''I just WISH I could find someone worthy of a proper relationship instead of a long stream of fuckwits" Dating chat #6

[lubeybooby]

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Watch glad you are feeling better! There is no point wasting the mental energy on that one.

I think it's a given that players are fucked up people. And I think that can be part of the attraction. Some women think they can 'fix' them.

Mrscello - i would ignore 100% really. He sounds that type that will just thrive on the drama if you post about him or report him. It's not that I think he should get away with being a twat, just you don't need the hassle.

I think he should be reported though stay if only to save any other women going through what MrsC is going through. Men like that should not be on a dating site.

make - it doesnt surprise me at all that they feel entitled. My ex husband is still like this towards me sometimes, last weekend resulted in a big row with him telling me how vile i was and how i deserved everything he ever did to me. he told me he knows he was wrong but he will never appolgise to me as its what i deserved. nice huh. Hope your eye heals soon... and sorry you got taken in by all the talk too.

time - you have to have a little bit of hope.

Yes watch I do, if only to save me from turning into a bitter and cynical old woman! I am trying to remain hopeful

I don't know how I will react if I find I have been taken in though, the guy might have to fear for his balls life!

lol. as well they should. i let rip at tents pants yesterday.

there is usually an influx of people on dating sites post xmas, news years resolutions/having felt lonely etc.... its a good time to date.

Well let's hope the post Christmas daters are at least half decent ones!! No players. Or combovers.

or gingermullets :)

oh yes, the ginger mullet!

quite awful! lol

Though actually, im remembering a guy i dated in jan, had a good first date ( day time, all cozy country pub, wellies, roaring fire) no snogging, but a hug at the end. Had a second date at a cinema, he went in for a leg grope ( all through the film) we went for a few drinks after, arm round mine etc... all going really well. Then about an hour later he says he needs to go and the dumps me. How weird is that?
i take back what i said, lol

I'm going to go back on GS after christmas. OKcupid is depressing. I have found two blokes worth having a sniff at - two! And I've already been out with one of them only to find he was a gameplaying idiot who didn't look nearly as hot in real life.

The other one seems quite happy to message back and forth indefinitely. Well I'm not having that. His last message to me asked whether I was due an exciting weekend. I replied that actually my weekend was set to be pretty quiet. There's his cue to pull his finger out and ask me out. If he doesn't then I'm going to stop replying to his messages.

GS on the other hand is full of totty - honestly. Loads of really attractive, interesting men on there. Whether they're any nicer or not is another matter however....

thats a big hint :) if he doesnt ask now then he isnt going to.

I would try gs, but i think there are 8 men in my area on it. OKc has about 30. match doesnt have so many either... pof has lots. Depends on where you live i supose ponders moving to london

God I just so can't be arsed still. Think I'm definitely waiting til after Christmas too. Maybe not even then, my brief relationship was enough to convince me that I can't be bothered at the moment and I'm very happy just immersing myself in work and seeing FWB now and then. Good job really because I need to be working loads and saving for those braces for DD

I think I may be a forever single www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2062452/The-Forever-Singles-Theyre-attractive-successful-growing-number-women-say-prefer-independence-romance-Liberating--recipe-loneliness.html

yeah, i read that yesterday.
After another blow today, from a man i have a bit of history with i think im going to cancel next weeks date and stay on my own a little while.

To say im devestated and shocked would be an understatment.
i cant take the lies and games and probably need a little recovery time.

Are you ok watch? Let me know if I can be of any help x

FWIW I don't think it will do you any harm to have some time out, just to enjoy being you

the article seems to be putting a pretty good case that women dont need a man in their lives and are often much better off without one.
However the title is a misnomer, I cant see that the women are choosing independence over romance, I'd say they are choosing independence over the hassles and restrictions of being in a relationship.

As for the 'theory that a Prince Charming is required for a fulfilled life' well there is no prince charming

nothing wrong with a time out. :) I think sometimes this timeof year (and valentines day.. makes people a little...'strange' as regards dating - the idea of a christmas without a significant (or indeed any) other can lower bullcrap filters. snail, you'll be fine. you're resiliant as hell and there's no point in dating if you're just not feeling it.

I have unwittingly piad for another months membership of GSM, I am therefore switching my attentions to it and five a day-ing over there.

Hope you are OK Watch. If your feeling disaloutioned about the whole dating thing then step away for a while if you think it helps but don't blame yourself for their faults

not really. I will be, but its going to take a little more than a takeway and a glass or 3 of wine to bounce back.
One great big mess 2 and a half years in the making.

snape - good plan, and make sure you cancel in time next time :)

Is this the doing of the beautiful one watch?

Get your profile hidden and buy lots of edible goodies take a break until after Christmas. You can come to my 'On Thread New Years Eve Party For Singlies'. It will be a good one, you can turn up wearing your fleecy PJ's and no make up!

fleecy PJs, no make and dancing on the table... ( I might join you!)

snail just feel for you. really (not too early for
under the circumstances..)

The more the merrier snape!

all hidden and deleted.
i cant eat much more food, my jeans are a little tight. lol.

im sure ill be fine, but its best if i stay away from men for a little while, possibly worse than kicking my husband out. ( incidentally my decree nisi is being decalred on the 5th dec - hurrah)

ill be mainlining rum after the child is in bed.
i have swimming lessons to get through as yet.

urgh.

put it this way - one of the things i just found out was that my very good friend/ man i adore/complicated thing.... well, i picked all his furniture for his new flat. he gave me the money in advance, said he had no ineternet. trusted my taste, gave me a list.. and i sorted it all to help him out.
for his flat he was moving into with his girlfriend.

nice.
it woiuld be bad if it was just that, but its not.

im kind of reeling.