Close Encounters of The Intimate Kind! Dating thread No:8

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Continued from Makes post and in reply of:

Make just ask him. Why not? And of course you are going to be a bit of a mystery woman, he's only just blooming met you! Send him a message saying if he fancies unravelling a bit of the mystery then to get in touch because you would like to see him again. Be playful, be teasing, be fun, make him want you Make

I'm pleased you are having fun but I do have to ask, is all this dating costing you loads of money?? New outfits etc

Local nunnery.....i once said that and i got replied with "IN THAT SKIRT, you honestly think they'd have you?"

Would you not miss men at all?

I am just back from my date, it was nice! I was very surprised..think I will be seeing him again.

Sponge good on you for blocking/deleting him. Even if is car did break down him not contacting you is not on.

Glad someone has some good news!! Is local as in twenty minutes a bit too local though? He doesnt know exactly where i live, just a rough guideline. Havent given my number out to anyone and dont plan to until i get to know them ALOT more.

I think quite a lot of people have a sim card that they only use to give the number out to internet guys ellen. Good on you for not handing your number out willy nilly though

I learnt that sort of the hard way at 14, someone gave another bloke my number apparently at a party, resulting in asking how old i was which i said i was 16, and started to get rude messages and he wouldnt leave me alone. Maybe i will get another sim then.

I just got a message on okc from someone I have fancied from afar for years he used to come into where I worked and he lives near me so I see him around quite a lot..I don't know whether to reply.

Sounds promising DressingGown. What would be your reasons for not replying?

I dunno really make...I don't think he recognised me so it is maybe a bit wired that I know who he is and he doesn't know who I am. I must really need to change my pictures, they must look nothing like me!

I have replied though, I might as well see if we get on and can let him know that I recognise at some point...

That should say I don't really know make...

Go for it. Why not? Cant do any harm. Maybe he just never had the guts to ask in real life and has seen you on there and thought sod it, its less embarrassing online! Hope it goes well for you! x

Well he messaged back and we are currently discussing board games I know where he works, I would have to avoid it if this all goes tits up.

at least you know in advance that you fancy him...sounds like a good opportunity just landed in your lap DressingownQ

Sponge - so sorry that happened. What an absolute idiot. I have never understood why people stand people up. If you are going to cancel, you just cancel, simple as that. its bloody mean to mess someone around. I hope you are ok.

Dressing gown - that sounds quite promising :)

Ellen - i second all the others advice, but it sounds like you have listened and taken note.

So- ive had to pospone tonights date. So annoying. babysitter fell through. he did offer to come to mine with wine and a film, but was very understanding when i said that i would like to, but would have to say no because of the safety aspect. Hes said hes a teacher, and i know which school he works at, but these are just things he has told me. They could be lies... and being a teacher does not make him automatically a nice person. So, we have re set for next monday, if he doesnt get annoyed with me messing him about. And if he does, well, im not that fussed anyway :)

Ah that is annoying watch...like you say though if he is annoyed by waiting then you are well rid.

I am in two minds about my date today. DD has an awful cold and I feel a bit bad about packing her off to her dads so I can go on a date especially seeing as I did the same yesterday. I know she will be delighted to be with her dad again but I still have the guilt!

Dressing gown, dont feel guilty, I'm sure her dad is perfectly able to care for her (appreciate that irrational and overarching guilt goes with the parental territory though )

Watch is that a first ever meeting with the teacher? if so do you think he ought not to even think you'd be ok to have him come round yours, given that you dont know him from Adam?

(not that I havent done things myself which, in hindsight seem a bit risky & too trusting )

yeah - first meeting, i think he just wants to meet me, rather than anyting else. When i said no, he said he had been being silly and he of course understood and wants me to feel happy and comftable. Hes just text me to see if i fancy meeting him for lunch ( in his town, 40 mins away) tomorrow.
But i cant, ive got things i need to do _ even though its my day off. I cant get a sitter this week, and ive got a busy weekend and its my weekend with DD, so he just has to wait. Just one of those things...

loves - ive done it in the past too, but like you say, its irresponsible behaviour really, so i said no. He offered to email a cop y of his crb and address and car details... lol, but i still said no.

I'm sure you're right Watch, sounds like he just doesnt want to let you slip through his fingers..I guess alot of first meetings just dont happen because schedules dont match, then you loose your nerve, loose interest, meet someone else etc etc.

I absolutely think stick to your guns though, first meeting needs to be a public place where you can make an excuse and leave at any point.
(After that you can invite him home and chain him up in the cellar )

ah, well. i did say to him that if monday goes ok, im free the whole of the following weekend... :)

He sounds quite promising watch

I should be getting ready for my date but I am dragging my feet a bit. I think it is because I had one yesterday too, I am not used having to make an effort two days in a row!

I also haven't heard anything from yesterdays date but I know nothing of the rules of dating so have no idea what that means.

dressing - there dont tend to be any rules really.
Depends how much you kept in contact before... if you were all texty, then id say text. If you liked him alot, id say text and say you had a really nice time.
if you are a bit meh, just wait and see what happens, but pretty much if you havent heard from him within 48 hrs, you arent going to.

Im not sure he sounds promising, its from the IE thing....

We weren't very texty before, I am not a big texter at all. We had a few phone calls and other than that it was all emails, normally once a day or so. We both seemed to be very un-needy which was good. I am a bit meh though, if he wants to see me again then I will go but I also don't really mind if not. I didn't really make my mind up on him yesterday.

After an initial 'interview' if I liked the person I always text quite quickly, say on the way home, to say that I enjoyed meeting them and look forward to getting to know them better, or words to that effect.

Then I think that balls in his court, if he doesnt respond I just leave it

I think that is what I will do in the future loves I am not used to all this internet dating stuff yet. It is a bit like dating without feelings

I didn't like his shoes anyway...

I should add that it usually goes a bit pear shaped further down the line, my FWB's are usually actually AWOB's (acquaintances with occasional benefits ) so I cant claim my strategy is necessarily a good one

Ach, any strategy is better than what I have which is precisely nothing!

I am actually starting to look forward to my afternoon date now because I have realised that the place we are meeting is right next to TKMaxx so I can go shopping. I don't really want a man, I just want shoes.