none of which can really be classed as hobbies!)

Snapes, happy belated bday for yesterday! did you get any birthday msg from PM in the end? (yes Time I know we are not meant to be discussing him!)

Watch, has the teacher reappeared? If he doesnt and you can't cancel your sitter can you do something else with the free evening, see friends/cinema or something?

I am mid-way through the busiest week, which already feel as though it has been about 3 weeks long! Court with the evil Ex was Monday - anyone on my FB will know we've been adjourned for 3 months to go to mediation. This was just for house although apparently mediation will cover the boys and access arrangements etc -has anyone been to mediation? Have no idea of the format or timescales so any info gratefully accepted!

Then have just spent the last 2 days in Birmingham at a work conference. Lots of networking, presentations etc - I had to present my teams ideas in a workshop today complete with mic and flipcharts, quite enjoyed it actually! Had to set off at 6.45am yesterday, then was up til 3am last night drinking Managed to avoid a hangover but just feel shattered now...

Then tomorrow my manager's manager (who interviewed me for the job I didnt get) is coming to give me feedback. I also have to do a couple of team meetings. Friday we have payday drinks (but only staying for an hour) and Saturday is my friends 40th bday party. So am going to be somewhat busy tis lucky really there is not one man interested in me cos I really dont have the time!

Can I join? I have a very tentative toe back in the dating scene after a break up late last year, so I'm still not really and truly ready.

I'm on POF, and am chatting offline to 2 guys, both seem like really nice guys. I've date no. 1 tomorrow evening. Tapas after work. We seem to have a lot in common, but he is not a texter, so communication is sporadic, and I'm not sure how keen he is really.
Date no. 2 coffee saturday afternoon. This guy seems much more keen, and he makes me laugh a lot.
I don't like being in offline communication with more than one guy, it feels a bit dishonest somehow, but I didn't want to set myself up for disappointment by putting all my eggs in one basket.

of course Pilgrim:)
I cant see that it's dishonest, you're a free agent and you can communicate with as many or as few people as you like!
Treat it as a bit of a fun and keep a few plates spinning, most of the guys are lemons anyway

Thank you, found my ex on a dating site, hence the split. So am well aware of what lemons are out there. Antannae are on alert. Rules so far are photo within first couple of emails, no longer than a week without getting a phone number, and another week to arrange a date.

pictures are vital, ASAP!
(Infact I tend to ignore profiles that dont have any)

My profile didnt ave a picture for about 3 days...mainly cos i had no decent recent pictures of me to upload, was either heavily pregnant ones, or those of me in school uniform, which although i did (in my opinion) look quite attractive, thought i might look lke i was really young! I had (at that time) long slender legs, nice boobs, size 6/8 and a flat belly, with long light brown hair and i WAS pretty. What the fuk happened to me? I am now getting back the jest for life!

Hi pilgrim Good luck out there!

I need advise from you lot...
The guy I had a date with on sunday..I really like him and want to see him again. But, due to dd's dad being away I have no time when I could actually go out on a date for a few weeks at least. Would it be strange if I invited him round to mine for dinner/film? I don't want to give the wrong messages because I don't want to sleep with him yet, but I do want to see him again. Also, dd would be here (but asleep). Now I write it down it does look like a stupid idea...

welcome Pilgrim, hello! not dishonest at all, perfectly reasonable to keep your options open at an early stage. :)

DGQ - personally I wouldn't. difficlt to advise without knowing a little more about DD - how old is DD? any chance of a lunch date when she is at nursery/school? How about arranging to meet for a coffee somewhere that has a (free?) creche - like a shopping centre? not exactly glam/romantic, but better than nowt.

no, haven't heard from PM. worried about him. had lovely dinner with chum from school last night drank FAR too much wine and was all for staying on the bus an extra stop and turning up on his doorstep. managed to resist. making tentative enquiries amongst mutual friends if they have heard from him. I suspect the job news has spiralled him down (long history of deression...) and that he has battened down the hatches. conflicting emotions about this - from 'it was my birthday the sod! rant! rage! to 'he's my friend and in pain'. sigh. doing nothing is a choice too, right?

cancelled tonights date. broke and not all that into it tbh.

...and thank you for birthday wishes here - :)

Belated Birthday wishes Snape. (Close your ears Time but is your PM usually good at remembering birthday dates? if not then that may explain why you've not heard. A very close friend of mine suffers from depression and he tends to batten down the hatch's too when he is low, I never know whether to hound him with texts (which I usually do) so that he knows I care to thinking I should give him some space. Its a difficult one.

DGQ Personally I would wait a couple more dates before you asked him round when your DD is there

yes, usually very good and birthday is splashed all over my fb. If I haven't heard from him by the weekend, I'll maybe pop round to see if he's OK and take biscuits. (clearly biscuits are great for depression - clinically proven...)

depression is difficult, truly - it's the most vicious hidden illness...I'm kind of at the stage of bailing as it does me no good, but I'm not really a quitter. Just need to ensure that I have coping mechanisms etc. (sorry time! )