Close Encounters of The Intimate Kind! Dating thread No:8

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Continued from Makes post and in reply of:

Make just ask him. Why not? And of course you are going to be a bit of a mystery woman, he's only just blooming met you! Send him a message saying if he fancies unravelling a bit of the mystery then to get in touch because you would like to see him again. Be playful, be teasing, be fun, make him want you Make

I'm pleased you are having fun but I do have to ask, is all this dating costing you loads of money?? New outfits etc

time - know you do.

im sureim just being silly. he text me this morning to see if i maybe wanted to meet him for lunch today instead.

but i dont.
ive got other things i need to be doing ( obvioiusly mning is one of them)

If he does indeed look like a teacher then I can't imagine him being scruffy enough for you, said in the nicest possible way!

I really can't be bothered either, I should really hide my profile but I think I've become addicted to the block button. Read, block, read, block...

The new format of POF is quite annoying I think. The new message comes in at the bottom so if you are have a long conversation you have to go right to the bottom of the page to read the new message. It is interesting to read the messages from guys who have previously messaged though, now it's in convo style you can read all previous mails and spot the one's who obviously can't remember having contacted you before and send exactly the same message. Copied and pasted perhaps .

A realistic depiction of internet dating

hes not scruffy at all.
not even a little bit.

meh - i suposei dont been do tmake my mind up for a few days.

hedley - lol. thats excellent. and about true :)

that's good. He is very funny, I follow him on twitter, he did a great article on first dates, it was hilarious.

Yes that about sums it up Hedley.

watch I'm potentially seeing them both on Sat - the one with kids for a coffee in the afternoon, the other one for drinks in the evening :)

Am thinking it's less effort to get dressed up for 2 dates on the same day than separate days. I have said to both of them that us going for a drink does not imply it will be going any further. Whether or not they will actually respect that is anyone's guess. But DS1 will be at home on Sat (he's going round to a friends for part of the day but will be in and out) which guarantees I won't be taking anyone back and does mean I don't have to tidy up

Hedley that is fab. "You may as well join. You're doing bog all else about it." I am laughing so hard at that. Yes, that is the dating ad I'd like to see :o

Is an ex cop a bit out of it? He is 21 (i'm 23), and has now gone into ict. We were talking until early hours of the morning and he seems really nice, and i have been completely open with him and he doesnt mind i have a child, or that i was married (seperated not yet divorced...divorcing). He seemed not to mind i have a child and knows i have priorities there. He seems almost too good to be true!

That sounds cool snape...dream job!!

Ooh two dates in one day sponge, that is good going!

I need help...I have been messaging a guy for over a week and he seems pretty normal and nice, always sends long messages that are well thought out, asks lots of questions ect. In his last message he mentioned this place near me that I go to saying if I ever wanted company to let him know...what the hell do I say?! I would like to meet him..I am so crap at all this

Just say yes then!! You know the place so should feel relatively comfortable there. I would message back saying that you would like to meet him there very much for a coffee etc and see where it takes you. What have you got to lose. Think i have a weirdo on mine now. Asked where i live in london, said south east but trying to find somewhere to live and then he says move in with me!! Not mytype a little too hasty me thinks.

DGQ say yes yer daft! Just meet for coffee.

Ellen Bloody hell! Move in? Have you even met him?

That is a classic ellen! I had one say he was taking him self off the site for me. After 3 messages!

Gah! I just don't know if he was saying 'ill keep you company' in a bantery way or a serious way. You are right though, I don't have anything to lose.

Not even met him. Only started messaging me today, a little freaked out tbh. going back to the ex cop to have a chat. Certainly dont plan on meeting him. Seems a bit sort of FULL ON, for my liking. Seemed nice at first...but cant they all!

Ellen what a silly man..and they say women are 'needy'

here's one I threw back earlier:

he sent me a message, I looked at his profile, didnt fancy him so ignored the msg.
he sent a further message as follows:

'Bloody hell lovesadirtylie, you checked me out half an hour ago. Im not that ugly am I. My bodies well proportioned? Im fit and healthy. I have never been short of female attention and I don't live miles away.

Was my profile too prim? I usually play it cool in real life but Have only just started this game, any hints. I won't be offended, well maybe a little if you tell me xxxx off, I won't cry, I promise. Think of it as the need to get feedback when you failed an interview when you know you could do the job. P_'

insecure, whiney and presumptuous
and what am I a free frickin life coach??

Some of the blokes do seem really weird. Now talking to a really nice ex cop and we are getting along really well....eeek!! Just general chat but he seems really nice and open. He says he is new to all this and had messaged someone else, got a repy, but didnt bother replying back cos he would rather talk to me.

I mean honestly, AND he was an arsenal fan! More like arsehole. Is it just me or does it seem like all arsenal fans are p**s or is it my bad experiences of them...4 of them my ex being 1.

And i would have been tempted to reply with "if you get soooo mcuh attention in real life, why are you ona dating site?" No your not my type. Sorry. I have higher standards. Just to get rid of him! Might sound like a complete bitch, but hey if someone upsets me i can be!

lovesadirtylie so annoying isn't it when they do that... for that reason I had my profile set (on pof anyway when I still had it) so they couldn't see I looked. On OKc I was mostly happy with them seeing I looked because they are not as aresy if you don't message them but I had a spare account for checking out usernames posted here.

well I suppose if I was really bored I might reply to wind him up a bit..but I think it's cruel and immoral to tease dumb animals.
As you say Ellen why would a bloke who's never been short of female attention waste his time on a casual dating site (I'm on a rough & ready, down and dirty nsa site ) where the men outnumber the women 8 to 1.

Lubey, yes I get so fed up of this 'you looked at my profile and so it'd be rude not to chat with me' stuff

They only say that cos they know your way out of their league! Block them! Think i have met a really nice one and he's two years younger than me! Maybe divorce isnt so bad....and he knows my whole situation!

Morning everyone

I think alot of guys message you to ask why you haven't replied etc just to try and engage you in conversation, and I usually fell for it.

Saw Mr YAcht last night had had a bit of a wobble. I'm sure we will be fine and its probably a mixture of pmt, ex getting in touch and us calming down a bit and getting to know each other a bit more but I did feel very irritable all night

so true, mostly I am out of their league..not that I'm bragging, the standard of attractiveness for men on dating sites seems to be very low, certainly not representative of the general population

True Zany, and I guess they have to try or they wouldnt get anywhere, why cant they be a bit more realistic tho!

What were you feeling irritable about zany? Is it your first wobble with him?