Close Encounters of The Intimate Kind! Dating thread No:8

[TimeForSomeAction]

Continued from Makes post and in reply of:

Make just ask him. Why not? And of course you are going to be a bit of a mystery woman, he's only just blooming met you! Send him a message saying if he fancies unravelling a bit of the mystery then to get in touch because you would like to see him again. Be playful, be teasing, be fun, make him want you Make

I'm pleased you are having fun but I do have to ask, is all this dating costing you loads of money?? New outfits etc

Thats so sweet to take your daughter out! Maybe my little boy (18months) will buy me my lush! Would be very nice!

Indeed you have time

Not saying what I am doing...it's a secret! lovely idea for v day with L time

For the last few years, even whilst married and in a relationship I have taken my DC's out for Valentines and brought them a present. As you say Time they are he loves of my life

Just got a message from OKC, I know you guys have said to keep my options open, but i would feel slightly guilty! He has already said he isnt talking to anyone else. Stupid i know, but also this new bloke is a little bit forward/desperate by his message: COPY PASTED

hey how you doing?
nice profile and lovely pic love it, would you like to come for dinner or drink or coffee with me plz?
and am also looking for friends too if i am not your type we could become good friends thanks. so plz let me know.x

i dont think my profile pic looks very good, but obviously it cant look sooo bad! Do i need to reply?

I've never been bought anything for Valentines Day. Safe to say this year will be no different I could take the boys out (thats a lovely idea Time and Zany) but tbh they are behaving so badly at present - late for school every day this week they are not entitled to any treats for the foreseeable!

update, I heard from no 2 on my list, we are still on for tomorrow but he can't confirm a time yet as depends what time he finishes work tonight. Which is slightly irritating...have also sent a (v brief and to the point)text to no 1. I know I shouldn't have, but feel better for doing so. Not expecting a reply though :)

Hello all.. I've been told this is a good dating support thread!

I've recently started internet dating so may need some hand holding! I'm 31 and live in London and there seems to be a lot of guys out there which is good! Some slightly odd ones but I can avoid those, haha.

I had a lovely date last Saturday with one guy, lots in common, very cute if a little nervous.

In advance we'd both agreed we weren't looking for anything serious.. I feel now this was a fatal flaw in the plan! We had a nice date, and some lovely kissing and I somehow ended up going back to his for the most amazing sex (why the hell not?).. I mean.. it was just lovely.. he's VERY good in bed and very affectionate and cute.

And he has said he'd love a second date and all, and we're going out next Friday.. but he never contacts me.. he always replies to my texts and will chat on gchat if we're both on and is lovely and complimentary and flirty with me, but he doesn't text me first or anything.. and I'm not plying him with texts before you say anything.. just the odd casual one of an evening.

So you lot need to tell me to keep it reined in and not to obsess about him, he IS busy.. and he doesn't want a serious girlfriend.. but I'm busy too and I don't want a serious boyfriend just yet but... well, you know how it is after you've had an amazing night with someone.. I'M SUCH A PLONKER!

I know I'll probably get told I shouldn't have slept with him on the first night, but god.. it was good. I did TRY and resist.

Sorry, that was long!

Oh it's hardly the crime of the century! welcome! I wouldn't text at all for a bit. See how interested he is. It is very hard not to get a bit loopy after amazing sex, but just play it cool.

One you miss out on is one you'll never catch up on.

Hey poppa how's everything with you?

ive cancelled.

The dinner thing, the IE thing, the fact that he looks like a teacher, the fact that hes 24 and lives at home... yeah. Cant do it. Just cant.

I feel like a cow, but its better to cancel now i think rather than have an awful evening.

You aren't a cow watch. The whole situation wasn't right for you. Next!

absolutely livid

Ex has decided to pick the boys up from school and take them to his for the weekend. Despite the fact they are meant to be with me this weekend. and of course they've gone because they know they are in trouble and banned from Xbox etc here whereas at his they can do what they like, eat what they want, DS1 can drink (don't even get me started on how I feel about that) etc. No idea how I am supposed to enforce any kind of discipline in the circumstances.

watch, I agree, if it doesnt feel right then cancelling was probably for the best.

After the above am not really feeling like bothering with mine tomorrow.

StayForNoone - you're right about not texting.. and I'll try.. I will.

watch, if you're not feeling it now, you won't feel it later believe me.. and still living at home? Not that sexy as a rule is it..

sponhe - how can it do that without you knowing??????? he cant, he cant just do that.

yeah, i just had a hard think on the way home, and i just could... i should have felt excited about meeting him, but all i felt was panick, so i should listen to that.

Im going to do a lubey and time, and give it a rest for a while. I dont think i want any man in my life at alll. not even for sex at the momment.

:( and now hes calling me. and im not answering.

i said i was sorry that i cold no longer make it.

why would you call?

My Ex does it because that's what he's like. we have no court agreement for all this, it's just informal, but even if we did he wouldn't give a shit. he never does.

Because he knows you weren't sure, because he thinks he might be able to talk you around again and because he is keen watch.

I'm good stay. Thanks for asking

hatesponge, my ex and I had/have a pretty good relationship when it came/comes to the kids so there was no going to Dad's to get out of the shit with Mum. It's gone to the next generation now... my grandson came around the other day for a visit and then asked if he could go see one of his mates. I said of course he could, handed him my phone, and said "But how about you ring your Mum first" suspecting there was more to it! He muttered "nah... s'ok". ;-)

but, as you are the resident parent, shouldnt he have to check, at the very least?

If that was my ex doing that to me sponge I would have him in court so fast his feet wouldn't touch the ground. Contact order.

stay - hes just keen because he thinks he might get laid.

Maybe. Probably. There's always the chance he enjoyed chatting to you as well watch.

meh.
i might believe that if it wasnt from the IE thing... and if he hadnt of contacted me under both profles, one of which was pictureless.

also, the dinner thing and the other night on the phoen he said ( as we had been talking about cooking) that maybe he might cook for me one time, if i liked. The sheer horror i felt at that statment was enough to tell me i dont want to date anyone right now.

I thought i did, but i dont.

It's my fault for not taking it all to court 3 years ago. I suppose I hoped he would improve. Plus a bit of me was always slightly concerned a court might give him more time with them at my expense (esp since he spent years telling me what a shit parent I was).