Close Encounters of The Intimate Kind! Dating thread No:8

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Continued from Makes post and in reply of:

Make just ask him. Why not? And of course you are going to be a bit of a mystery woman, he's only just blooming met you! Send him a message saying if he fancies unravelling a bit of the mystery then to get in touch because you would like to see him again. Be playful, be teasing, be fun, make him want you Make

I'm pleased you are having fun but I do have to ask, is all this dating costing you loads of money?? New outfits etc

whats up zany?

i never reply to any that use the ' you looked at my profile, but didnt message, just block and delete :)

The teacher text me this morning. hes keen. I think i might go. Its only dinner, right? Im not doing anything else... and should stop being so lazy.

whens the interview again snape? have you had it? how did it go?

To be honest I'm feeling irritable about everything , probably pmt. Felt annoyed about silly things like not giving me enough room on the sofa but then again I seem to have this battle with my DD every night as she is a bit clingy at the moment. Yes first wobble so I'm now worrying I'm not as keen, I think the possibility of seeing my ex is upsetting me more than I realise.

ah, i hate my personnel space being invaded too.

what did you decide about seeing him? if its making you that upset already, is it worth it?

Watch - yes go!

Zany, irritability will crop up in any relationship I guess at some point. I get crappy pmt but it only lasts a day or so thankfully

I just had a welcome blast from the past - yet another FWB from a couple of years ago randomly got in touch, and oooh.... I really fancy him lots. I might just have to indulge again at some point. I originally met him doing the PoF IE thing in 2009. He is lurvely :o

Oh and cross posted - yes what watch said about the ex stuff. I personally don't think it's worth it and that you fear upsetting him, (the ex) in some way, or just awkwardness from saying no, or something along those lines, rather than actually wanting to see him. Stemming from lingering control of you.

on the subject of 'blast from the past' ..I spotted a profile today that I recognised from a dating site around 7 years ago ( I think we exchanged 1 or 2 messages) he was using the exact same photo..from 7 years ago!
Fraudulent

7 years

I'm guilty of using pics 2 years old, it's also part of the reason why I withdrew completely from the dating sites. I can't get a recent pic that I'm happy with, without using the FGOP method (fat girl overhead pics) and I'm not happy with representing myself looking worse than I actually do either as well as not being happy with using 2 year old pics.

Until I can get a full length profile pic that I'm 100% happy with and is an accurate and true representation of me without funny angles, then I'm not bothering. So it's a good job really that it all ties in nicely with me not wanting to date anyway so I have some time to make this happen with the whole self improvement thing.

On that note - another 3lb off today. That's 11lb gone in just over 2 weeks. Getting there!

waiting for them to get back to me with a mutually convienient SKYPE time. I'm super-busy this week though...

chatting last night to a 23 year old!! hahahahahahaha. perfectly lovely chap, he asked if I minded the age difference, I replied that I found it amusing that that was his area of concern when he lives in...pittsburgh!

still talking to the blair-one. nice, easy chat.

got a message last night from a guy on OKC, with possibly the worst profile I have ever seen - photograph is horizonntal (as in his chin is on the right of the frame, top of head on the left) he's married, aged 28 apparently ('prematurely' grey hair....riiiiight ) he has aspergers, which (bless him) he mentions at least twice and goes on about how his home life is terrible and full of arguments, but he loves his son. If I were feeling charitable I'd reply with some hints and tips, but I really don't want to encourage him at all!

watch go for dinner! go on!!

zany :( sorry you feel a little off-kilter.

lubey yes! enjoy!

Oh hang on 12lb gone even. Am very chuffed. That's two whole newborn babies worth just dropped off. :o

well done Lubey! :) that's brilliant - keep at it :)

I hear you on profile pics Lubey, I've not taken any for about 6 months because it's such a pain getting a good, flattering face and body pic.

This may seem a tad over the top and time consuming but what worked well for me was taking stills from a camcorder.
I used a cheapie camcorder and shot bits of film of myself and went through frame by frame until I found ones I liked.
I tend to take face pics from 'funny' angles because I dont want to be recognised.
I'm also very careful not to have any tattoo's visible (not easy as I'm heavily tattoo'd) and no interior décor.

