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Close Encounters of The Intimate Kind! Dating thread No:8

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TimeForSomeAction · 13/01/2012 14:05

Continued from Makes post and in reply of:

Make just ask him. Why not? And of course you are going to be a bit of a mystery woman, he's only just blooming met you! Send him a message saying if he fancies unravelling a bit of the mystery then to get in touch because you would like to see him again. Be playful, be teasing, be fun, make him want you Make Grin

I'm pleased you are having fun but I do have to ask, is all this dating costing you loads of money?? New outfits etc Grin

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StayForNoone · 20/01/2012 17:36
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TimeForMeAndDD · 20/01/2012 17:42

He's a sensitive little soul isn't he stay. Definitely needs rubber gloves for those hands that will be doing dishes! Grin

StayForNoone · 20/01/2012 17:48

He does have soft mitts, I wouldnt want them to get all dried out and cracked. Such a caring person, I am! :)

these should do!

Sparks1 · 20/01/2012 17:53

Oh hardy bloody ha!

StayForNoone · 20/01/2012 17:57

brilliant find time! I have added it to my eBay basket! Grin

TimeForMeAndDD · 20/01/2012 17:58
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JarvisGlasses · 20/01/2012 18:05

Snapes you're right, I AM!

I won't text him tonight.. I won't. I'm going to go out tonight and pretend he doesn't exist and even when I'm drunk, he aint gonna get a text. If he wants me, he can come and get me.

watch, the tongue thing... that's a bit eww isn't it! I'd say you're better off in the owl pj's tonight girl.

Sparks1 · 20/01/2012 18:05

Oh FFS...

Flanelle · 20/01/2012 18:18

WELL. I've been away, because I've been on OKCupid. And ohhh my goodness, I'm chatting with a couple of real treasures! Tra laaa and tee heeee! Amazing how cheering it is talking to confident, repectful, funny men who think you are brill :-D

FabbyChic · 20/01/2012 18:32

Talking to someone on and off for four weeks with no picture. Got on fantastic. This morning he had deleted his profile.

He was married wasn't he and I was his EA online! Bastard

FabbyChic · 20/01/2012 18:33

I might try OK Cupid when I Have five hours to fill in the fuking questions.

Flanelle · 20/01/2012 18:54

Oh well, just do ten every now and again. I haven't done that many. It definitely has a whole different identity ... I like it.

Are there any other truly free ones?

TimeForMeAndDD · 20/01/2012 19:23

I had one like that Fabby, I quite liked him too. He had a picture but kept taking it off or posting a different one. Then he suddenly vanished. I suspect he was married too. Bastard!

lubeybooby · 20/01/2012 19:31

Fabby it's worth doing on okc, because it's interesting to see how your answers compare to someone who is interested in you and if you have wildly opposing views or not.

When I sign up I do my profile and answer 50 or so of the questions then just do some more whenever I'm bored or browsing around the site. I got to 1000 ish last time but that was over the space of 6 months answering them now and then.

TimeForMeAndDD · 20/01/2012 19:34

And if it's someone you really like Fabby you can edit your answer to match his Grin

makeyerowndamndinner · 20/01/2012 19:52

Oh gawd yeah, those questions. They take hours and hours to answer. And a lot of them are stupidly black and white when what you need are a few shades of grey.

Still I did find them helpful. I am fairly left-wing and just wouldn't be compatible with someone who held very right-wing views. I found the questions made it easy to weed out people with whom I would have nothing in common.

ArtyV · 20/01/2012 20:13

Fabbychic, If you are looking for someone 10 years younger than you then you are making it hard on yourself. A late 30's guy is less likely to go for a late 40's mum than someone his own age. You are cornering a small market; hot guy who likes older women!
47 year old men do tend to be fat/bald/old so you have some hard work to find one that isn't and also is actually single lol!
If you change your profile to "looking for an IE", as you said yourself, you will get people looking for a quick fuck, not someone who wants to come round your house at 8 to watch a DVD a kiss and a cuddle, then leave.

Gives a good ego boost to get lots of PM's though lol!

Keep going, put those hours in.

DressingGownQueen · 20/01/2012 22:00

I am really liking okc. It is the only one I am on at the moment. I get a lot of messages from literate, polite men.

I have only filled out about 50 questions, I do a few every so often when I am bored.

I spoke to my Mr Sunday on the phone earlier..he seemed nice and normal. He was chatty, which I liked so we shall see. I am not holding out much hope seeing as it is my first ever internet date.

EllenandBump · 20/01/2012 22:05

I am on OKC too but i am only speaking to one atm. He seems nice enough and needs to see some of london as he has only just moved here.....maybe i could show him some of london. No idea yet when we will meet but he has already said he wants too, i asked though, but he was majorly hinting!

Bunbury · 21/01/2012 01:02

Apologies if this is beyond the remit of this thread as I'm new to it but are there any Mumsnet dating threads or is this indeed one?

watchoutforthatsnail · 21/01/2012 09:03

bunbury - yes, this is the dating thread :)

So, he asked text to ask if it was ok that he called, and then he phoned me. I did speak to him, i was intending to just tell him i wasnt feeling it, but we ended up on the phone for ages, and we do get on on the phone. He asked when we could rearrange for, and ive said monday, but now said tomorrow is better. Coffee, and casual. On my terms. No sex. No talk of sex, and no trying it on. He said thats fine with him.

I supose thats what is meant when tehy say if a man wants to see you, he will make it happen. The man is jumping through hoops. More fool him.

But ive relented on the fact that he is nice to talk to. Maybe the tongue pics were a mistake?

TimeForMeAndDD · 21/01/2012 09:08

Smile Maybe if it had been a casual coffee date in the first place you would have felt more comfortable and able to go through with it? This newly planned date does sound much better. Never mind the tongue pics, maybe that was just him having a bit of fun, he is obviously keen on you so we will give him the benefit of the doubt on this occasion. I can't wait for your update!

watchoutforthatsnail · 21/01/2012 09:18

i think i would have done. the whole dinner thing freaked me out. I felt like i wouildnt be able to get away. I know that goes against what women are suppsed to want, people think being taken out for dinner is a nice thing, and it is, when you know somone. But for a first date its awful. I felt a bit trapped.

He also send one of his eyebrows doing odd things. I think he was trying to be funny, or is just uncomftable in front of the camera, so was doing weird things to try to conceal that fact. He needs some photography tips! :)

TimeForMeAndDD · 21/01/2012 09:24

I would have felt exactly the same watch. The Ex suggested going for a Chinese for our first date but I flatly refused and we went to the pub instead. I remember panicking because I hadn't ever been to a Chinese restaurant before and didn't know what to do Blush plus I didn't want to eat in front of a guy I had only just met. It was all a bit too formal sounding for me. I don't think you can relax and talk the same as you can over coffee or a Vodka.

Yeah, it sounds like his photo's were an attempt at humour. We will soon be finding out anyway! Grin