Do I sound paranoid

oh and congrats on the weight loss...thats alot for 2 weeks, you must be seeing a big difference

lubey - that is fantastic!! well done.

snape - god bless stupid men.

love- yes paranoid :)

im going to go. The slanket will wait for me for a night. I am such a winter hibernator though. I just dont go out when its cold... get a bit of sun, and you cant keep me in. But when its dark and cold i just loose all motivation.

Zany - I know about pmt I get a very extreme form called Premenstrual dysphoric disorder which thankfully is managed by the mini pill. I made the mistake of changing my contraception two months back to a combined hormone form and it was hell! Back on the mini pill now thank god! Anyways, why is the possibility of seeing the ex upsetting you? Because you want to see him and still feel you can't?

I know after my first wobble with S I went into insecure mode and pushed him away. I don't know if that's the same for you but if you are still feeling unhappy about things, you need to talk to mr y some more. Hope things are better for you soon!

Well done Lubey

Loves I know what you mean about finding pix you like, I hate any pictures of myself and I can only think of a handful of pix in my adult life that I actually like. Just not photogenic I guess.

I think I'm a bit worried about seeing my ex incase I'm not over him even though I think I am. Tempted to as I feel I will have a hell of alot of closure if I meet him and feel nothing but friendship. If that makes sense.

Zany - from the sounds of your posts, I don't think you are over him. Sorry if that's a bit forward but if you were, you wouldn't be feeling so much turmoil. In your shoes, I wouldn't be meeting him. Up until this meeting with the ex you seemed all loved up with mr y. Your ex had his chance and you don't need him to give you any sort of closure. Just my thoughts, I hope I have offended in any way!

PMT.. i dont get pmt, am i the only one who doesnt have periods? TMI Iknow, havent for 16months since having my implant put in. I told the bloke i am talking to about my tattoo, about my whole situation and guess what...he is fantastic about it...think he might actually be worth meeting! Not sure atm though. Dont give a toss what my ex thinks but want the decree nisi really before i start properly dating! Cant wait. He gives me butterflies. Looking forward to speaking to him tonight!

I can see why you would want the decree nisi before dating Bump but if its anything like mine it took ages. Let us knwo how you get on after talking to him.

NOt offended in any way Stay, I think you may be right though.

Just had my best email yet - it simply said 'Anal'?

may i suggest you reply with 'castration?'

Thank you everyone it feels very good to be getting somewhere with my grand plan.

Zany I agree with Stay. Hope you're ok lovely

happydirection just very nearly spat my tea out at that! What a considered, thoughtful message. Brilliant :o

Will be going down the divorce route in July this year. Stbxh knows and has already said he has no plans to contest anything so I am hoping it will all be straightforward and not cost me a small fortune I don't have!

Ellen, I would kill for no periods. Unfortunately I can't get on with any contraception but the mini pill due to the Pmdd I am very of you!

EllenandBump

I'm still seperated, five years on and have dated on and off all that time with some relationships, some FWB's, and one serious relationship. Meh, it doesn't matter, not to me and the ex at least and not to anyone I've dated.

We just don't really give a crap and CBA. Have lived apart all that time and I actually forget that I'm not divorced.

When we do actually get around to it it will be as simple as divorce gets due to five years seperation, no kids, and no financial agreement needed. Unless he wins the lottery first

Happydirection

Lubey Nice one on the weight loss - isn't 12 pounds almost a stone?

Zany Nothing wrong with taking a bit of time out to explore how you feel if you want...

I've decided to give online dating a rest for a while. I'm a bit exhausted after my marathon dating session in London and I've got loads of stuff in my everyday life that needs concentrating on. I'm paid up until the 29th on GSM but am half considering deleting my profile anyway. I'm not chatting to anyone at present and because I live so far from London usually, I don't get many e-mails.

The whole process just seems to involve too much disappointment. I'm getting a complex

lovesadirtylie LOVE your reply suggestion there :o